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Topic: What is the deal with all the teen moms on here??
merlin2525 Joined Sun 06/17/07 Posts: 2819	Fri 06/27/08 11:36 AM
Well I do know this through deductive reasoning....They once gave it up like you were a warden in a female prision with a fist full of pardon's....Now they are on the hunt for Mr. right but with...sooo many trophies makes it hard to catch a guy. Here we have the law of supply and demand. They got the kids and don't want no more yet they wan't the man who didn't have the fun making them and hope for honesty,faithfullness and all the qualities that are very hard to find with trophies in tow. I couldn't have said it better

Intrepid00 Joined Tue 01/15/08 Posts: 269	Fri 06/27/08 11:38 AM
excuse me? my daughter had 2 kids by the time she was 17 with the same father and she 25 now with 3 kids and same father of all 3.. and no there not together anymore infact she filed for divorce and she works 50hours a week works her butt off for her kids.. do you want me to give her a medal or something because she didn't have them with 3 different guys? No one said they don't love and work hard for their kids but do you think that at 17 you are mature enough to take care of 2 children? to let you know she graduated the day before she had her 2nd child and she graduated 1yr early.. and you dont know my daughter , she very mature for her age many people thought when she was 13, they thought she was 21 or in college someone even thought she was my son mom... as it sounds your putting teen mothers down.. im a former teen mother Yeah, I see 13 year old girls at the mall that look 20 and I go talk to them and when I find out their age, I run like HELL! You think because she LOOKS OLDER, then it's ok?Like they say,"The apple doesn't fall far from the tree I guess. I'm not putting all teen mothers down. Sometimes there is a legitimate reason, like the one woman who has a son going to Iraq and god forbid might not come back and is engaged, the girl is 19. I really don't understand why though with all the damn sex I've had with all the different girls, at 29, I have 0 kids and there are 16 yr olds with 2 kids by 2 different fathers.

dsfcoex Joined Fri 06/06/08 Posts: 37	Fri 06/27/08 11:38 AM
Not to sound like Mr. Moral or whatever but I've seen so many profiles of girls under 21 that have children; some have as many as 3 or 4 with 3 or 4 different fathers!! If you are 19 and have 2 kids with 2 different guys, there is a problem. I know that at that age I was still a kid myself and could never handle a child. It's only been in the last couple years (I'm 29) that I've felt that if I met the right woman I could handle that kind of responsibility. And these girls are single...where are all the fathers?? well...that sounded pretty condescending and judgmental to me... hope you feel better about yourself now...thanks for letting us bask in the glory of your perfection.... Kinda sucks when we get to Pay but didn't get to Play... Sorry for the realism but how long can the "oop's my bad" excuse continue...Wrap Wrap Wrap it up guy's ..

pjdh1952 Joined Sat 02/09/08 Posts: 1161	Fri 06/27/08 11:39 AM
The biggest problem is that in the younger age bracket mostly.... the women are suckered into sex ... by guys that know how to sweet talk them, and dont give a crap about them. Their only interested in one thing self gratifacation...and who cares if they get pregnant! Wham ... Bam... Thank you! Out the door and on to the next! The women have some blame also...they want sex... but need to start being aware of birth control!

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Fri 06/27/08 11:40 AM
excuse me? my daughter had 2 kids by the time she was 17 with the same father and she 25 now with 3 kids and same father of all 3.. and no there not together anymore infact she filed for divorce and she works 50hours a week works her butt off for her kids.. 2 kids by the time someone is 17 years old is alot of work. And bravo to her for really taking care of them. All to often I see teen mothers that pawn their kids off on anyone that will take them so they can go out and party.

symbelmyne Joined Mon 01/14/08 Posts: 5356	Fri 06/27/08 11:40 AM
The biggest problem is that in the younger age bracket mostly.... the women are suckered into sex ... by guys that know how to sweet talk them, and dont give a crap about them. Their only interested in one thing self gratifacation...and who cares if they get pregnant! Wham ... Bam... Thank you! Out the door and on to the next! The women have some blame also...they want sex... but need to start being aware of birth control! ah, nice to see a insightful man of reason....cheers to you!!

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Fri 06/27/08 11:41 AM
I ran into a girl I went to school with. She is 31 and is on her 2nd, yes SECOND grandchild...

