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hmmmm waste of time? lets have your opinion. I met a woman who had 4 kids, I had 2. She was divorced and her ex husband was in prison for molesting his daughter from his first marriage and it just came out (thats why she divorced him) I fell in love, she didnt like me being gone all the time, I worked in a different state and was home on weekends, so I dropped my $150k a year contract and got some smaller ones close to home. Got married, built a house big enough for all of us. After 5 yrs of marriage on fathers day of last year she informs me that she is leaving and getting back together with her ex. Now I have a 6 bedroom home and only have my kids on weekends and during summer vacation. So whats your opinion, was it a waste of my time? That freakin sucks but since you are in the day and age of so many single mothers out there you might want to keep that house as an option........and what I think you should be happy about is the fact that you didnt marry her and then she would have gotten you for much more than your heart.........so i would say good riddance......... |
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yes i do. i thought he loved me. i did more for him than ive done for anyone in my whole life, apart from my neice. i was took ill, with a addisons crisis, and he never bothered to come to the hospital to see me, thats when i realised he didnt give a **** about me, so i told him to **** off. i never even shred one tear over him, doing that to me. Maybe you should. Sometimes a good cry is therapeutic. I know I was good to my ex bf...damn good. His problem was self centeredness and not grown up yet. But, I'm glad I realized it pretty fast and have been able to move on. i never needed to, and i still dont. 
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yes i do. i thought he loved me. i did more for him than ive done for anyone in my whole life, apart from my neice. i was took ill, with a addisons crisis, and he never bothered to come to the hospital to see me, thats when i realised he didnt give a **** about me, so i told him to **** off. i never even shred one tear over him, doing that to me. Maybe you should. Sometimes a good cry is therapeutic. I know I was good to my ex bf...damn good. His problem was self centeredness and not grown up yet. But, I'm glad I realized it pretty fast and have been able to move on. i never needed to, and i still dont.
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Taught me how selfish an individual can be, how self centered, how manipulative, how shallow, how cruel. My ex did this too, but it WONT happen again!!! |
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Speaking of Ex's...do you feel that they just wasted some of your precious time here on earth, or do you just chalk it up to learning experience? I sometimes feel my Ex-boyfriend just wasted my time. What it taught me, I didn't really want to learn 
I think of it like this, whenever I was with someone for a while and it did not work out, we both had a lesson or lessons to learn from the experience. So I always look for the lesson, sometimes it was a boundary I needed to instill in myself sometimes it was a facet of my personality I needed to discover. I have not found one yet that did not further my learning of myself and what I am about. I always hope they got something out of it too but I cannot be sure. I believe all life experiences are a learning lesson offered us. If we do not learn the lesson we are doomed to repeat the mistakes so learning is imperative. Therefore, nothing is a waste of time. |
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soemof my exs yes they wasted my time...except for daugthers father...he gave me one good thing
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did it seem like a waste of time at the time? usually not. so we live and learn and hope that life throws good karma our way next time.
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i got the best thing outta my ex but he still waisted 10 yrs of my life..
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I learned way too much about love and life from each of my exes, so, no. When I have felt that way in the past, I just remembered that at my age the chances were pretty good that that love of my life was also in a relationship during those times too...so who knows who I'd have been with between them. I was prolly better off with the exes I had...they were wonderful men after all.
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Nope, I don't consider any of my exes to have been a waste of time, because I remember why I liked/loved them in the first place.
There's no room for sorrow or regrets in my life |
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Speaking of Ex's...do you feel that they just wasted some of your precious time here on earth, or do you just chalk it up to learning experience? I sometimes feel my Ex-boyfriend just wasted my time. What it taught me, I didn't really want to learn
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Maybe he did but I feel like it is better to have someone else wasting your time, other than yourself. I mean, I am always wasting my own time.
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Taught me how selfish an individual can be, how self centered, how manipulative, how shallow, how cruel. I have tortured myself this way too. But I also firmly believe that things happen for a reason.
I am glad for the experience - it taught me to be strong in ways I didnt realize I was weak. Even though, sometimes, I am sorry for the cynicism I feel in myself, I know that happiness will eventually heal it. Now ... where did I leave that Mantra book ... Ah yes! Here it is ... Be Happy! Be Happy! Be Happy! |
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hmmmm waste of time? lets have your opinion. I met a woman who had 4 kids, I had 2. She was divorced and her ex husband was in prison for molesting his daughter from his first marriage and it just came out (thats why she divorced him) I fell in love, she didnt like me being gone all the time, I worked in a different state and was home on weekends, so I dropped my $150k a year contract and got some smaller ones close to home. Got married, built a house big enough for all of us. After 5 yrs of marriage on fathers day of last year she informs me that she is leaving and getting back together with her ex. Now I have a 6 bedroom home and only have my kids on weekends and during summer vacation. So whats your opinion, was it a waste of my time? 
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Nope, I don't consider any of my exes to have been a waste of time, because I remember why I liked/loved them in the first place. There's no room for sorrow or regrets in my life here's to that! |
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I think it was a learning experience for me, as far as learning what I wanted in a person and what I didn't want.
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Edited by
Kleisto
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Mon 06/23/08 04:26 PM
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Double post sorry.
To finish the thought though, it helps to go through those sort of things, so you can make better choices later on. |
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I was married 27 years...in that time it taught me the only one I can trust and dependend upon is myself and what not to be. Taught me what it feels like to be used and taken advantage of while being lied to. It also taught me to be a survivor.
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hmmmm waste of time? lets have your opinion. I met a woman who had 4 kids, I had 2. She was divorced and her ex husband was in prison for molesting his daughter from his first marriage and it just came out (thats why she divorced him) I fell in love, she didnt like me being gone all the time, I worked in a different state and was home on weekends, so I dropped my $150k a year contract and got some smaller ones close to home. Got married, built a house big enough for all of us. After 5 yrs of marriage on fathers day of last year she informs me that she is leaving and getting back together with her ex. Now I have a 6 bedroom home and only have my kids on weekends and during summer vacation. So whats your opinion, was it a waste of my time? That freakin sucks but since you are in the day and age of so many single mothers out there you might want to keep that house as an option........and what I think you should be happy about is the fact that you didnt marry her and then she would have gotten you for much more than your heart.........so i would say good riddance......... Ummmmm I did marry her, was married for 5 yrs to her. Married June 1st 2002 Divorced Oct 17 2007 |
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Speaking of Ex's...do you feel that they just wasted some of your precious time here on earth, or do you just chalk it up to learning experience? I sometimes feel my Ex-boyfriend just wasted my time. What it taught me, I didn't really want to learn
if somebody wasted your time it was yourself because you were the one who chose to have this individual as your boyfriend. we can't go around blaming others for our own mistakes. that is for children. |
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