Not to sound like Mr. Moral or whatever but I've seen so many profiles of girls under 21 that have children; some have as many as 3 or 4 with 3 or 4 different fathers!! If you are 19 and have 2 kids with 2 different guys, there is a problem. I know that at that age I was still a kid myself and could never handle a child. It's only been in the last couple years (I'm 29) that I've felt that if I met the right woman I could handle that kind of responsibility. And these girls are single...where are all the fathers??

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I had my daughter when I was 20. I understand what you're saying tho... My parents were both welfare caseworkers for many years. I always heard how a new client came in... 24 years old with 5 kids by 3 different guys. Some of them still getting paternity tests... lil ridiculous

The better question might be where is the birth control?

you can't force birth control, unfortunatly

exactly, ever heard of it? haha

alot of these girls think that having a baby with someone will keep them around. Some cases they just wanna have a baby for that "unconditional love" and some are just plain slutty hoes

There's no self control anymore, sex has become meaningless really, people don't stop to think before they decide to get it on so to speak, and this sort of thing is the result of it.

Doesn't help that the media encourages promiscuity, and as teens/preteens are so impressionable, if they see it's "cool" they are likely to emulate it.

Perfect...
not to mention, where is the love and parental guidance and curfuse to keep these kids involved in enough other interests they don't have time or energy for playing in the hay stack so to speak.

excuse me? my daughter had 2 kids by the time she was 17 with the same father and she 25 now with 3 kids and same father of all 3.. and no there not together anymore infact she filed for divorce and she works 50hours a week works her butt off for her kids..

I work in a pediatricians office. I am appauled at the "babies" coming in for pregnancy tests.. i was none to shocked byt the 15 and 16 year old... but when they are coming in at 10 and 11, I nearly $hit!!

do you want me to give her a medal or something because she didn't have them with 3 different guys? No one said they don't love and work hard for their kids but do you think that at 17 you are mature enough to take care of 2 children?

Totally agree with you there...

Well I do know this through deductive reasoning....They once gave it up like you were a warden in a female prision with a fist full of pardon's....Now they are on the hunt for Mr. right but with...sooo many trophies makes it hard to catch a guy. Here we have the law of supply and demand. They got the kids and don't want no more yet they wan't the man who didn't have the fun making them and hope for honesty,faithfullness and all the qualities that are very hard to find with trophies in tow.

actually, it's a sad situation in my opinion..

As a single mom since 33 yrs old..now 47 with grown kids...I don't understand how our youth provide for their youth....

For me..I knew my relationship/marriage wasn't going to work out.

I did go on to have another child...as I wanted 4 my whole life..I settled for 2..with the same man..I wanted my children to have the same father...

I could have had more with 1 other man...but I chose not...

My parents had 3....my father left...he did not have any more with anyone...of course neither did my mom....

I suppose ..not to offend...I was raised that u have ur cchildren with one person..with no need to have multiple fathers...

my son to this day..almost became a father with the same girl...

both pregnancies didn't work out..

Now at her being 19....my Marine son 20 yrs old and on his way to Iraq and they are engaged to be married..are doing nothing to stop the process of pregnancy...

knowing they are young..my son can provide for a child....he is a very maternal young man...

I also believe they are rushing life..due to fear of if something should happen to him during this war..that he will have a child...carry on with the family name..and give his parents a grandchild...

so I believe in my family situation....he as reasons...

I have asked him to wait..yet..let run it's course in the fashion it may...

But I do know from speaking with him..he follows the same morals....as mine...unlike his father who has 3 sets of children with 3 woman since he was a teen.....that he will only have his children with 1 person....I have great respect for him for following the morals I have set forth for him while raising him..

now for my 19 yr old..kids?????? now....no way.... not now.....whole different personality and wants colllege and a carreer before he ever goes there..

I from my heart..hope our youths with their young children are serviving well...

it's hard enough raising children as adults....

my best to all...

So I understand what you're saying. However I had my first daughter at 19 and my second at 21. The father of the second child is very much around her life as well as my older daughters. I have made some mistakes in my life, but I do feel that my daughters are the best thing that has ever happened to me. They push me to be better in everything I do. I made it back to college because of them. I don't feel that every young mom is ready to make the choice that they made. I mean sure I struggle and it's tough at times, but I am such a better person because of my girls. Though I am the oldest of five so I have always been a little more responsible in taking care of children and laying in the bed that I made. I can't tell you all the reasons young girls are having babies. Like I saw someone else say some feel that if they have the baby the guy will stick around. I've known a girl that even went off her birth control without telling the guy in hopes to secretly get pregnant. I've also known a girl that got pregnant while on birth control. Some have the baby after getting pregnant because they don't believe in other options. Whatever the reason, I think you should keep in mind that not all young mom's are so unresponsible in their decisions. I do see where you are coming from but just so you know there are some of us out there that are responsible enough and for the record it's a very tough decision to make.

to let you know she graduated the day before she had her 2nd child and she graduated 1yr early.. and you dont know my daughter , she very mature for her age many people thought when she was 13, they thought she was 21 or in college someone even thought she was my son mom... as it sounds your putting teen mothers down.. im a former teen mother

Queene123....where were you when 17 y.o. daughter was getting freaky.. I bet she wayyyy more calmed down and careful nowadays.. That's usually when they start to realize how hard it can be all the way around in life

well...that sounded pretty condescending and judgmental to me... hope you feel better about yourself now...thanks for letting us bask in the glory of your perfection....