To the World You are but One Person, BUT to One Person, you ARE THE
WORLD

REMEMBER THAT SWEETIE

To the World You are but One Person, BUT to One Person, you ARE THE
WORLD

REMEMBER THAT SWEETIE

mabye I can

I Know you can

To anyone who's suggesting she solve her marital woes by giving the guy
a blowjob..puleeezee. Spare us.

what can I do?...even if it's break up with him?

Try and make it work. Counseling, trying to re kindle it...

If it doesn t work then you can say in your heart you did all you could
to make it work .

Couseling is the first and foremost. There might be resentment on his
part for something you are not aware of. Ask him to go and if he refuses
at least try it yourself . Sounds like troubled waters but that's just
an opionion.

I'm sorry I know this is going to be hard to hear and I know I'm about
to be crusified,But I have a girlfriend in this same predicament, and
I'm going to give you the same advice I gave her.Dump his ass and move
on.There are so many men out there that would appreciate you for who you
are. Sorry folks but someone had to say it.

I just want to say that you should not give up first thing and second
saying you love someone and proving it. Communicate with him and express
your true feelings do not hold back. Sometimes men need a wake up call,
myself included. It's not nagging to want a stable and loving
relationship with the one you love. Also, ask yourself what you can do
to improve your part in the relationship. Ask him too and ask him to be
totally honest. If he really wants to improve the relationship, he will
be truthful and tell you. Finally, both of you have to be willing to
make the necessary changes to improve your relationship. All based on
love for one another.

Dane, I wouldn't crucify you, but I am thinking about the kids and it
sounds like her main issue is boredom, or feeling neglected, and that
can be fixed. I think she said they have had the computer for 2 months,
it is a new toy, just like getting new video games, people get hooked on
them at first, and he worked 50 hours weeks, so sounds like he is a hard
worker, but he does come home to her, not picking up some of the women
he sees at work. I would agree with the folks who recommend counseling
and working to spice up the marriage. Would be sad to waste a marriage
because of boredom, if it not fixable, then by all means move on. But,
since there are kids, I think it deserves every chance. My 2 cents
anyway.

This is true, My friend's husband is just the same way though. But she
found out he's been Cybering with other women.He doesn't have to pick
them up at work. I appreciate the fact she wants to keep her family
together,and to want something else would not be natural.So yes,Kojack
Is right try to get it rekindled,but if that doesn't work,for yours, and
the kids sakes, move on.Because kids know when you are not happy, and
it'll hurt them just as much to stay in that kind of relationship,if not
more.

For sure if one is not cheating on the other things can be worked out
but it will take both to try and sorry to say Dane this is once I will
disagree with you for the men are not that easy to find I have been
single for a very long time a few times I thought I had found the right
one was I ever wrong. So they are not that easy to find beside I feel as
long as there is no cheating going on in a relantionship anything else
can be worked out if both trys. But then anyone I end up with would have
to enjoy being online too for I do enjoy getting online and talking at
time it does make my day go by but then if I had someone I most likely
would not want to be online as much lol. But now I still like to play my
games online lol

I think you should just sit down and talk to him and tell him to be
totally honest with you. NEVER stay together for the children, the
children will know and trust me, it won't do them any good knowing that
thier parents weren't IN love. Just talk things out, communication is
very important~~just be honest.
Are you IN love with this man? To me it sounds like you have some
doubts?? It kind of sounds like you have some doubts about some things
about your self?? You do not need any one elses approval, you have to
love yourself above all!
I really hope that you can work things out, if its together thats
great....but if you both decide to break up, you can still be loving
parents! Good luck!

Tex, It's okay I still love ya.

It helps to sit down & make alist..
think all the good & then the bad. is he good to you & the kids
otherwise. (is he physical, mental,pay the bills) you know he is home
not out trapsin. if he is cybering, at least its safe sex!
you wont be catching anything.
like you said him being raised that way ask him if he wants that to
continue on..

Yeah, but this is a type of mental abuse, even though I'm sure he does
not mean to, he is neglecting them,mentally.Yeah he cpould be like me
huh Catch?

HEY, Hell folks,,,HELLO, we all got some kind of issues or "things" that
might not be liked by others,,,,,???
So he could be anything and she could be anything and we can
only guide her to do what we feel will help HER big picture of famil and
life,
Its up to her and HIM to seek and trully WANT to make their marrage
work, and if ONE is not want to give their ALL, it will fail like so
many today.
All we can do is suggest they get counceling and work on their problems
TOGETHER!!!!!

My Honey!!! A sweetie!!!

It could be alot worse. he could scream at them everytime they came in
the room, he could demand her to do un kewl things. jjezzzzzzz pull up
that other thread where that guy beat that poor gurl. look in the
poems. if he is just sitting there & supporting them there is hope....
set it up so 1 night a week you do some thing.. even if its pizza at
the park & take a board game. anything... just sit back & look at
all the bad marrages... is yours that bad...

You got a point there Catch. And T, I don't want them to go down in
flames I hope it does work out for them.