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Topic: Do you feel your Ex just wasted your time?
DREAMZ Joined Sat 05/31/08 Posts: 1775	Mon 06/23/08 06:56 AM
Speaking of Ex's...do you feel that they just wasted some of your precious time here on earth, or do you just chalk it up to learning experience? I sometimes feel my Ex-boyfriend just wasted my time. What it taught me, I didn't really want to learn i believe every expirience,good or bad, is a learning one......for instance,you may hate your ex.....but you will make sure not to settle for those qualities again!

Mikey117 Joined Mon 11/20/06 Posts: 23736	Mon 06/23/08 06:59 AM
Not at all for me!! She gave me 3 great kids and taught me MANY life lessons, our divorce wasnt fun at all but all in all Im very glad I went through 12 years of my life with her!!!

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Mon 06/23/08 07:03 AM
hmmmm waste of time? lets have your opinion. I met a woman who had 4 kids, I had 2. She was divorced and her ex husband was in prison for molesting his daughter from his first marriage and it just came out (thats why she divorced him) I fell in love, she didnt like me being gone all the time, I worked in a different state and was home on weekends, so I dropped my $150k a year contract and got some smaller ones close to home. Got married, built a house big enough for all of us. After 5 yrs of marriage on fathers day of last year she informs me that she is leaving and getting back together with her ex. Now I have a 6 bedroom home and only have my kids on weekends and during summer vacation. So whats your opinion, was it a waste of my time? Sure sounds like it

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Mon 06/23/08 07:06 AM
I have to admit I carry baggage from my last relationship. It gave me trust issues on many different levels. I have dealt with it but I will always remember. So it has made me very watchful of what I deem suspicious behavior in people who are interested in me. Will I ever be able to totally let it go? I think so if I enter a relationship where I finally feel secure. My problem is letting someone close enough to try and make me feel that way.... This is what I am speaking of. The effects bad experiences have on your next realtionship. Sometimes the effects can be negative. No matter how hard we try, it is really hard not to carry that bagage on into the next relationship.

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Mon 06/23/08 07:09 AM
hmmmm waste of time? lets have your opinion. I met a woman who had 4 kids, I had 2. She was divorced and her ex husband was in prison for molesting his daughter from his first marriage and it just came out (thats why she divorced him) I fell in love, she didnt like me being gone all the time, I worked in a different state and was home on weekends, so I dropped my $150k a year contract and got some smaller ones close to home. Got married, built a house big enough for all of us. After 5 yrs of marriage on fathers day of last year she informs me that she is leaving and getting back together with her ex. Now I have a 6 bedroom home and only have my kids on weekends and during summer vacation. So whats your opinion, was it a waste of my time? So am I to understand that they are in her care during the week? Which means in the company of a child molestor?

Errol Joined Thu 06/19/08 Posts: 3	Mon 06/23/08 02:24 PM
hmmmm waste of time? lets have your opinion. I met a woman who had 4 kids, I had 2. She was divorced and her ex husband was in prison for molesting his daughter from his first marriage and it just came out (thats why she divorced him) I fell in love, she didnt like me being gone all the time, I worked in a different state and was home on weekends, so I dropped my $150k a year contract and got some smaller ones close to home. Got married, built a house big enough for all of us. After 5 yrs of marriage on fathers day of last year she informs me that she is leaving and getting back together with her ex. Now I have a 6 bedroom home and only have my kids on weekends and during summer vacation. So whats your opinion, was it a waste of my time? So am I to understand that they are in her care during the week? Which means in the company of a child molestor? Absolutely not, I guess I should of mentioned that she was my second wife, my 2 kids are from my first marriage.

DestinysDream Joined Wed 02/20/08 Posts: 4805	Mon 06/23/08 02:25 PM
waste of time. Period.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Mon 06/23/08 02:25 PM
Speaking of Ex's...do you feel that they just wasted some of your precious time here on earth, or do you just chalk it up to learning experience? I sometimes feel my Ex-boyfriend just wasted my time. What it taught me, I didn't really want to learn I think its a mutual waste......why blame the ex for everything??? Was I not there too???

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Mon 06/23/08 02:26 PM
Can everyone just let their exes go and start fresh???

DestinysDream Joined Wed 02/20/08 Posts: 4805	Mon 06/23/08 02:26 PM
Speaking of Ex's...do you feel that they just wasted some of your precious time here on earth, or do you just chalk it up to learning experience? I sometimes feel my Ex-boyfriend just wasted my time. What it taught me, I didn't really want to learn I think its a mutual waste......why blame the ex for everything??? Was I not there too??? Thats very true Gypsy. I wish she had the time back too.

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Mon 06/23/08 02:27 PM
Speaking of Ex's...do you feel that they just wasted some of your precious time here on earth, or do you just chalk it up to learning experience? I sometimes feel my Ex-boyfriend just wasted my time. What it taught me, I didn't really want to learn I think its a mutual waste......why blame the ex for everything??? Was I not there too??? Sometimes things can be pretty onesided. Nothing is 100%. But, With my EX BF...yeah, I can blame him.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Mon 06/23/08 02:28 PM
Im done blaming everyone.....blame..now THAT is a waste of time!!!!

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 06/23/08 02:28 PM
yes i do. i thought he loved me. i did more for him than ive done for anyone in my whole life, apart from my neice. i was took ill, with a addisons crisis, and he never bothered to come to the hospital to see me, thats when i realised he didnt give a ** about me, so i told him to ** off.

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Mon 06/23/08 02:29 PM
Can everyone just let their exes go and start fresh??? That is what this thread is about. Sometimes even when you let the ex go...the damage is there and can be taken on into another relationship if you aren't careful.

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Mon 06/23/08 02:30 PM
yes i do. i thought he loved me. i did more for him than ive done for anyone in my whole life, apart from my neice. i was took ill, with a addisons crisis, and he never bothered to come to the hospital to see me, thats when i realised he didnt give a ** about me, so i told him to ** off. And you have every right to! Good for you!

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76392	Mon 06/23/08 02:30 PM
Waste of time naw first 9 years were pretty good and I did have my two kids from him which I would never regret. So not wasted

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 06/23/08 02:30 PM
yes i do. i thought he loved me. i did more for him than ive done for anyone in my whole life, apart from my neice. i was took ill, with a addisons crisis, and he never bothered to come to the hospital to see me, thats when i realised he didnt give a ** about me, so i told him to ** off. i never even shred one tear over him, doing that to me.

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Mon 06/23/08 02:31 PM Edited by lilangel2 on Mon 06/23/08 02:31 PM
Im done blaming everyone.....blame..now THAT is a waste of time!!!! No it isn't...BLAME BLAME BLAME...Seee that didn't take me no time at all

Tanzkity Joined Wed 04/30/08 Posts: 3743	Mon 06/23/08 02:33 PM
Actually without my ex I wouldnt be with my bf now........he actually showed me that dating online wasnt bad and that you can actually find someone that you will be with for the rest of your life................so for him

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Mon 06/23/08 02:33 PM
yes i do. i thought he loved me. i did more for him than ive done for anyone in my whole life, apart from my neice. i was took ill, with a addisons crisis, and he never bothered to come to the hospital to see me, thats when i realised he didnt give a ** about me, so i told him to ** off. i never even shred one tear over him, doing that to me. Maybe you should. Sometimes a good cry is therapeutic. I know I was good to my ex bf...damn good. His problem was self centeredness and not grown up yet. But, I'm glad I realized it pretty fast and have been able to move on.