Maybe he's blamin himself for yalls kids medical condition. Has he been
this way since your kid was diagnosed?

Plus, how is his family interaction?? How does his family treat each
other?

I wish I could say yes,but.....we only knew this recently....only when
our son was old enough for us to know there was a problem

his parents don't talk 2 him much...actually....he said his parents
never did anything with him when he was growing up,.....and now he is
turning out to be the same with his family.

sounds like loner becomer--

OOOOh, this is touchy. That is probably how his brain was trained to
act. I know when I was growin up, my family communicated by yellin and
screamin, and for the first 3 or 4 years me and the wifee were married,
that's exactly how I communicated with her. That's what I was talkin
about when I said she stuck it out with me. I used to yell at her for
all kinds of dumb sh*t. Then, reality hit me in the f*ckin face. Ask him
how it felt when his parents didn't do sh*t with him. Then tell him
that's what he's doin to you and yalls kids, and if he doesn't want them
to be distant, now is the time to act.

your right,upbringing has alot to do with adult outcome,but I have even
brought that up with him,and well.....here we are once again.

Veronica, this weekend,(if you can), wait until your kids are
down for the NIGHT, then when your man is on the computer,(he propibly
is at that TIME!) Get into something sexy
w/o HIM KNOWING it,,then
go to hom kind-of sneaky like from behind, start rubbing his shoulders,
Then just REALLY start working your way slowly and directly to his toy,
as he starts losing attention to the computer, pull his chair(if on
wheels) towards you and give him your best HEAD, and just at the right
MOMENT, stop and say,
do you like me this way, and when he says(UYSFSF UYSUVCSCSCSDTDSHBVDHG)
(yeah), lol YOU TELL HIM OK, IWAS JUST CHECKING, then act like your
going to watch some TV NOW, ???????????WTF????? Yes, he should be
al"THAT",
Then say, Honey I want you to ,but "WE" have to start doing more things
together, Then YOU will have his BEST ATTENTION, to discuss (MAYBE
THEN),or (MAYBE LATER), WHAT and HOW you two act like at HOME TOGETHER!!
IF you want a change then YOU are the one WHO HAS TO START-IT,
Because he and YOU have lost interest in YOUR marrage, and if YOU don't
STOP THE BOREDOM, it is doubtful, that he would.....
IF YOU want YOUR marrage to stay and be GOOD, then get out of this
bah,hum, blaw,blaw, LIFE STYLE!
HE'S A MAN, HE WORKKS HARD ALL WEEK, AND HE LOVES YOU BUT, HE HAS "NOW"
GOT HIS MIND "AWAY" YOU, and has focused his thoughts to hobby's and the
internet, he is HAPPY "NOW", but YOUR not so that is why "YOU" have to
try to change his MIND, on showing YOU some of HIS attention,,,,,


GOOD-LUCK,,,,,,,,,SHOW YOUR LOVE!!!!!

I like your advice I am 4 u.With a sex drive like his though.....not
sure it would work.

TRUST ME,if you got him really close,,,,,,,and STOPPED,
OH YEAH,,,,,YOU, "WILL", GET HIS ATTENTION!!!!!

Honestly, it's up to him to realize what he's doin, and up to you to
stick it out with him if ya really want it to work. I wish ya weren't in
as much pain about it, but feelins definitely get hurt in marriages.
Just know that you love him and he loves you, and send the kids in the
computer room. He'll have no choice but to spend some time with them. I
know it's hard, but you're gonna have to work slow at it. Get him to
express his love for yalls kids first and foremost, and eventually he'll
know what he's doin. I wish ya the best of luck, and keep your head up.
Be proud that you can do what you're doin, cuz a lot of selfish girls
would have already cut out on him. It takes a woman to stick it out. I'm
proud of ya!

thank you red....Im a christian girl,and that is how I've been
taught....to stick it out,and so here I am.

You're quite welcome, just hang in there. Time will tell all truths.
Whether it's yall bein the storybook family or not, time will definitely
tell ya. I wouldn't be the dude I am now if it wasn't for my wifee
stickin it out with me. I would most likely be dead by now. Not
exaggeratin, just tellin it how it is. I was self-destructive as long as
I could remember ever since my baby-momma f*cked my head up, and through
time, she showed me all women aren't the same. I now have a different
outlook on life for the most part, and I respect her more and more
everyday. I pray your dude will do the same. God bless ya.

is your relationship with your son okay?

and then get him where it counts and do what Iam said...

you WILL get his attention...

My relationship with my son is good,.....it's just the father/husband

Veronica, I don't mean any disrespect to YOU here but,
YOU are on THIS site and THIS site is a SINGLES site....

So If you were my WIFE and I found out that you were here, well, I would
talk with YOU about WHY and I would not want YOU here, and I would be
thinking that YOU were LOOKING for someone else or at least THINKING
about "THAT" thought!!!

Now THIS is only MY MIND HERE,OK??, NOT ALL, and maybe your husband
knows and is cool with-it,,,
But I could not be cool with it,,it would HURT me,,
You said HE was on-line for HIS HOBBY, not looking or talking to women
on line at single sites??
Im just a REAL guy here with REAL thoughts, and I call them as they come
on here..
I will not give YOU BULL-SH1T on here, I will REALLY give you MY REAL
THOUGHTS!! Im not trying to be hurtful or make any issue's just the
facts at HAND...

I suppose that I ....(like many)....just want love

what is he doing or not doing?

well.....funny enough,...I was searching for a female in my area to be
friends with,...to do all the things I couldn't do with my husband