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Well I respect your opinion on this, it is after all an open forum and differing opinions are the norm! It would be very boring if we all thought the same way.
This type of disagreeing is what allows a person to grow and accept that they are wrong or right. So do I get upset when someone tells me that what I am doing is crazy? No, it makes me want to accomplish that goal that much more, as it should everyone. It's human nature. No two people will EVER agree on everything, just as no relationship will ever be perfect. But I truly believe with all my heart somehow I have found the proverbial needle in the haystack. And that's what matters - I believe it -no one else. Peace out bro'! |
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Also...you said "putting all your eggs in one basket" as if you shold not fully give yourself to one person...how would you even expect something to work if you do not committ to it? If you are not willing to give a relationship your all..why bother trying a monogamous relationship? I would say you are still in dating mode. All my eggs (LOVE) goes to ONE man and one man only! Then, if it does not work out...I can say I gave it my all! I don't when it comes to meeting somone off the net. There is not enough time to say yeah or nay. not everyone is the same as ther are on the net and most will agree with this. So why would i committ to somone when we never met? wast of my and ther time when you realy don't know them. This is just my opinion. Even when i moved out here to be with my ex. I didn't give all of who i am because we didn't know each other. Yes i spent months on the net and did the cam thing and all that. But once again. You will never know anyone untill you actually live with them. But you wont know that no matter WHERE you meet them LOL That is all I am trying to get across...plus the fact that people are very very different and what works for some may not work for others...Doesn't matter if I met Peccy online and talked 5 months or met him down street and talked 5 months...you still saying we wont know each other til we live together....Either way...same case HA! Peccy better start packing 
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WEll I for one don't base my love that I give on whether he clears his throat or is GREAT in bed You mean that if YOU met a guy in person that YOU had been writting on here for a year,ok..NOW,,when YOU meet him he like snarles and grawls every five minutes and it just a habit he has but he does it w/o any presents of him doing it..and then you find that he is the ROUGHFEST HARD banging unkind LOVER OU ever could imagine,,,NOW,,,with THIS being what I was suggesting ,,,YOUR going to have the SAME RESPONSE to your first answer? Just keeping it real here,wink...lol Well THAT is not what you said in your first post!  You spoke of clearing his throat and being GREAT in bed. NOW you switched gears on me and speak of him being the "roughest hard banging unkind lover you could ever imagine". TWO different things entirely. 
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Also...you said "putting all your eggs in one basket" as if you shold not fully give yourself to one person...how would you even expect something to work if you do not committ to it? If you are not willing to give a relationship your all..why bother trying a monogamous relationship? I would say you are still in dating mode. All my eggs (LOVE) goes to ONE man and one man only! Then, if it does not work out...I can say I gave it my all! I don't when it comes to meeting somone off the net. There is not enough time to say yeah or nay. not everyone is the same as ther are on the net and most will agree with this. So why would i committ to somone when we never met? wast of my and ther time when you realy don't know them. This is just my opinion. Even when i moved out here to be with my ex. I didn't give all of who i am because we didn't know each other. Yes i spent months on the net and did the cam thing and all that. But once again. You will never know anyone untill you actually live with them. And you know what they say about opinions Mike. Everybodies got em and they all... The thing is, sometimes you don't know them when you live with them either. I believe I've gotten to know the woman who is coming to NY as well as I've known any woman EVER IN MY LIFE (including two live in girlfriends) with the exception of my ex-wife. We've been talking for 7 months. I'd say hundreds possibly thousands of hours spent talking, texting, and writing. BOTTOM LINE, IT IS ALWAYS A GAMBLE WHEN YOU PLACE YOUR HEART IN SOMEONE ELSE'S POSSESSION. Either you are willing to take a leap of faith or not. It sounds to me like you were burned and now shake your head at those willing to do so. Well excuse me while I silently chuckle at you and follow my heart. If it leeads me to grief so be it. At least I'm willing to take the chance. |
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So you moved without "giving your all and knowing each other" ? it'a called taking a chance, no one and ill say again and i don't care if you spent years on the net getting to know them. You don't know till you spend time with them. No i didn't move with out spending time with her, but thats besids the point. I will never give all of me to anyone, unless i know there willing to give and share as i am. never had and never will. |
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Also...you said "putting all your eggs in one basket" as if you shold not fully give yourself to one person...how would you even expect something to work if you do not committ to it? If you are not willing to give a relationship your all..why bother trying a monogamous relationship? I would say you are still in dating mode. All my eggs (LOVE) goes to ONE man and one man only! Then, if it does not work out...I can say I gave it my all! I don't when it comes to meeting somone off the net. There is not enough time to say yeah or nay. not everyone is the same as ther are on the net and most will agree with this. So why would i committ to somone when we never met? wast of my and ther time when you realy don't know them. This is just my opinion. Even when i moved out here to be with my ex. I didn't give all of who i am because we didn't know each other. Yes i spent months on the net and did the cam thing and all that. But once again. You will never know anyone untill you actually live with them. But you wont know that no matter WHERE you meet them LOL That is all I am trying to get across...plus the fact that people are very very different and what works for some may not work for others...Doesn't matter if I met Peccy online and talked 5 months or met him down street and talked 5 months...you still saying we wont know each other til we live together....Either way...same case HA! Peccy better start packing |
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And what guarantee is there by living with someone that you'll know them?