Intrepid00 Joined Tue 01/15/08 Posts: 269	Fri 06/27/08 11:44 AM
Not to sound like Mr. Moral or whatever but I've seen so many profiles of girls under 21 that have children; some have as many as 3 or 4 with 3 or 4 different fathers!! If you are 19 and have 2 kids with 2 different guys, there is a problem. I know that at that age I was still a kid myself and could never handle a child. It's only been in the last couple years (I'm 29) that I've felt that if I met the right woman I could handle that kind of responsibility. And these girls are single...where are all the fathers?? well...that sounded pretty condescending and judgmental to me... hope you feel better about yourself now...thanks for letting us bask in the glory of your perfection.... People like you make me CRAZY ! Where in here does it say that I'm perfect? Did I say that? If I sound condescending and judgemental I'm sorry. I just keep coming across this over and over and I wanted to get other people's opinions on why there is so much of this. Not to make myself feel better. That doesn't even make sense

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Fri 06/27/08 11:44 AM Edited by Jill298 on Fri 06/27/08 11:45 AM
excuse me? my daughter had 2 kids by the time she was 17 with the same father and she 25 now with 3 kids and same father of all 3.. and no there not together anymore infact she filed for divorce and she works 50hours a week works her butt off for her kids.. no offense queen and please don't take this the wrong way... I never try and bash someone else's child. But... as hard working and mature as your daughter seems to be... think of how much more she could have accomplished if she wasn't a teen mom. Tho she loves her kids, it's a struggle. If she had waited to have children until she was in a more stable relationship, maybe she wouldn't have to work 50 hours a week now to support them. All I'm saying is that being a teen mom makes getting thru life so much more difficult...

littleredhen Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 6837	Fri 06/27/08 11:48 AM
I applaud all young mothers who work so hard to finnish thier education, take care of thier kids & work BUT wouldn't it be better to have an education, financial stabilty & a father to help? I was married at 19, a seperated mother 9 months later & my daughter deserved a better life than what I could give her. She is 26 now, has 2 degrees & is well established in a great carreer. She's just considering marrige & babies now. I am sure she will be a better Mom than I & I am so glad she waited.

Intrepid00 Joined Tue 01/15/08 Posts: 269	Fri 06/27/08 11:53 AM
excuse me? my daughter had 2 kids by the time she was 17 with the same father and she 25 now with 3 kids and same father of all 3.. and no there not together anymore infact she filed for divorce and she works 50hours a week works her butt off for her kids.. no offense queen and please don't take this the wrong way... I never try and bash someone else's child. But... as hard working and mature as your daughter seems to be... think of how much more she could have accomplished if she wasn't a teen mom. Tho she loves her kids, it's a struggle. If she had waited to have children until she was in a more stable relationship, maybe she wouldn't have to work 50 hours a week now to support them. All I'm saying is that being a teen mom makes getting thru life so much more difficult... That is actually a really good point

pjdh1952 Joined Sat 02/09/08 Posts: 1161	Fri 06/27/08 12:18 PM
The biggest problem is that in the younger age bracket mostly.... the women are suckered into sex ... by guys that know how to sweet talk them, and dont give a crap about them. Their only interested in one thing self gratifacation...and who cares if they get pregnant! Wham ... Bam... Thank you! Out the door and on to the next! The women have some blame also...they want sex... but need to start being aware of birth control! ah, nice to see a insightful man of reason....cheers to you!! well thank you!

zanne46 Joined Sun 07/01/07 Posts: 5610	Fri 06/27/08 12:46 PM
So I understand what you're saying. However I had my first daughter at 19 and my second at 21. The father of the second child is very much around her life as well as my older daughters. I have made some mistakes in my life, but I do feel that my daughters are the best thing that has ever happened to me. They push me to be better in everything I do. I made it back to college because of them. I don't feel that every young mom is ready to make the choice that they made. I mean sure I struggle and it's tough at times, but I am such a better person because of my girls. Though I am the oldest of five so I have always been a little more responsible in taking care of children and laying in the bed that I made. I can't tell you all the reasons young girls are having babies. Like I saw someone else say some feel that if they have the baby the guy will stick around. I've known a girl that even went off her birth control without telling the guy in hopes to secretly get pregnant. I've also known a girl that got pregnant while on birth control. Some have the baby after getting pregnant because they don't believe in other options. Whatever the reason, I think you should keep in mind that not all young mom's are so unresponsible in their decisions. I do see where you are coming from but just so you know there are some of us out there that are responsible enough and for the record it's a very tough decision to make.

