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UMMMM, its sounds more like a weather check, than raining on someones happiness.
jmho |
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No such thing as a perfect partner. Actually , I think months of discussing things long distance...little things like daily routines, likes dislikes, and such...gives you a lot better idea of who you are dealing with than meeting someone in person at a bar...and moving in a week later! And if you don't mean move in with them...how will you find out how they are until you do??? YOu will have to talk, right? Can do that long distance. But how many guys are going to actually say that they walk around the house in boxers...scratching their " boys " and then pissing on the toilet seat?? lol But, isn't that life? I think people put too high of expectatons on people. If Peccy knows how to use a fork, showers daily and doesn't drink outta the toilet bowl...I reckin' he's a keeper HA! 
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you know, people thinks being alone is this aweful thing, but when your with someone you trade your freedom for love. I personaly think it's better not to look, why should i hurry something that's bound to happen anyway?
Oh and i agree with you 100%. |
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No such thing as a perfect partner. Actually , I think months of discussing things long distance...little things like daily routines, likes dislikes, and such...gives you a lot better idea of who you are dealing with than meeting someone in person at a bar...and moving in a week later! And if you don't mean move in with them...how will you find out how they are until you do??? YOu will have to talk, right? Can do that long distance. But how many guys are going to actually say that they walk around the house in boxers...scratching their " boys " and then pissing on the toilet seat?? lol They don't HAVE to...we women already KNOW y'all do that! 
Only some of us. LOL One thing my ex really liked about me is that I always put the toilet seat up....and then back down when I am done. 
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You trade your freedom for love????????
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No such thing as a perfect partner. Actually , I think months of discussing things long distance...little things like daily routines, likes dislikes, and such...gives you a lot better idea of who you are dealing with than meeting someone in person at a bar...and moving in a week later! And if you don't mean move in with them...how will you find out how they are until you do??? YOu will have to talk, right? Can do that long distance. But how many guys are going to actually say that they walk around the house in boxers...scratching their " boys " and then pissing on the toilet seat?? lol But, isn't that life? I think people put too high of expectatons on people. If Peccy knows how to use a fork, showers daily and doesn't drink outta the toilet bowl...I reckin' he's a keeper HA!
LMAO. Point taken. And just because I haven't said so before...I wish you two the best of luck. :-) |
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Ya know what , and I THINK I can speak for angel since she is widowed also....there are wayyyy more frickin important things that whether or not he puts the toilet seat up down or puts the cap on the toothpaste. If those things bother people, they perhaps need to rethink priorities. JMHO
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No such thing as a perfect partner. Actually , I think months of discussing things long distance...little things like daily routines, likes dislikes, and such...gives you a lot better idea of who you are dealing with than meeting someone in person at a bar...and moving in a week later! And if you don't mean move in with them...how will you find out how they are until you do??? YOu will have to talk, right? Can do that long distance. I agree, but there are many other places besides bars  I'm in a little town and to some, it's really hard to meet people even if there in a small town. For me it's not. A hello and a little smile can go along ways.
Ok Shadow...tell me how talking to someone in person is any different than talking to someone on phone and web cam for months...can they not lie to you...or put up a false pretense of who they are when you talk to them in person? When you first live with someone, isn't it all new...no matter how you met them? What is the difference...I think I am not understanding you completly. To me it would seem it is the time you spend talking and sharing stuff about yourself...not HOW you do this? |
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Mike, I remember not too too long ago YOU were in this position, and meeting and moving etc. I know you remember what an exciting time this is.
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You trade your freedom for love???????? Sounds to me like this one has definitely not found the right one yet. |
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I agree with you angel. The hours of talking and talking about things from the spiritual, to the mundane make you really get to know a person. When you log 6-8 hours a night for months, it is probably MORE talking and getting to know than you would if you WERE in person. Exactly, which is what Ross and I have done. We have talked and laughed about everything under the sun, email, IM's, and phone, and he is flying up in about 2 weeks. But what really makes it unique, is the fact that our lives, history, families, likes and dislikes, are so much the same it's almost bizzare, and neither one of us is prone to exaggeration or the "infatuation" deal. There are very few times in this life when you meet someone who as soon as you start getting to know them, you feel as if you've known them forever, everything is so easy and comfortable, and just feels right, and if you're lucky enough to find that, then you owe it to yourself and the other person to give it all your attention to make it the best that it can be. Don't get me wrong, of course there is the chance of things crashing, or not being what they seem "online", but there are the ones that are really just meant to be.