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Well I respect your opinion on this, it is after all an open forum and differing opinions are the norm! It would be very boring if we all thought the same way. This type of disagreeing is what allows a person to grow and accept that they are wrong or right. So do I get upset when someone tells me that what I am doing is crazy? No, it makes me want to accomplish that goal that much more, as it should everyone. It's human nature. No two people will EVER agree on everything, just as no relationship will ever be perfect. But I truly believe with all my heart somehow I have found the proverbial needle in the haystack. And that's what matters - I believe it -no one else. Peace out bro'! Thank you  |
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WEll I for one don't base my love that I give on whether he clears his throat or is GREAT in bed You mean that if YOU met a guy in person that YOU had been writting on here for a year,ok..NOW,,when YOU meet him he like snarles and grawls every five minutes and it just a habit he has but he does it w/o any presents of him doing it..and then you find that he is the ROUGHFEST HARD banging unkind LOVER OU ever could imagine,,,NOW,,,with THIS being what I was suggesting ,,,YOUR going to have the SAME RESPONSE to your first answer? Just keeping it real here,wink...lol Well THAT is not what you said in your first post! You spoke of clearing his throat and being GREAT in bed. NOW you switched gears on me and speak of him being the "roughest hard banging unkind lover you could ever imagine". TWO different things entirely. SEE,,,THIS is also how everyone can READ anothers typed words and NOT really know their REAL thoughts behind their words,, But to ablib on LOVE on this net without ever really meeting ,,,let me say this as at least ONE FACT HERE,,I know a couple of people here who THOUGHT without a doubt that THEY WERE IN LOVE,,,then after they met,,,,SHE DIDN'T WANT HIM NO-MORE!!! It was a very bad situration for him,,as he had flew half way around the world to be with her....NOW that reality is truth and EVERYONE needs to really meet in person because IT DOES CHANGE SOME PEOPLES thoughts of what and HOW they feel,,,after meeting them! THATS my truth to all this,,and I see FACTS more clearly than just guesses...wink.. |
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So you moved without "giving your all and knowing each other" ? it'a called taking a chance, no one and ill say again and i don't care if you spent years on the net getting to know them. You don't know till you spend time with them. No i didn't move with out spending time with her, but thats besids the point. I will never give all of me to anyone, unless i know there willing to give and share as i am. never had and never will. I was just trying to understand Mike. I would never move until and unless I felt he was THE one.
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So you moved without "giving your all and knowing each other" ? Yeah,, I seen that too...No wonder it failed! You got to give it your all... |
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eggs where?
