Ive been seeing someone seriously for the last 8 months and recently discovered about 3 months ago she had a crack problem, we got her in to treatment and things were going ok now she's back at it again and don't know what to do, she has left and i am hurting because i dont know if i should let her back if she comes back. We moved in together just before i found out she had a problem in a bad area of waukegan, IL. and discovered that was part of the problem so i got us an apartment in a nice area in park city and she had some good job prospects and now she's gone again. Any ideas?

Leave immediately and dont turn back!!!

Stay away from that situation, nothing good can come from it!!!!!!

I've seen what crack can do to someone. Its not easy to seek treatment and expect results. Its a hardcore addiction that can take years to overcome -- especially if that person has been an addict for a time. Personally, as hard as it may be, I would definitely walk away in the situation. As someone else has mentioned, nothing good can come from it.

time to move on before you become addicted to the situation

u need to say good bye now,u aint gonna get any thing u need from this relationship.

as I will say any where



aint no one addicted to any thing



they either want to do it or they dont.
they either want to stop or they dont.


its truly that easy.



every one has a brain and every one should know how to use it

You cant save a crackhead........your wasting your time!

if she refuses treatment or does not follow through with it again I would walk away...sometimes it takes more then once to kick the addiction

No you cant..They have to want to stop...good luck with that situation

The pain, hurt, suffering, fearing for your life (in some instances) are all signs to pick up your life (while you still have your sanity and possessions) and move on. I have been extremely close to a similar predicament, and it is not a good place to be. The love you have for this person will never be enough for them to change. Good luck

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f5Rjfyc7Gnc
Jewel-Little Sister

there are some great people here if you ever need anyone to talk to I am sure there will be many that will listen I know for sure I will be one of them..

"We got her into treatment". It usually works better if they get treatment on their own.

I highly recommend a NarAnon meeting. There's also a NarAnon Support for Family and Friends of Addicts on Yahoo Groups. They are good for an on-line group.

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/naranonsupport/



You didn't cause it, you can't cure it, and you can't control it.

Ditch her. You can't change her.She will be nothing but trouble

That's tough You tried and did what you could it seems, but ultimately it's up to her - she has to want it and from what I gather it is overly difficult to kick the habit. I think you have to wish her well on her journey and hope she sees the light. Good luck

lock up all your valubales and nail down your tv and stereo

Hun, I know it's gonna be hard but you have to walk away. She has to want to stop on her own. It's obvious that she doesn't. If u stay with her, there's much more heartache in store for u than if u walk now. I know the compulsion to help an be there for her but u can't. She's got to do this one on her own.

Before you know it, you will be allowing her addiction to keep going. You will be her crutch. She needs to face it and deal with it and she only will once she's hit rock bottom. She has to have to much to lose.
You can't enable her. It's hard... I know. But if you enable her in anyway, you are contributing to her addiction. Tell her she either goes back to rehab, or she moves out and you can't talk to her. It's harder than hell but you don't have much choice. You can't save her. She has to save herself.