I think that this post can go both ways, and you are a very intelligent beautiful woman nurse for posting your opinions. How dare a man critisize you for speaking your mind. There are alot of things that men do to scare women off and it applies the other way around also. Kudos to you nurse for bringing this up. You have my support sweetheart.

wow,,,,,another great post,are we all happy now????

I find some of the remarks in here very offensive. It was ok for a guy to post rules for women that scare men? But nell is getting attacked for starting one about how men scare women? Get over yourselves. This is well written, thoughtful, and her HONEST opinion~ Isn't that what the forums are supposed to be used for?


Good job Nell and these are very true...women are not the only ones that try to change people. Guys you do it to. I have had more than one try to change me when it comes to my views about flirting (not mine thiers). But that isn't going to change in me. I don't look at guys that flirt with all and sundry with romantic ideas, never have never will. I have friends that are flirts but that's all they will ever be is friends. Why would I want a guy that gives the best parts of himself to women besides me? This is just MY opinion. Who cares? No one but me. But like Nell I am allowed to post it, as long as I am not attacking anyone....

You said it Nell......good job.
Now if only they would try our way. Love would
be so much easier.

i'll try,,,,,whos up for it

now jo,,,be nice,,it's sunday

I thought I was being nice Its just guys like chuck ......doesn't have a clue.
Nell was right on the money, she was covering our bases not guys.........And she did a super job.
Don't ya think???

I am not into dominating men. I like to be on bottom most of the time.



RAWR!!!!

What is funny is when a (wo)man does none of these things (s)he scares the person away. None of these things are new nor anything more then "living right"... common curtesy, secure in self, love for self, respect for self.

Now chuck is either a troll or took this personal which only exposes the shame of self within his recesses. Nothing is EVER personal it is always their own sh!t

yes dear,,,a job very well done

I Agree, I know that sex is an important part of a relationship, but not all of what should be a healthy relationship. But it is scary how a lot of guys start a conversation with sex. BTW, I think #3 is #1 on my list.

Dear Nurse Nell,

I was wondering when a woman was going to have the cajones to hijack my idea for a thread and write about how men scare women. You didn't manage to faithfully reproduce the idea though. I was writing about all the scarey stuff women put in their profile that turns us off.

In answer to your questions

1) Being indecisive - I've found this is more of a female trait than a male trait. Women can't seem to decide if they're in the relationship or not and how much. It seems to be tougher for them than picking the right outfit. A guy will tell you straight up if he wants you and how much. A woman rarely will.

2) Wanting a good woman - heck, we all want good woman...with a bad girl streak. If we found one, I don't think we'd run off with some other b****h who treats us badly...at least not for long.

3) Calling on time - I always call when I say I will. The problem always seems to be your wacko work schedule or some other problem and you can't talk right now. Let's not even start on the voicemails I leave that you never return.

4) All women are the same? There is a sameness to a lot of the profiles. I would never assume you're anything at all like my ex-wife. If you were I'd run.

5) Flirting with others in your presence. I agree this is really uncool...and guys, if you're going flirt, don't do it when you're with a woman that interests you.

6) Trash talking your ex. This is very uncool. I never trash talk my ex. She's a good person. I just don't want to be married to her. If you trash talk your ex-anything what does that say about you?

7) Not respecting each other's time. I'm totally with you on this one.

8) Trash talking other men. We sorta covered this one with #6. Get over it!

9) Fishing for compliments. If you tell me I'm sexy I want to know how I make you feel that way about me..so I can tell you that I'm flattered...and keep on doing those things that make me supremely sexy in your eyes.

10) Being clingy and possessive. I'll happily share you with the world as long as there are parts of you that are only for me. Deal?

D

This thread AMAZES me!!

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman posting tips for men who DON'T "get it" in a way to be helpful. There are plenty of men out there who aren't mindful of a woman and need to be told we like to be thought about and told so..etc etc. I don't care how OLD some of these men are, they clearly could use some reminders!

GREAT POST Nell!

Of what threats do you speak? There was no bashing in her original post. Only helpful reminders that I would say some men might find helpful.

I bet you are republican too? did you vote for BUSH?

when clinton lied NOBODY died..

are you better off now then you were 8 years ago>

I think not... it's not about me.. it's about
people's attitude about society... it's gone downhill
a lot since the stupid war in iraqi is killing the
young people in this country.

I can hardly wait till that monster in the white house
is out!

What ion

What in the blue hell does THAT have to do with anything in this thread??

Wayyyyyyyyy

Well.......I am here to scare men

I couldn't have said it better
Keep it real and relationships would be so much easier

Women do the same things. This is defently something that both genders do not like.


Sometimes we just want to do our own thing. Usually it's when we are seeing your bad side, and seeing the grass on the other side at the same time. This is usually us struggling on what to accept. (it means we are thinking long term). As for everything else, We probly don't care, and thats why we can't decide on a place to eat, or where to go for vacation.


Usually, the 'good woman' is a self proclaimed title. Nagging is often worse then not laughing at stupid jokes. In other cases, it's because most guy's want to have sex with the b**ch, and probly think they can change her b**chy ways.

The other type of fake 'good woman' is the desperate kind, who will change her life to fit yours. We will take b*tch over that, because b*tch has her own mind. Most men that find 'good women' try to keep them.



I agree with this one. One problem is the 'just because' call. You call to much, your seen as clingy.



I'll agree that not every women is exactly the same. There are alot of similarity's between women and other woman, just as there are between men. Players exist because they learned how to exploit these things to get what they want. Come on, comedians have been making fun of these similaritys for centuries.



As disrespectful as this is, some guys are just charming. There is a fine line here. It's directly porpotional to your girlfriends jelously. Crossing that line is directly porportional to how hypocrytical the girl is, and how much the guy respects his girlfriend.



True, however when we talk about things we liked about them or things we missed, you get jelous. Instead, understand men language, we are saying 'we hope your not like this' and 'we are glad your not like this'. Think of this as us opening up to you and telling you please don't treat me like her. If it goes on, just say you won't treat us like our ex, and most guys will shut up.



The majority of women cut into 'guy time' with the 'just because' call. We also know that the majority of women will talk about their boyfriends when together. If you have a single and unhappy girlfriend, we will have bad things said about us. Infact, most guys know that atleast one of your friends hates us, and atleast one other friend has thought about sleeping with us.



There are two types. Jelously, and justice. Jelously is saying they suck when we do the same thing. Justice is saying they suck because there doing something we would never do. You can tell it's justice when the guy actually becomes notably pissed off.



The majority of women i know don't complament men. Infact, it's almost expected that we complament women every time we go out. we need it just as much as you do. We are just as insecure, we just are taught to hide it better. We fish when we haven't heard it alot, or we don't believe it.



I disagree on this one. Some girls like a certin level of possessiveness. They like it when a guy calls a girl 'his girl', or when they get pissed off at another guy for flirting with his girlfriend. Others don't seem to care. Though i will agree, there is a fine line.