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Ya know what , and I THINK I can speak for angel since she is widowed also....there are wayyyy more frickin important things that whether or not he puts the toilet seat up down or puts the cap on the toothpaste. If those things bother people, they perhaps need to rethink priorities. JMHO OOOH Boy you said a MOUTHFUL...If these people ever lost a loved one in such a permanent sudden way...they wouldn't be too concerned with PERFECTION...no one is perfect...when you truly love someone...the petty stuff just isnt that important! |
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Ya know what , and I THINK I can speak for angel since she is widowed also....there are wayyyy more frickin important things that whether or not he puts the toilet seat up down or puts the cap on the toothpaste. If those things bother people, they perhaps need to rethink priorities. JMHO Meh. Some people are extremely anal about neatness. That IS a priority for them. I think there are things that are far more important as well. |
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Indigo!
Congrats and best wishes to you.
I have been doing the same for the last couple of months. And I agree completely with you about the long hours of talking. You REALLY nailed it when you said, of course there is a chance of things crashing...but there is ALWAYS that chance, even in person. |
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I agree with you angel. The hours of talking and talking about things from the spiritual, to the mundane make you really get to know a person. When you log 6-8 hours a night for months, it is probably MORE talking and getting to know than you would if you WERE in person. Exactly, which is what Ross and I have done. We have talked and laughed about everything under the sun, email, IM's, and phone, and he is flying up in about 2 weeks. But what really makes it unique, is the fact that our lives, history, families, likes and dislikes, are so much the same it's almost bizzare, and neither one of us is prone to exaggeration or the "infatuation" deal. There are very few times in this life when you meet someone who as soon as you start getting to know them, you feel as if you've known them forever, everything is so easy and comfortable, and just feels right, and if you're lucky enough to find that, then you owe it to yourself and the other person to give it all your attention to make it the best that it can be. Don't get me wrong, of course there is the chance of things crashing, or not being what they seem "online", but there are the ones that are really just meant to be.
First CONGRATS to you! Secondly...you are so right...it could "CRASH" just as easily if he lived down the street and we ate out once a week at the local diner. Probably quicker! I do know a tremendous amount of what makes Peccy tick...and vice versa already before we even meet. |
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I agree shadow.. You can only get to know someone so much without everyday face to face interaction.
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No such thing as a perfect partner. Actually , I think months of discussing things long distance...little things like daily routines, likes dislikes, and such...gives you a lot better idea of who you are dealing with than meeting someone in person at a bar...and moving in a week later! And if you don't mean move in with them...how will you find out how they are until you do??? YOu will have to talk, right? Can do that long distance. I agree, but there are many other places besides bars I'm in a little town and to some, it's really hard to meet people even if there in a small town. For me it's not. A hello and a little smile can go along ways.
Do you currently live in the same town you grew up in, Shadow? If not, then trust me, it's more difficult to meet someone in that situation because everyone knows everyone, and things that happened when you were a kid can come back to haunt you. |
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You trade your freedom for love???????? not all your freedom, but you have to bend and contort. It's a balance. Like i would really like to go to dinner at a overpriced resturant then a play or worse a ballet. When i would be 100 times happier eating a greasy fast food cheeseburger and having a nightmare on elm street marathon. |
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Sounds like someone had a bad experience....
Not everyone's experiences are the same Mike. You need to keep that in mind before you pee on the daisies. |
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Most often times all relationships needs one main ingredient understanding! Understanding who you are, understanding how to interact with another, understanding the logistics of the human behaviour, and of course with understanding comes maturity!
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