There is one special for every person

i used to believe that too...

No. You take your chances with the one that pleases you hoping you please her. If it don't work out you start all over again hoping you've learned something important.

i have to disagree on this one

I have to also disagree. Some people are meant to be single for life.

I think its about your mind set and theirs. I Like a lot of people but they never seem to have any interest in me. Should I lower my standards, hell no. That means I would eventually end up on a cycle of gradually lowering my standards one by one until someone comes along that is totally against my original standards and what I just go with it knowing that it won't work out. One of such standards could be do they smoke. I might for go this because at the end of the day my brother smokes so no big deal. But then I start to for go other things such as, I'd rather they didn't already have kids or I'd rather they were Caucasian or I'd rather they weren't religious or I'd rather they were sane. Start dropping one criteria then you may as well just drop the lot because that means your changing to get the right partner and no one should change for anyone. By Changing that makes you become someone your not and although they might like you, in the long term, You won't like you.

I am just sick of hearing "Sorry, but your just not my TYPE". In what way though? Can't just say that and it be ok. It sounds as if there is no real reason and that its just a immature way to turn someone away unless of course there is a reason but for some reason I never hear why, Surely I don't match one or more of your criterias and I might yet find that they still don't match some of mine. It is weird though because I did confront this person I liked and that is what she said (not my type) and after asking her what the problem is she just couldn't come up with anything. I asked her what is it that makes me a walking reject, what thing or things is preventing someone from saying yes just once. "Oh I don't think its anything to do with you, you just haven't found the one yet?" Right ok so I have just asked you because I like you and your telling me that there isn't anything wrong with me as a person but its just that I haven't found the one yet even though the one could be the very person I am talking to who doesn't like me back for no known reason but insists its just because I am not her type? Ha this isn't Pokemon. What Just because I'm Grass Type (because grass is weak and women are my weakness) means you being a Psychic Type (Because all Women are Mind readers)(Don't mean to be offensive to the ladies here but it is common knowledge that Men aren't) means that together WE wouldn't work. You never know without trying but its easier to say no than try it seems. Everyone tends to comment that I am a "good looking lad" and yet all women just seem to make you feel like your covered in dog ****, thanks Ladies for always being the cause and solution to most life's problems

now i have to look for one in 7 billion +

<face palm>

now thats depressing

Pfffft.
Everyone has the choice of millions, if not billions.

"...and Tommy's love was Becky."

Nah....I'm always on the lookout for the next ex-Mrs. Goof.

Ahh if this were only true.............. we would be born with the other persons name and address stamped on our foreheads.

Now that would make sense- if there is only one, surely you would want a hint at least to that person's whereabouts ...

Life is total and utter chaos and we keep trying to make it into a pattern or a plan - give up already - some times you are lucky - or not -
That's all.

life is about experiences.what don't kill ya makes ya stronger we grow we learn sometimes the hard way but its WORTH IT

yes there is someone for everyone, but most likely more than one someone. some prefer to live alone or remain single, some are willing to overlook a few things, some not so flexible.

The one thing, in terms of criteria we set or expectations, is that no one is going to meet them all. it's important to prioritize these criteria and sort out maybe 2 or 3 that are absolute....the rest rate with a degree of high to low importance because if you cannot show some flexibility you are basically saying you prefer to stay single. you could be overlooking a wonderful person for a stupid reason like they are not Caucasian or they are not old/young enough w/e.....what is stupid to one person can be important to another. But justify why (to yourself) so you can prioritize.

me, I zoom in on the smoking. no can do. I could not live with a smoker for my own health reasons, nor an unhealthy eater nor a negative or destructive person (no drama). Out side of that I can be fairly flexible, but the requirement of someone who is reasonably positive and nondestructive is harder to find than you might think. people tend to be controlling when you let them get close to you.

Overlooking someone for a stupid reason because they are not Caucasian? It is called a preference or an attraction. Nothing stupid about preference or attraction.

The more you learn to respect what attracts you, the less stupid you will be.

hello, I would reference your reading comprehension and suggest rereading the WHOLE statement and suggest you try to ignore the temptation to look for something to argue about IamwhoIam.

that will tell whether you are really interested in a conversation or just picking an argument hunnie

in any case it matters not to me, I don't really care much for what others think and I am going back to bed. g'nite

When you find the one that ticks all the boxes they become the 'special one' for you, that's not to say there is only one of them out there, but hopefully you will never need to look again.

so not true, wish it was though. some people will be alone for the rest of their life sad but true. :(

Sweetestgirl, it just hit a nerve. It's all good.