Topic: he is just not in to you
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Mon 05/19/08 07:29 AM


While kissing you say, I don't want to be a burden on your life. I enjoy kissing you. I enjoy your company.

He says in reply, "You would not be a burden on my life. It's just my life sucks (it truly does due to a messy divorce that has left him financially strapped) and I would not want to bring yours down."

More hugs and kisses. Then you part. He walks off thinking, "Now it's back to reality."

Translation - While I know my life sucks, I'm a glass 1/2 full guy and I deserve better than you.


Woooooow I was thinking that I would take someone saying that to me Burden means Drama .. and drama that you have not yet dealt with .. and you are my transition person back to life .. Be my lifesupport and bring me back from the death of divorce but I don't want to burden you .. RUN RUN RUN


That is exactly how I meant it. That is also exactly how I took his reply. Thanks for the response. I thought I was way off by his actions since then.

But he is doing the distancing and it sucks. I'm all for giving it time to see how he works things out for his life, being a supportive friend. But with his distancing I am at a loss on what to say or do. I think he will push me away even if I say don't leave me out of your life - I will listen to you in a supportive way. So I think I should just leave it alone and let life take care of it.

evilolive's photo
Mon 05/19/08 07:30 AM
how about... ' think i am going to try to work things out with me ex'

meaning- i never actually broke up with them , i was just looking for something better- and it's not you

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Mon 05/19/08 07:30 AM



While kissing you say, I don't want to be a burden on your life. I enjoy kissing you. I enjoy your company.

He says in reply, "You would not be a burden on my life. It's just my life sucks (it truly does due to a messy divorce that has left him financially strapped) and I would not want to bring yours down."

More hugs and kisses. Then you part. He walks off thinking, "Now it's back to reality."

Translation - While I know my life sucks, I'm a glass 1/2 full guy and I deserve better than you.


Woooooow I was thinking that I would take someone saying that to me Burden means Drama .. and drama that you have not yet dealt with .. and you are my transition person back to life .. Be my lifesupport and bring me back from the death of divorce but I don't want to burden you .. RUN RUN RUN


That is exactly how I meant it. That is also exactly how I took his reply. Thanks for the response. I thought I was way off by his actions since then.

But he is doing the distancing and it sucks. I'm all for giving it time to see how he works things out for his life, being a supportive friend. But with his distancing I am at a loss on what to say or do. I think he will push me away even if I say don't leave me out of your life - I will listen to you in a supportive way. So I think I should just leave it alone and let life take care of it.
I say RUNNNNNNNNN RUNNNNNNNNN RUNNNNNNNNN and find someone with their act together ...

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Mon 05/19/08 07:32 AM

how about... ' think i am going to try to work things out with me ex'

meaning- i never actually broke up with them , i was just looking for something better- and it's not you
that is a great one ... and soooooo true or meaning she does not know about you and I need to keep it that way

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Mon 05/19/08 07:33 AM


how about... ' think i am going to try to work things out with me ex'

meaning- i never actually broke up with them , i was just looking for something better- and it's not you
that is a great one ... and soooooo true or meaning she does not know about you and I need to keep it that way


exactly lol

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Mon 05/19/08 07:35 AM



how about... ' think i am going to try to work things out with me ex'

meaning- i never actually broke up with them , i was just looking for something better- and it's not you
that is a great one ... and soooooo true or meaning she does not know about you and I need to keep it that way


exactly lol
Beautiful

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Mon 05/19/08 07:35 AM



ok,..you guys are the experts,.,

What does it mean when he says,..

I don`t know what I want,..

It probably means he doesn't want you but you will do since no-one else is around. Or he wants something kinky and just too chicken to say it.

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Mon 05/19/08 07:42 AM
Thanks Shoes!

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Mon 05/19/08 07:43 AM
This has NEVER happened to me before. I swear. I must've drank too much.

Translation: Has severe ED and forgot Viagra.

seahawks's photo
Mon 05/19/08 07:44 AM

I have a lot of work and an early meeting tomorrow, but I can come in for a quick drink.