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Also...you said "putting all your eggs in one basket" as if you shold not fully give yourself to one person...how would you even expect something to work if you do not committ to it? If you are not willing to give a relationship your all..why bother trying a monogamous relationship? I would say you are still in dating mode. All my eggs (LOVE) goes to ONE man and one man only! Then, if it does not work out...I can say I gave it my all! I didn't give all of who i am because we didn't know each other. serious as hell when I say this.......... I feel sorry for you!! if your not willing to forgive, and let go of your past.....how do you expect to have a future??? |
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Ok here I go playing devil's advocate but I think it really depends on the people involved. Some people can fall head over heels in love without meeting first, the heart doesn't lie only people lie~ And sometimes you just know it's right just like sometimes you just know it's wrong before you ever even meet face to face. As for putting your eggs all in one basket...Let me ask this...how can you truly say you are interested in someone if you aren't putting the time into getting to know them? And you can't be putting all that much time into it if you are busy spreading yourself around. Clever girl !!! You've said it. People can lie to your face just as they could lie to you on the internet ( your former president is a good example) Instincts and "inner feelings" get over ridden sometimes and most get washed away by the "wave of love" to clearly see what they are looking at or for. As the saying goes " come live with me and come stay with me are two different things" |
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Ok I still say bad in bed vs "roughest hard banging most unkind lover" are two different things. I'd never be with anyone that would hurt me But I do appreciate your thoughts |
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Also...you said "putting all your eggs in one basket" as if you shold not fully give yourself to one person...how would you even expect something to work if you do not committ to it? If you are not willing to give a relationship your all..why bother trying a monogamous relationship? I would say you are still in dating mode. All my eggs (LOVE) goes to ONE man and one man only! Then, if it does not work out...I can say I gave it my all! I don't when it comes to meeting somone off the net. There is not enough time to say yeah or nay. not everyone is the same as ther are on the net and most will agree with this. So why would i committ to somone when we never met? wast of my and ther time when you realy don't know them. This is just my opinion. Even when i moved out here to be with my ex. I didn't give all of who i am because we didn't know each other. Yes i spent months on the net and did the cam thing and all that. But once again. You will never know anyone untill you actually live with them. But you wont know that no matter WHERE you meet them LOL That is all I am trying to get across...plus the fact that people are very very different and what works for some may not work for others...Doesn't matter if I met Peccy online and talked 5 months or met him down street and talked 5 months...you still saying we wont know each other til we live together....Either way...same case HA! Peccy better start packing Don't get me wrong. I'm happy for you two. I really am it's nice to see two people actually doing this. No, you wont untill then and i mean somewaht. living with somone does not account for everything. i'm just saying, you will actually see how the person lives. No, i don't mean wating him on cam taking a **** or anything like that I mean, you will feel his emotions, you will see his actions, everything you may have seen but that much more tents and in your face if you were to say.
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I agree Mike....in person everything will be seen as clearly as it possibly can be.
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If I may ask you this Mike....
Do you feel as though you jumped the gun in moving? I don't recall how long y'all talked etc before meeting or how long you were together before the move came. I just wonder if you have any advice on that part of this.
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Also...you said "putting all your eggs in one basket" as if you shold not fully give yourself to one person...how would you even expect something to work if you do not committ to it? If you are not willing to give a relationship your all..why bother trying a monogamous relationship? I would say you are still in dating mode. All my eggs (LOVE) goes to ONE man and one man only! Then, if it does not work out...I can say I gave it my all! I don't when it comes to meeting somone off the net. There is not enough time to say yeah or nay. not everyone is the same as ther are on the net and most will agree with this. So why would i committ to somone when we never met? wast of my and ther time when you realy don't know them. This is just my opinion. Even when i moved out here to be with my ex. I didn't give all of who i am because we didn't know each other. Yes i spent months on the net and did the cam thing and all that. But once again. You will never know anyone untill you actually live with them. But you wont know that no matter WHERE you meet them LOL That is all I am trying to get across...plus the fact that people are very very different and what works for some may not work for others...Doesn't matter if I met Peccy online and talked 5 months or met him down street and talked 5 months...you still saying we wont know each other til we live together....Either way...same case HA! Peccy better start packing Don't get me wrong. I'm happy for you two. I really am it's nice to see two people actually doing this. No, you wont untill then and i mean somewaht. living with somone does not account for everything. i'm just saying, you will actually see how the person lives. No, i don't mean wating him on cam taking a **** or anything like that I mean, you will feel his emotions, you will see his actions, everything you may have seen but that much more tents and in your face if you were to say.
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It's all about taking chances with relationships...it doesn't matter if it's the guy next door or the guy 2000 miles away. And even if/when you live with someone people grow and change and what works one day may be broken the next. Love is a gamble. Oh you can stack the deck by communicating so you have a better idea of who someone is. But I still say that this requires the commitment of the very least giving that one person your full attention.
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