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people, often make mistakes. and then the domino effect conmes into play and one mistake can lead to another.
kids arent mistakes they are angels. what about the ones that have had 3 abortions before 20? what about you who have no kids? who gets the medal?? and really does it matter at all??? |
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Edited by
sexi_PHAT
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Fri 06/27/08 02:25 PM
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people, often make mistakes. and then the domino effect conmes into play and one mistake can lead to another. kids arent mistakes they are angels. what about the ones that have had 3 abortions before 20? what about you who have no kids? who gets the medal?? and really does it matter at all??? 
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people, often make mistakes. and then the domino effect conmes into play and one mistake can lead to another. kids arent mistakes they are angels. what about the ones that have had 3 abortions before 20? what about you who have no kids? who gets the medal?? and really does it matter at all???
perhaps because it limits his dating pool?? |
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people, often make mistakes. and then the domino effect conmes into play and one mistake can lead to another. kids arent mistakes they are angels. what about the ones that have had 3 abortions before 20? what about you who have no kids? who gets the medal?? and really does it matter at all???
perhaps because it limits his dating pool?? 
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which is a sad thing for him..
in my opinion. 
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I prefer to keep an open mind about (mostly) everything. It works out better for everybody in the long run.
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The better question might be where is the birth control? 
Absolutely !. To have a baby is a huge responsibility . Kids need both parents . Not from a financial situation only but from an emotional and love aspects as well . Nearly.. ..kids having kids is irresponsible behaviour and political correctness is not going to solve it . |
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The better question might be where is the birth control?
Absolutely !. To have a baby is a huge responsibility . Kids need both parents . Not from a financial situation only but from an emotional and love aspects as well . Nearly.. ..kids having kids is irresponsible behaviour and political correctness is not going to solve it . Neither is faux outrage. 
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and also...some men do not see that young girl who looks older than she is and is beautiful...
and walk away.. some people would prefer choosing to state their love and flattery and yanno....what happens next is just a guessing game... 
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The better question might be where is the birth control?
Absolutely !. To have a baby is a huge responsibility . Kids need both parents . Not from a financial situation only but from an emotional and love aspects as well . Nearly.. ..kids having kids is irresponsible behaviour and political correctness is not going to solve it . or is it better that they are raised alone by the stable parent that knows how to show love and respect for them and theirself... 
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in the end...whose to so whose kids are any better off??
the traditional family, single parent family... who knows??? the stepfamily? only time can really tell i grew up in a single parent family..and am a single parent..but i want a stepfamily...lol |
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Edited by
Intrepid00
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Fri 06/27/08 04:02 PM
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people, often make mistakes. and then the domino effect conmes into play and one mistake can lead to another. kids arent mistakes they are angels. what about the ones that have had 3 abortions before 20? what about you who have no kids? who gets the medal?? and really does it matter at all???
perhaps because it limits his dating pool?? |
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intrepid...
the wording of your original post.. makes it seem as tho us single moms *or those of us who were single teen moms* are sub par citizens.. and dont deserve the same opertunities as the rest.. and the opisite is true aucutualy.. i work just as hard at work as anyone on here.. (no better no worse) i have jsut as high morals.. beter than some, worse than others. but im a decent person.. but at the end of the day when the single non parents go home or out to the bar to relax... i go home to what equates to my second job.. i cook, clean.. and ready for the next day 4 children.. there are nannies who make a ton of money to do what is a normal day for me.. ok rant done. didnt mean to make it seem like i was attacking you if i did.. but your original post.. made it seem like you were attacking me.. and all like me.. jmo
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okay...I am going to agree..
teenage pregnancy is out of control. teeny bopper girls do look and try to act like they are 18. peer pressure is horrible. Im not sure what can be done. i know at the first inkling that my daughter is close to having sex..shes getting the depo provera shot. but as should be...medicine is my last resort. other interventions will be tried first. counseling, church activites, teaching her responsability, and above all keeping communication lines open.. 18 is too young to be having babies and thinking about sex and dating in general. heck..im 30 and i cant figure it out. |
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Hm... well this should be a good idea for someone thinking about having sex at a young age: "you shouldn't have sex with someone who you would not share a bank account with."
