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Edited by
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Hey you all, I met a girl online. After our first date she admitted she liked me but confessed she is HIV Positive and has been for 20 years. She thought I would run like many others have. I told her I could deal with it and it has now after 4 weeks turned into a serious relationship. Any thoughts or comments welcomed... Are you for real!!??? That is the most absurd thing ever. Let me guess; you never cover up when having sex? I mean if you are married and have faith that your signifcant other is faithful. Sex with an infected person is safe if you are safe. Get a grip. Knowledge is key. Kat  condoms are only 50 per cent safe Silly one; I am actively involved with hiv and aids work. I help out in my community and join in walks and the such. I know many infected people. I get updates through the cdc and government scientific research. Condoms are safer than that, but there is germacides that are available to those in a relationship with infected persons. Now the condom is only 85% effective, it also lowers the rate of pregnancy and infection by 81%. It is recommended to use only those condoms that are thick and strong or even two at a time. This is not only for hiv but prevention of pregnancy and other std's. There are teenie tiny little moco holes in every condom, thus sperm being thicker rarely gets through the holes, but hiv can. So safe use of condoms should be two. Deep kissing wet and wild should be stopped. Oral sex is not advised with any reason of insecurity for all std's. Oh...and there are only three percent of all condoms made that are the safest. All the rest are unsafe. Kat |
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Looks like we may be living together soon. She has a 9 year old daughter who has also really taken to me. She has never gotten AIDS and is told by doctors she is a miracle for having it for 20 years... this is what im saying, if shes had hiv for 20 years, pretty soon it will develop into aids, and then she will die. shes lucky to have not developed aids in 20 years, so be aware that soon it will be aids. Go ask a doctor in the field. I agree, an opinion is one thing, a level of expertise is another. |
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Best of luck in your relationship, Mark! Life is short! Be happy!
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where i worked they gave hiv patients condoms that were safer. dont know much about that, but thats what they did.
Also here when a hiv patient dies they have to be buried in a body bag, where non hiv patients dont. |
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 hang in there man
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Hey you all, I met a girl online. After our first date she admitted she liked me but confessed she is HIV Positive and has been for 20 years. She thought I would run like many others have. I told her I could deal with it and it has now after 4 weeks turned into a serious relationship. Any thoughts or comments welcomed... Are you for real!!??? That is the most absurd thing ever. Let me guess; you never cover up when having sex? I mean if you are married and have faith that your signifcant other is faithful. Sex with an infected person is safe if you are safe. Get a grip. Knowledge is key. Kat condoms are only 50 per cent safe Silly one; I am actively involved with hiv and aids work. I help out in my community and join in walks and the such. I know many infected people. I get updates through the cdc and government scientific research. Condoms are safer than that, but there is germacides that are available to those in a relationship with infected persons. Now the condom is only 85% effective, it also lowers the rate of pregnancy and infection by 81%. It is recommended to use only those condoms that are thick and strong or even two at a time. This is not only for hiv but prevention of pregnancy and other std's. There are teenie tiny little moco holes in every condom, thus sperm being thicker rarely gets through the holes, but hiv can. So safe use of condoms should be two. Deep kissing wet and wild should be stopped. Oral sex is not advised with any reason of insecurity for all std's. Oh...and there are only three percent of all condoms made that are the safest. All the rest are unsafe. Kat |
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All I'd say is be careful, be wise... and think about whether or not you'd be willing to devote your life to taking care of her when she gets really sick, because she will have bad days, maybe a whole lot of them... and maybe they won't stop. If you can't stick by someone, then you shouldn't lead them on thinking you can. Also think about how you'll handle it if you get infected. Ask yourself if it's worth falling in love with someone you know is sick. Best of luck to you both.
 
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where i worked they gave hiv patients condoms that were safer. dont know much about that, but thats what they did. Also here when a hiv patient dies they have to be buried in a body bag, where non hiv patients dont. Oh my god! and how is that infomation about body bags suppose to be helpful.  to me it reaks of fear weither it is on the part of the doctors or you.Here in Canada that wouldn't be done.Do you not realize how your comment would affect people like myself who have lost someone to AIDS.
