You have to ask yourself is it love or lust? Have I settled so as to not
be lonely? Am I just letting a desire take over my thinking? and if your
answers are lust, yes, and yes, then you are not in love. If you are in
love, then nothing will seperate the two of you, no matter how long the
relationship has been. You can love someone, but not be in love. To love
is a care for the wellbeing and is conditional. Being in love is
unconditional- no strings attached.

I just want to say that you should not give up first thing and second
saying you love someone and proving it. Communicate with him and express
your true feelings do not hold back. Sometimes men need a wake up call,
myself included. It's not nagging to want a stable and loving
relationship with the one you love. Also, ask yourself what you can do
to improve your part in the relationship. Ask him too and ask him to be
totally honest. If he really wants to improve the relationship, he will
be truthful and tell you. Finally, both of you have to be willing to
make the necessary changes to improve your relationship. All based on
love for one another.

hello Ginger, welcome

I am a newbie also and just wanted to say hi to all.