Surprisingly, I think that nearly half of the teen pregencies may drop if they strictly believed in this saying... But personally, I think that it is the fault of both people involved, not just the mother or the father of the baby. I mean, sometimes it works out if both of them are responsible enough to take care of the baby, but other times the baby is the victim (either one of the parents may not be mature enough for the responsiblity of raising a child). I guess that this is a good saying: you should only have sex when you are ready for a baby. I mean, it should be taught to younger kids because at that age, they have to be more careful. It has become apparent to me that emotional maturity is needed when having sex and these young kids that do have babies are not ready even though they may feel ready. Personally I envy those who are able to take up the responsibility and maturity of being a parent at a young age, but it still saddens me that it happens. As for dating in general at a young age, I'll say that dating is alright for a young couple, but I think that sex should be out of the equation. I mean, when I hear about thirteen year olds going out on dates, I think "that's alright," but having sex at thirteen years old... dang, is their no safety in mind? |
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I applaud all young mothers who work so hard to finnish thier education, take care of thier kids & work BUT wouldn't it be better to have an education, financial stabilty & a father to help? I was married at 19, a seperated mother 9 months later & my daughter deserved a better life than what I could give her. She is 26 now, has 2 degrees & is well established in a great carreer. She's just considering marrige & babies now. I am sure she will be a better Mom than I & I am so glad she waited. Sure at times I wished I had been able to go to school and finish it first. Then I remember where my life was before I had my daughters. I was so far from motivated to do any of that stuff. I was going downhill and it was not a good time for me. Having my daughters really turned my life around for the better. And of course I wish I could do more for my girls, but I don't sit and think I'm a bad mom. I mean I can't go and buy them everything they want, but that's not what makes a parent a good one anyway. That's great for your daughter, but I guess not all of us can be so perfect. I'm sure you did a wonderful job raising her, but it's all how you look at it. I feel I'm a wonderful mom and I'm reminded of it every day. Just because circumstances aren't the greatest doesn't mean I would have changed it for the world. They are the reason I got my act together. So I don't care how long it takes me to finish school or whatever else. At least I made it back to school when before my daughters, I wasn't even thinking about it! |
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Not to sound like Mr. Moral or whatever but I've seen so many profiles of girls under 21 that have children; some have as many as 3 or 4 with 3 or 4 different fathers!! If you are 19 and have 2 kids with 2 different guys, there is a problem. I know that at that age I was still a kid myself and could never handle a child. It's only been in the last couple years (I'm 29) that I've felt that if I met the right woman I could handle that kind of responsibility. And these girls are single...where are all the fathers?? That's what their state of residency is asking too ......... "WHERE'S DAD" 
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The opening post sounded like a opening to a talk show or something. Come on were are the paternity tests?
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So I understand what you're saying. However I had my first daughter at 19 and my second at 21. The father of the second child is very much around her life as well as my older daughters. I have made some mistakes in my life, but I do feel that my daughters are the best thing that has ever happened to me. They push me to be better in everything I do. I made it back to college because of them. I don't feel that every young mom is ready to make the choice that they made. I mean sure I struggle and it's tough at times, but I am such a better person because of my girls. Though I am the oldest of five so I have always been a little more responsible in taking care of children and laying in the bed that I made. I can't tell you all the reasons young girls are having babies. Like I saw someone else say some feel that if they have the baby the guy will stick around. I've known a girl that even went off her birth control without telling the guy in hopes to secretly get pregnant. I've also known a girl that got pregnant while on birth control. Some have the baby after getting pregnant because they don't believe in other options. Whatever the reason, I think you should keep in mind that not all young mom's are so unresponsible in their decisions. I do see where you are coming from but just so you know there are some of us out there that are responsible enough and for the record it's a very tough decision to make.  
Thank you! 
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Wow,
Brave topic my friend, I see where you are coming from too, My cousin had her first kid at age 13 my aunt pretty much raised the thing. I think a LARGE part of why kids(under 18) are having kids is because they don't understand what it really entials..A LOT of kids are completly exempt from any type of responsibility because mommy and daddy have continuesly bailed them out...and they know they will continue to bail them out. However like some of the other former or current teen mothers have mentioned a lot of times the kids do force them to become more mature and to better themselves...it's for that reason that i'm normally attracted more to single moms than single girls my age..just because they have experienced life, and some of them become very strong independt woman...but a lot don't as well. It is a sad fact that parents aren't teaching their children proper moral character and how to respect their body...but what else new?
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