Translation: I want to come in and get my rocks off and take off before you even find the wet spot. See ya!
laugh laugh laugh laugh yur a brat.!!!!laugh laugh laugh

shoes4rhon's photo
Mon 05/19/08 07:45 AM

This has NEVER happened to me before. I swear. I must've drank too much.

Translation: Has severe ED and forgot Viagra.
OMG OMG I spit coffee everywhere on that one

lilith401's photo
Mon 05/19/08 07:46 AM

laugh laugh laugh laugh yur a brat.!!!!laugh laugh laugh


Yes, I am....

seahawks's photo
Mon 05/19/08 07:47 AM


laugh laugh laugh laugh yur a brat.!!!!laugh laugh laugh


Yes, I am....
drinker drinker :tongue: flowerforyou

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Mon 05/19/08 07:50 AM
How can such an attractive person be single? Your ex must be stupid.

Translation: You look good, but you must be totally psycho or toothy with BJ's....

PacificStar48's photo
Mon 05/19/08 07:52 AM

We have the best of everything.

We are co-INdependent....friends that really route for each other to fly......and fly free of petty jealousies.

I would be a horrible person if I wanted to possess you like an object. I would rather visit and cherish your beauty like a sunset.

Baloney so bad that ought to be served with cheeze!

Beachfarmer's photo
Mon 05/19/08 07:52 AM
laugh laugh "toothy"laugh laugh

AAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Mon 05/19/08 07:57 AM

We have all heard Let's be friends - meaning simply I am just not into you ... or Lets still sleep together when I am horney or my fav let me keep my foot in the door until someone better comes along - So lets post all those phrases and their meanings and clue in the clueless ....


Usual phony excuses I hear:

1) "I just got out of a bad relationship and I don't really want to date anyone right now."

In a week she's out dating some other guy.

2) "I just want to be single, free, independent. I don't want a relationship or anything from anyone."

In less than a month she's calling some other guy "boyfriend".



I once had a woman whom I showed interest in not only tell me the BS excuse about wanting to remain single and alone, but then tried to convince me why I should not even bother with women. Like I should rethink my life to deciding that I shouldn't want a woman or any kind of companionship other than family or friends. That I shouldn't even fathom getting married and such and just be alone and "free" as she called it.

THEN...a few months later she got engaged to a doctor from Indiana...meaning she met him around the same time I asked her out, and then got engaged to him within a few months.

Can you believe all that BS she tried to feed me? :tongue:

RicJL's photo
Mon 05/19/08 07:59 AM

This has NEVER happened to me before. I swear. I must've drank too much.

Translation: Has severe ED and forgot Viagra.


Oooooh! Low blow!

lilith401's photo
Mon 05/19/08 08:03 AM


This has NEVER happened to me before. I swear. I must've drank too much.

Translation: Has severe ED and forgot Viagra.


Oooooh! Low blow!


Okay..... how about this one.

noway I am not that sort of girl. I totally don't do sex on the first date.

Translation: I did not have time to shave my legs and I'm on my period. Dang!

PacificStar48's photo
Mon 05/19/08 08:04 AM


We have all heard Let's be friends - meaning simply I am just not into you ... or Lets still sleep together when I am horney or my fav let me keep my foot in the door until someone better comes along - So lets post all those phrases and their meanings and clue in the clueless ....


Usual phony excuses I hear:

1) "I just got out of a bad relationship and I don't really want to date anyone right now."

In a week she's out dating some other guy.

2) "I just want to be single, free, independent. I don't want a relationship or anything from anyone."

In less than a month she's calling some other guy "boyfriend".



I once had a woman whom I showed interest in not only tell me the BS excuse about wanting to remain single and alone, but then tried to convince me why I should not even bother with women. Like I should rethink my life to deciding that I shouldn't want a woman or any kind of companionship other than family or friends. That I shouldn't even fathom getting married and such and just be alone and "free" as she called it.

THEN...a few months later she got engaged to a doctor from Indiana...meaning she met him around the same time I asked her out, and then got engaged to him within a few months.

Can you believe all that BS she tried to feed me? :tongue:

Sounds like you have a pretty good luck dodgeing the bullets.