Yes..somehow, someway-(God's help) we made it through their death, the grief, the loniness, and now the daily grind of living. We are all fighters, we're all survivors..

Well Carolyn I must say goodnight!


I have so enjoyed talking with you this evening. Come back tomorrow night and we will chat again, okay?


HUGS

hugsss night Connie, sleep well...and will try to be here tomorrow. Didn't mean to hog the thread...but enjoyed having a friend to talk to..

knightless I am around any time.

Thank you Sage, same goes for me..anytime you ever need an ear.

Good Night everyone..sorry I missed y'all..
Welcome Monica, I hope to chat soon.

Hi Sage. g'night

Hi everybody
What are you all up today ?
I was wondering how long did you continue to wear your wedding rings? I would go in moods when I couldn,t bear not to wear them and other times when I couldn,t stand the site of them.
I remember one time it was about 8years after my husband passed but I was in the I need my rings on mood when a co-worker grab my hand and very rudely said to me why are you pretending to married you are not you know.
I really had to restrain myself cause I wanted to deck her in the worst way!!

Morning Betty, Many people feel they have the ability to heal you. Some by becoming straightforward and strong, thinking they will rattle you into reality..their narrowed, reality. I started writing, for it was and is my perspective, the gift I was handed when I had to let Newt go. I do not feel wonderful about it much of the time. I am learning to say each new day, Thank you God..I do not have the strength to say any more. I know God understands. His word tells us that..
I would like to sahre a writing about my ring..I have lost ALOT of weight.the ring does not fit anymore..The beauty in all of this for us is, that we are gifted the right to do with this as we desire..It is our sorrow, our heart. No one does it for us.

The Circle

The circle was the comfort that held her heart.
It was the symbol of beauty she dreamt about as a small girl hoping for her future.It held the babies she would rock. It held the longings she would serve lavishingly to only one. It held a little girls future.

The circle was strong.
It would not bend with the test of heartaches that seared her life. The heat of passion would not change the shape of things to come as life passed through.The distance would not soften the lonliness that etched the groove around her being.

The circle was home.
It housed all the hopes, and dreams of the hearts she carried in her arms. There was laughter and tears alike. The doors were open to love and closed to the world that wanted to invade.The windows gave light and air to caring and hearts wear.

The circle was growth.
She could not contain the life that expanded.Her babies and grands futured the new generations she will only see for this moment, for love continues.

The circle was life and death.
Each day brought on new even as death removed the heart she once held. Her babies scattered to their new. Her heart and hands were empty. She would no longer hold to the hand that carried the circle.

The circle was held.
The ring was made of gold.The diamonds became the tears that were once for joy. It lifted off her finger much more easily than it had been placed. Death had removed the hold of the circle she had lived for that brief moment of life and dream. The grooved rut disappeared with each new breath of life she was allowed to cherish, again..still.

As memories fade to once, joy spreads to new. Created by future is once again. Once again will go full circle from the little girl's dream for beauty is she.. future...always love,always circled.

Raine Les 12/31/2006

Hi Sharris how are you ?

people always think they know you better than you know yourself . I agree that you have to make your own decisions and do what is right for you. The best thing people can do is be their when you need them .And above all let you heal in the manner you choose . I feel that if I want to wear my rings , or keep some of his clothes it is my business and I the last thing I need is to get grief over it from someone that has never been in my shoes.

Sharris ..all I can say is thank goodness I had a box of kleenex handy when I read that just now. it was beautiful and really says a lot.
Thank you fot that

Thank you, My nephew and niece were a tremendous support when I lived with them. They would read some of my poems, say..you really need to get that out..sometimes Eric would chide me and say..do I need a cig for afterwards.haha.he doesn't smoke.

I did decide to open, open as much as I felt I wanted to. Today I am feeling ok. I have been walking to the little beach near me. The lonliness swells inside. I have never done well with alone. When I married, I thought, finally..And now..finally has a whole new meaning. I am so glad to have met you all. I have to leave for work. I will think of you today. I would like to see your ring..mine is a beauty..I just cannot wear it anylonger. Last year the little bits of memories and money I had saved to give the grands on special occasions, was stolen ..$2 dollar bills Newt and I had saved to remind them of Grampy's love..The message on the phone got erased by my grandson..eventually, it goes away, softens and fades to that place.
Love you, Sadie

Thanks Sadie
Lucky girl living near a beach ...I must say I am rather jealous !
Do you have any pets .they help a bit I have 2 dogs and a cat . I am also very lucky that my youngest still lives at home. so I,m not living alone ..yet . Not looking forward to it either.
Have a great day

Betty
If you come down, you can walk all you want.
Live in a state park, with a 660 acre lake.
Lots of shore line to walk.

you,re killing me Sounds like heaven on earth! How are you doing tonight ?

Between appts, about to leave again.

Have a good night

Have a good night have a good night twice Iguess

hello my friends

How are you tonight?