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| Topic: What is the deal with all the teen moms on here?? | |
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I applaud all young mothers who work so hard to finnish thier education, take care of thier kids & work BUT wouldn't it be better to have an education, financial stabilty & a father to help? I was married at 19, a seperated mother 9 months later & my daughter deserved a better life than what I could give her. She is 26 now, has 2 degrees & is well established in a great carreer. She's just considering marrige & babies now. I am sure she will be a better Mom than I & I am so glad she waited. Sure at times I wished I had been able to go to school and finish it first. Then I remember where my life was before I had my daughters. I was so far from motivated to do any of that stuff. I was going downhill and it was not a good time for me. Having my daughters really turned my life around for the better. And of course I wish I could do more for my girls, but I don't sit and think I'm a bad mom. I mean I can't go and buy them everything they want, but that's not what makes a parent a good one anyway. That's great for your daughter, but I guess not all of us can be so perfect. I'm sure you did a wonderful job raising her, but it's all how you look at it. I feel I'm a wonderful mom and I'm reminded of it every day. Just because circumstances aren't the greatest doesn't mean I would have changed it for the world. They are the reason I got my act together. So I don't care how long it takes me to finish school or whatever else. At least I made it back to school when before my daughters, I wasn't even thinking about it! Glitter, may I ask what is was about my post that you took personally & were offended by? I noticed your only post previous to this thread was in January, so obviously something here really got to you. |
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Thank god I had my one and only at 40............
and it still is tough being a single parent. 
But I would not change it for the world. |
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Ya .. actually I think I STARTED the 'teen moms' club .. I had my first @ 16.
Never ever regret it. Actually I had 4 more later in life so I've gone full spectrum. I think I've made a career out of mothering 
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Who wasn't dumb as a teenager? Seriously. If I knew then what I know now... I'm pretty sure my life would have ended up differently. And I'm also pretty sure a lot of people could say the same. my life is far from perfect.. but these children that the OP seems to be condeming... they are my life.. my breath... the thorn in my side.. that grows every rose that i have... i love them.. and wouldnt trade them for a single prize. man. or money!    
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Not to sound like Mr. Moral or whatever but I've seen so many profiles of girls under 21 that have children; some have as many as 3 or 4 with 3 or 4 different fathers!! If you are 19 and have 2 kids with 2 different guys, there is a problem. I know that at that age I was still a kid myself and could never handle a child. It's only been in the last couple years (I'm 29) that I've felt that if I met the right woman I could handle that kind of responsibility. And these girls are single...where are all the fathers?? |
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I applaud all young mothers who work so hard to finnish thier education, take care of thier kids & work BUT wouldn't it be better to have an education, financial stabilty & a father to help? I was married at 19, a seperated mother 9 months later & my daughter deserved a better life than what I could give her. She is 26 now, has 2 degrees & is well established in a great carreer. She's just considering marrige & babies now. I am sure she will be a better Mom than I & I am so glad she waited. Sure at times I wished I had been able to go to school and finish it first. Then I remember where my life was before I had my daughters. I was so far from motivated to do any of that stuff. I was going downhill and it was not a good time for me. Having my daughters really turned my life around for the better. And of course I wish I could do more for my girls, but I don't sit and think I'm a bad mom. I mean I can't go and buy them everything they want, but that's not what makes a parent a good one anyway. That's great for your daughter, but I guess not all of us can be so perfect. I'm sure you did a wonderful job raising her, but it's all how you look at it. I feel I'm a wonderful mom and I'm reminded of it every day. Just because circumstances aren't the greatest doesn't mean I would have changed it for the world. They are the reason I got my act together. So I don't care how long it takes me to finish school or whatever else. At least I made it back to school when before my daughters, I wasn't even thinking about it! Glitter, may I ask what is was about my post that you took personally & were offended by? I noticed your only post previous to this thread was in January, so obviously something here really got to you. Honestly I really don't do posts. I just saw the topic and read what the original post was so I responded. Really nothing hit me personally. I mean sure kinda, only because I'm a young single mother. But not like I took offense or anything. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. As far as the fact that I have made on post and that was in January, like I said I really just don't look at these post topics often at all. No time to. Just glanced and saw this one that was all. |
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people, often make mistakes. and then the domino effect conmes into play and one mistake can lead to another. kids arent mistakes they are angels. what about the ones that have had 3 abortions before 20? what about you who have no kids? who gets the medal?? and really does it matter at all??? 
perhaps because it limits his dating pool??
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