Ladie's, do you ever want to just give up on finding a SO because every guy seem's to be a dog? Even before you got to meet him face to face?

I totally disagree. That is one of the most ignorant statements I've heard in quite a while. If quitting was that simple, we wouldn't have rehab programs, AA, NA, etc. Even with the use of such support groups, breaking drug habits formed over years of practice is not an easy thing to do. It takes way more than the desire to quit. It goes from the desire, to dedicated use of these aforementioned programs, to establishing support networks, to complete lifestyle changes.

And as for the OP's problem, she does have to want to quit, but also has to be willing to get help from anywhere that offers it. If she doesn't really want to quit all that badly, then there's nothing you or anybody can do to help her. It's hard to let someone go that you care about, but you just might have to do that in order to keep yourself from being brought down. If so, then she might come to the decision of what's more important in her life. If she can do so and can honestly and convincingly express to you that you and her sobriety are more important, then you will inevitably be a critical part of her support network. But you have to be careful that you are supporting and not enabling her.

If she starts taking advantage of your support and doesn't work on her own as well, then you need to let her go. I've had my problems in the past and depend a lot on my sources of support. I do my best to use, but not take advantage of, them. If I do, then they no longer wish to help me and I'm back to my old habits or in prison. But anyway, I wish you luck in resolving this problem however it gets done, and hope the best for your friend.

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