Silly one; I am actively involved with hiv and aids work. I help out in my community and join in walks and the such. I know many infected people. I get updates through the cdc and government scientific research. Condoms are safer than that, but there is germacides that are available to those in a relationship with infected persons.
Now the condom is only 85% effective, it also lowers the rate of pregnancy and infection by 81%.
It is recommended to use only those condoms that are thick and strong or even two at a time. This is not only for hiv but prevention of pregnancy and other std's. There are teenie tiny little moco holes in every condom, thus sperm being thicker rarely gets through the holes, but hiv can. So safe use of condoms should be two. Deep kissing wet and wild should be stopped. Oral sex is not advised with any reason of insecurity for all std's.

Oh...and there are only three percent of all condoms made that are the safest. All the rest are unsafe.

Kat

I agree, an opinion is one thing, a level of expertise is another.

Best of luck in your relationship, Mark! Life is short! Be happy!

where i worked they gave hiv patients condoms that were safer. dont know much about that, but thats what they did.

Also here when a hiv patient dies they have to be buried in a body bag, where non hiv patients dont.

hang in there man

ya , but condoms STILL DONT stop aids from spreading 100 per cent and thats a provin fact .....

All I'd say is be careful, be wise... and think about whether or not you'd be willing to devote your life to taking care of her when she gets really sick, because she will have bad days, maybe a whole lot of them... and maybe they won't stop. If you can't stick by someone, then you shouldn't lead them on thinking you can. Also think about how you'll handle it if you get infected. Ask yourself if it's worth falling in love with someone you know is sick. Best of luck to you both.

Oh my god! and how is that infomation about body bags suppose to be helpful. to me it reaks of fear weither it is on the part of the doctors or you.Here in Canada that wouldn't be done.Do you not realize how your comment would affect people like myself who have lost someone to AIDS.

I said they aren't 100% safe, I said 85%. Now that being said; I bet most here do not cover up when having sex with someone new and don't get tested before getting into a sexual relationship. Just because you have relationship with someone does not mean you are safe at all. The only safe sex is covered up, have test, then wait three more months to be tested again. That is what is recommended.

I work in retail. We sell pregnancy tests there. We must sell at least 100 a day. What does that tell you? Most are teenagers and young adults. They buy them over and over again. It scares the hell out of me for them and whomever else they are sleeping with.
Kat

There is a lot of misinformation on this particular thread, sending you my deepest condolences.

There is also a lot of true info on this thread.

Good luck.
Kat

As to your sticking around, I applaud to you. Serious after only 4 week's? My question on that is; How long have you been single. did you take the time to find yourself,or is this simply a rebound feeling here? as Ledgens of the Hidden Temple Olmec say's "the choice is your's,and your's alone"

Kat you are right, there is misinformation and real information here.

But for someone that truly doesnt know it may be hard to tell the difference between fact and fiction.

jmo

Sam ,weither the post is true or not it has drawn alot of comments.I agree with others I think things are moving pretty fast if you are willing to move in after such a short time unless she needs your help. Here in Ontario most large cities have support groups for family and friends of HIV positive people.Hopefully there is something availabe to you.

Wish you the best in whatever you choose to do, and how you handle what you want obviously.

I wonder how Princess Diana would feel about some of the stuff that's written in this thread. Especially about the body bags.

i posted that because someone said hiv still lives in the body when your dead. it was in resonce to another post. ive worked with hiv patients myself, so whats the difference with princess diana, yes she held babies with hiv?? and??

Princess Diana did more than hold babies with HIV,she came and visited Casey House here in Toronto in 1991. A hospice for AIDS patients and even sat beside them on their bed. I know this has nothing to do with this thread but I just thought I'd tell you.

ive sat beside hiv patients in their bed.

Thanks for sharing this