izzie Joined Wed 02/21/07 Posts: 31834	Fri 06/27/08 01:12 PM
well..... here we go... i had my first child when i was 19.. young and stupid.. and my second child at 21.. engaged to what i had thought at the time was "prince charming" and found out was just the toad... i now have 4 children. 2 fathers.. (one the result of rape, but not the one that has a seperate dad..) also one abortion... all of these pregnancies are from various forms of bith controll.. including an IUD... and all the birth control was used "according to instructions" point in this rant... not everything is as it seems... and as for the "where are the fathers" question.. 3 answers.. first dad... havent seen or heard from him since i told him i was preg with my oldest..almost 9 years ago.. and for the other.. (this is the 2answers) first.. dont know dont care.. he beat me.. raped me and was the most horrible person ive ever met.. and second.. every time i file for support or custody he disapears again and i gotta start all over.. again i say.. not everything is as it seems.. sometimes.. just sometimes... the women on here were screwed over in the past so visciously that all they want now is someone to treat them the way they deserve.. and not to be condemed like many in this thread have done... they may not have given away the milk for free..they may have had the milk taken from them.. or swindled away.. and are now trying to fix the cow....

wiley Joined Thu 12/13/07 Posts: 19738	Fri 06/27/08 01:22 PM
Not to sound like Mr. Moral or whatever but I've seen so many profiles of girls under 21 that have children; some have as many as 3 or 4 with 3 or 4 different fathers!! If you are 19 and have 2 kids with 2 different guys, there is a problem. I know that at that age I was still a kid myself and could never handle a child. It's only been in the last couple years (I'm 29) that I've felt that if I met the right woman I could handle that kind of responsibility. And these girls are single...where are all the fathers?? Until you've walked a mile in their shoes who are you to judge? Just saying...

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Fri 06/27/08 02:10 PM
i was 21 with my first child, 23 with second one, 28 with the third one..... i really dont beleive i was too young with my first one maybe a bit old with my last one though lol..

Unique2468 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 964	Fri 06/27/08 02:10 PM
Well I do know this through deductive reasoning....They once gave it up like you were a warden in a female prision with a fist full of pardon's....Now they are on the hunt for Mr. right but with...sooo many trophies makes it hard to catch a guy. Here we have the law of supply and demand. They got the kids and don't want no more yet they wan't the man who didn't have the fun making them and hope for honesty,faithfullness and all the qualities that are very hard to find with trophies in tow. at first glance i would agree to this. I sure didn't get to play as much as others. Then i get to thinking, that most of them didnt really play all that much either. Then i think they made alot of stupid choices and mistakes. And then i think, wow, i've made alot of stupid choices and mistakes. Mine are just as stupid, and make up who i am. If i get into a relastionship with a girl with a kid, sure i have to deal with the consequences of there choices in the past. But ya know what? they have to deal with mine to. Your also basicly saying they don't diserve a good guy, because they have kids. Yet some of these women have high morals, are extreamly faithfull and loyal, loving and good people. They have plenty to offer. I think it's the ultimate in supreme idioticy to assume having a kid at any age suddenly makes you lack morals and values. I can agree that many of them made a stupid choice, but being niave isn't a sin.

wiley Joined Thu 12/13/07 Posts: 19738	Fri 06/27/08 02:12 PM
Who wasn't dumb as a teenager? Seriously. If I knew then what I know now... I'm pretty sure my life would have ended up differently. And I'm also pretty sure a lot of people could say the same.

izzie Joined Wed 02/21/07 Posts: 31834	Fri 06/27/08 02:17 PM
Who wasn't dumb as a teenager? Seriously. If I knew then what I know now... I'm pretty sure my life would have ended up differently. And I'm also pretty sure a lot of people could say the same. at the same time.. i dont know that i would change much. my life is far from perfect.. but these children that the OP seems to be condeming... they are my life.. my breath... the thorn in my side.. that grows every rose that i have... i love them.. and wouldnt trade them for a single prize. man. or money!

sexi_PHAT Joined Fri 02/01/08 Posts: 1301	Fri 06/27/08 02:18 PM
I wasnt a teen mom..i had my first one at 23 but even at that age its still too young...but i try not to judge others on wha they do...if i am not the one raising the kids..i have no say in what they do