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Edited by
scttrbrain
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Sat 06/28/08 08:38 PM
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Hey you all, I met a girl online. After our first date she admitted she liked me but confessed she is HIV Positive and has been for 20 years. She thought I would run like many others have. I told her I could deal with it and it has now after 4 weeks turned into a serious relationship. Any thoughts or comments welcomed... Are you for real!!??? That is the most absurd thing ever. Let me guess; you never cover up when having sex? I mean if you are married and have faith that your signifcant other is faithful. Sex with an infected person is safe if you are safe. Get a grip. Knowledge is key. Kat condoms are only 50 per cent safe Silly one; I am actively involved with hiv and aids work. I help out in my community and join in walks and the such. I know many infected people. I get updates through the cdc and government scientific research. Condoms are safer than that, but there is germacides that are available to those in a relationship with infected persons. Now the condom is only 85% effective, it also lowers the rate of pregnancy and infection by 81%. It is recommended to use only those condoms that are thick and strong or even two at a time. This is not only for hiv but prevention of pregnancy and other std's. There are teenie tiny little moco holes in every condom, thus sperm being thicker rarely gets through the holes, but hiv can. So safe use of condoms should be two. Deep kissing wet and wild should be stopped. Oral sex is not advised with any reason of insecurity for all std's. Oh...and there are only three percent of all condoms made that are the safest. All the rest are unsafe. Kat I said they aren't 100% safe, I said 85%. Now that being said; I bet most here do not cover up when having sex with someone new and don't get tested before getting into a sexual relationship. Just because you have relationship with someone does not mean you are safe at all. The only safe sex is covered up, have test, then wait three more months to be tested again. That is what is recommended. I work in retail. We sell pregnancy tests there. We must sell at least 100 a day. What does that tell you? Most are teenagers and young adults. They buy them over and over again. It scares the hell out of me for them and whomever else they are sleeping with. Kat |
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where i worked they gave hiv patients condoms that were safer. dont know much about that, but thats what they did. Also here when a hiv patient dies they have to be buried in a body bag, where non hiv patients dont. Oh my god! and how is that infomation about body bags suppose to be helpful. to me it reaks of fear weither it is on the part of the doctors or you.Here in Canada that wouldn't be done.Do you not realize how your comment would affect people like myself who have lost someone to AIDS. There is a lot of misinformation on this particular thread, sending you my deepest condolences. |
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There is also a lot of true info on this thread.
Good luck. Kat |
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As to your sticking around, I applaud to you. Serious after only 4 week's? My question on that is; How long have you been single. did you take the time to find yourself,or is this simply a rebound feeling here? as Ledgens of the Hidden Temple Olmec say's "the choice is your's,and your's alone"
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There is also a lot of true info on this thread. Good luck. Kat Kat you are right, there is misinformation and real information here. But for someone that truly doesnt know it may be hard to tell the difference between fact and fiction. jmo |
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Edited by
carolanne58
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Sun 06/29/08 10:24 PM
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Hey you all, I met a girl online. After our first date she admitted she liked me but confessed she is HIV Positive and has been for 20 years. She thought I would run like many others have. I told her I could deal with it and it has now after 4 weeks turned into a serious relationship. Any thoughts or comments welcomed... I do not believe you . I think you made the whole thing up . Things just do not make sense from start to end . Sam ,weither the post is true or not it has drawn alot of comments.I agree with others I think things are moving pretty fast if you are willing to move in after such a short time unless she needs your help. Here in Ontario most large cities have support groups for family and friends of HIV positive people.Hopefully there is something availabe to you. |
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Wish you the best in whatever you choose to do, and how you handle what you want obviously.
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I wonder how Princess Diana would feel about some of the stuff that's written in this thread. Especially about the body bags.
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I wonder how Princess Diana would feel about some of the stuff that's written in this thread. Especially about the body bags. i posted that because someone said hiv still lives in the body when your dead. it was in resonce to another post. ive worked with hiv patients myself, so whats the difference with princess diana, yes she held babies with hiv?? and?? |
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Princess Diana did more than hold babies with HIV,she came and visited Casey House here in Toronto in 1991. A hospice for AIDS patients and even sat beside them on their bed. I know this has nothing to do with this thread but I just thought I'd tell you.
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Princess Diana did more than hold babies with HIV,she came and visited Casey House here in Toronto in 1991. A hospice for AIDS patients and even sat beside them on their bed. I know this has nothing to do with this thread but I just thought I'd tell you. ive sat beside hiv patients in their bed.
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Princess Diana did more than hold babies with HIV,she came and visited Casey House here in Toronto in 1991. A hospice for AIDS patients and even sat beside them on their bed. I know this has nothing to do with this thread but I just thought I'd tell you. Thanks for sharing this
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