I think its about your mind set and theirs. I Like a lot of people but they never seem to have any interest in me. Should I lower my standards, hell no. That means I would eventually end up on a cycle of gradually lowering my standards one by one until someone comes along that is totally against my original standards and what I just go with it knowing that it won't work out. One of such standards could be do they smoke. I might for go this because at the end of the day my brother smokes so no big deal. But then I start to for go other things such as, I'd rather they didn't already have kids or I'd rather they were Caucasian or I'd rather they weren't religious or I'd rather they were sane. Start dropping one criteria then you may as well just drop the lot because that means your changing to get the right partner and no one should change for anyone. By Changing that makes you become someone your not and although they might like you, in the long term, You won't like you.

I am just sick of hearing "Sorry, but your just not my TYPE". In what way though? Can't just say that and it be ok. It sounds as if there is no real reason and that its just a immature way to turn someone away unless of course there is a reason but for some reason I never hear why, Surely I don't match one or more of your criterias and I might yet find that they still don't match some of mine. It is weird though because I did confront this person I liked and that is what she said (not my type) and after asking her what the problem is she just couldn't come up with anything. I asked her what is it that makes me a walking reject, what thing or things is preventing someone from saying yes just once. "Oh I don't think its anything to do with you, you just haven't found the one yet?" Right ok so I have just asked you because I like you and your telling me that there isn't anything wrong with me as a person but its just that I haven't found the one yet even though the one could be the very person I am talking to who doesn't like me back for no known reason but insists its just because I am not her type? Ha this isn't Pokemon. What Just because I'm Grass Type (because grass is weak and women are my weakness) means you being a Psychic Type (Because all Women are Mind readers)(Don't mean to be offensive to the ladies here but it is common knowledge that Men aren't) means that together WE wouldn't work. You never know without trying but its easier to say no than try it seems. Everyone tends to comment that I am a "good looking lad" and yet all women just seem to make you feel like your covered in dog ****, thanks Ladies for always being the cause and solution to most life's problems

Do looks matter much in picking a lifetime partner?

OMG - I don't know Mom's; I've seen some humans do things {elderly/young/middle age} and it just makes me shudder and SMH about WTH were they thinking --- and that often is the #1 problem ---They've got too much STUFF on they're minds and step off into moving traffic and *BAM* someone gets creamed/maimed/dies!

I'm assuming the bus stopped to let ppl on or off, while traffic was still moving? She must have been j-walking while the light was green for drivers

I read your post shortly after you finished and left it thinking that someone would have some excellent input had advise for you; then I see where you're getting hammered by someone's PREACHING BS at you and I can't refrain!!!

My dearest niece in my whole world {13 nieces & nephews}...rushed into a early marriage {got pregnant while in high school} left home and married this alcoholic! Long story - short; that ended and she found the love of her life - gal pal that she was working with! Seems my niece knew she was 'Lesbian Curious' while in high school but struggled with that 'sexual preference' issue {not only due to a horrid/abusive/perverted Mexican father} but because of her stringent Catholic upbringing and years of 'MENTAL CONTROL' by all of her adults!
Shortly after her ugly divorce - her father murdering my dear older sister and then his suicide - our having to figure out how we were going to provide for the other 5 siblings still at home - Ya, her life was CHAOS and emotional struggle for a long period of time!

I dropped in {unannounced} to her home since I was in the city and found her - her young son - and her roommate living together; now I'm not the brightest bulb in that box but the emotional connection and love within that home and the way that they looked at each other and behaved...well I knew that there was some serious affection between those 2 young women! So I just put it out there and asked: 'are you 2 involved and is this serious?'

They've been together for over 18 yrs now! And we've had many glorious frank discussions about love/betrayal/hiding the sexual desires that are part of their make up that they can't control or hide any longer! And both of these young women are now in the mid 40's and work like a well oiled team - they are so nice/good decent humans to be around...it's just pure enjoyment and good times at their home! Her son grew up accepting - having excellent grades - works in a Information Software business and rescues dogs & a few reptiles too!

It seems to my POV that you are more curious then anything {but I can be way off base on that} and if you find someone to engage with --- just please, be careful especially for your children!
{{hugs}} to you and good luck in your search for love!

Lots & Lots of snuggle time on the floor for all of you; getting dog to relax and rest while kitten crawls around all of you will provide dog with the 'FAMILY' idea instead of 'OH-LOOK A WARM FOOD SOURCE'!!!
Substitute a dog toy to your dog anytime he decides to clamp down on little kitten - one's for play & one is not!

GOOD LUCK with all that.