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Topic: Do men really like independent women??
JustagirlinMA Joined Wed 04/02/08 Posts: 63	Wed 04/09/08 08:43 PM
It just seems to me that what attracts men to us is what drives them crazy later. Men tell me they are attracted to my looks (how I dress, hair, make-up..etc), my independence, my hobbies and interests that are separate from theirs, my loyalty to friends, my sarcasm and my wicked sense of humor. But within two months this is all the stuff that seems to annnoy them the most. I get why are dressed like that, got a hot date? What's with the perfume? They don't think I'm capable of say hooking up a dvd player, carrying a heavy box or God forbid...checking my own oil. They complain that I drop everything when friends need me even if it just happened one time. Then they complain that I never do what "THEY" wanna do even though I went fishing and attended that NASCAR race just for them. This isn't just my experience though. I use "they" because my friends seem to be having the same problems. So, do men have a hard time with a woman that can just do things herself and has her own life or does he need to feel "needed" and is unhappy unless our world revolves around theirs? Maybe my friends and I are just meeting the wrong kind of men who are needy and controlling with no self esteem. Any thoughts?

SKPCG Joined Mon 03/03/08 Posts: 14708	Wed 04/09/08 08:46 PM
As a single woman for over 10 years, I understand this situation and the frustration completely. At first they think it's so awesome, such a little spit fire, I am.... But a spit fire they seem to want to douse. Are they scared?? I don't have the answer....

Redneckmaninsc Joined Sun 03/02/08 Posts: 331	Wed 04/09/08 08:46 PM
Did someone say NASCAR?

Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Wed 04/09/08 08:46 PM
shout out for independent women whoot whoot

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Wed 04/09/08 08:47 PM
sighs i wish i knew

azrae1l Joined Sat 03/24/07 Posts: 3624	Wed 04/09/08 08:47 PM
depends on what you mean by independent... i've dated girls who were independent that just went out with thier friend sand stuff.. then i had girlfriends that were so independent that they had a another boyfriend....

dejavieu Joined Sun 03/16/08 Posts: 255	Wed 04/09/08 08:49 PM
Where do I get one of those...not to that extreme though? My ex used to think I was his personal mechanic.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Wed 04/09/08 08:49 PM
It just seems to me that what attracts men to us is what drives them crazy later. Men tell me they are attracted to my looks (how I dress, hair, make-up..etc), my independence, my hobbies and interests that are separate from theirs, my loyalty to friends, my sarcasm and my wicked sense of humor. But within two months this is all the stuff that seems to annnoy them the most. I get why are dressed like that, got a hot date? What's with the perfume? They don't think I'm capable of say hooking up a dvd player, carrying a heavy box or God forbid...checking my own oil. They complain that I drop everything when friends need me even if it just happened one time. Then they complain that I never do what "THEY" wanna do even though I went fishing and attended that NASCAR race just for them. This isn't just my experience though. I use "they" because my friends seem to be having the same problems. So, do men have a hard time with a woman that can just do things herself and has her own life or does he need to feel "needed" and is unhappy unless our world revolves around theirs? Maybe my friends and I are just meeting the wrong kind of men who are needy and controlling with no self esteem. Any thoughts? Some men can handle independant women, some can't.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Wed 04/09/08 08:51 PM
a female who is a grease monkey is a real turn off for me.... >Whew< Now where the heck is my socket set?

SKPCG Joined Mon 03/03/08 Posts: 14708	Wed 04/09/08 08:51 PM
Did someone say NASCAR? No, nope, no mention!!! See other forums, silly!!

dejavieu Joined Sun 03/16/08 Posts: 255	Wed 04/09/08 08:52 PM
a female who is a grease monkey is a real turn off for me.... >Whew< Now where the heck is my socket set?

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Wed 04/09/08 08:53 PM
What about a woman who has been divorced for a decade and a half, and owns a home? I have to be able to use a power drill, a chain saw, a gas-powered log splitter, a post hole digger, etc. I am not suddenly going to forget how to use these things for a man who is threatened by it.

dejavieu Joined Sun 03/16/08 Posts: 255	Wed 04/09/08 08:53 PM Edited by dejavieu on Wed 04/09/08 08:54 PM
a female who is a grease monkey is a real turn off for me.... So, you'd rather we sit stranded on the side of the road like wounded squirrels for the buzzards? That's sooo sexy! J/K

dejavieu Joined Sun 03/16/08 Posts: 255	Wed 04/09/08 08:56 PM
a female who is a grease monkey is a real turn off for me.... >Whew< Now where the heck is my socket set? up your ass lady dyke dyke... Really, what's wrong with a woman being able to fend for herself? Would you want your daughter stranded on the road? You've obviously not met the men who pull over the fastest.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Wed 04/09/08 08:56 PM
a female who is a grease monkey is a real turn off for me.... >Whew< Now where the heck is my socket set? up your ass lady dyke dyke... You cannot address me in that fashion. It is rude and insulting.

lv420z Joined Thu 04/03/08 Posts: 58	Wed 04/09/08 08:56 PM
a female who is a grease monkey is a real turn off for me.... So, you'd rather we sit stranded on the side of the road like wounded squirrels for the buzzards? That's sooo sexy! J/K whatever you say mister......

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Wed 04/09/08 08:57 PM
a female who is a grease monkey is a real turn off for me.... So, you'd rather we sit stranded on the side of the road like wounded squirrels for the buzzards? That's sooo sexy! J/K whatever you say mister...... You have no right to talk to people this way. Please leave.

iceprincess Joined Tue 11/07/06 Posts: 5938	Wed 04/09/08 08:57 PM
a female who is a grease monkey is a real turn off for me.... >Whew< Now where the heck is my socket set? up your ass lady dyke dyke... Now...now.........do we feel our manhood is threatened?

TheLonelyWalker Joined Sat 04/07/07 Posts: 11870	Wed 04/09/08 08:57 PM
hell no (at least me) I don't know the rest of the world.

cutelildevilsmom Joined Sat 04/07/07 Posts: 8862	Wed 04/09/08 08:58 PM
a female who is a grease monkey is a real turn off for me.... >Whew< Now where the heck is my socket set? up your ass lady dyke dyke... whoa where did that come from?not very gentlemanly I must say.