I'm so glad you stopped me, I was feeling kinda lonely out here all alone... talking to myself. Writing post after post with no one else around.





Who says you can't have fun all by yourself... I crack myself up.

That light was NOT Red, it had more of a pink overtone... kind of like a soft, pretty, pink glow to it.

Kinda made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside... ever get that feeling?

What stop sign?

No, I have not been drinking, I never mix alcohol with pot.

Son, does your mother know you carry a gun?

Those bullet proof vests always make you boys look fatter.

License and Registration? Can you describe them?

I have a very dear friend with whom I've been a FWB for almost 5 years now. We are there for each other when the need arises and we bow out in respect of the other person if one or the other becomes involved in a relationship.

We began in a "no strings" agreed relationship and it just developed into a FWB. We each had too many complications in our lives at the time, so it became simply a booty call when it was convenient for both of us. We did not talk about each other's lives or troubles, etc.. We simply got together and we would begin by talking and laughing hysterically about life in general and then we would have the hottest, most fulfilling "sex" imaginable. We never spent the night together and would hug and go home very soon afterward. We never got involved in each other's lives. If one or the other became involved in a relationship, the other would bow out and we would have no contact - in respect of the other's relationship. But we were there for each other if one needed to talk or if the relationship ended. So we were never cheating while in a relationship.

We have grown closer over the years and we "look out" for one another. But we keep our distance and understand the limits. We have a love for each other, but it doesn't include the affection that would normally be part of a love relationship. Much of that has to do with his Autism and not liking to be touched or kissed outside of sex. So perhaps that is why it works for us.

With his health failing, we have not had the sex benefits in the last year. But he's been a good friend and confidante... so that is another benefit. I do admit that there have been times when I wondered why it can't go further when we have all the other pieces to the puzzle. But I also realize I'd rather not have the final pieces of the puzzle, if it meant losing him as a friend. I personally, thrive in an affectionate relationship, so it was awkward at first for me. But since the affection was not a part of it, perhaps that is why I was able to avoid getting emotionally involved. I yearn for the hugs and the kisses and the passion of making love. It was simply not part of our agreement. But it has never been "mindless" or "emotionless". We just kept our emotions in check so as not to expect more than the other could give.

I don't think it would normally be an easy thing to do, it just worked out that way for us. It has been a great stress release for each of us - moments away from the realities and hard knocks of life, so-to-speak. But it does take discipline and a commitment to the agreement of "no strings".

I have a very dear friend with whom I've been a FWB for almost 5 years now. We are there for each other when the need arises and we bow out in respect of the other person if one or the other becomes involved in a relationship.

We began in a "no strings" agreed relationship and it just developed into a FWB. We each had too many complications in our lives at the time, so it became simply a booty call when it was convenient for both of us. We did not talk about each other's lives or troubles, etc.. We simply got together and we would begin by talking and laughing hysterically about life in general and then we would have the hottest, most fulfilling "sex" imaginable. We never spent the night together and would hug and go home very soon afterward. We never got involved in each other's lives. If one or the other became involved in a relationship, the other would bow out and we would have no contact - in respect of the other's relationship. But we were there for each other if one needed to talk or if the relationship ended. So we were never cheating while in a relationship.

We have grown closer over the years and we "look out" for one another. But we keep our distance and understand the limits. We have a love for each other, but it doesn't include the affection that would normally be part of a love relationship. Much of that has to do with his Autism and not liking to be touched or kissed outside of sex. So perhaps that is why it works for us.

With his health failing, we have not had the sex benefits in the last year. But he's been a good friend and confidante... so that is another benefit. I do admit that there have been times when I wondered why it can't go further when we have all the other pieces to the puzzle. But I also realize I'd rather not have the final pieces of the puzzle, if it meant losing him as a friend. I personally, thrive in an affectionate relationship, so it was awkward at first for me. But since the affection was not a part of it, perhaps that is why I was able to avoid getting emotionally involved. I yearn for the hugs and the kisses and the passion of making love. It was simply not part of our agreement. But it has never been "mindless" or "emotionless". We just kept our emotions in check so as not to expect more than the other could give.

I don't think it would normally be an easy thing to do, it just worked out that way for us. It has been a great stress release for each of us - moments away from the realities and hard knocks of life, so-to-speak. But it does take discipline and a commitment to the agreement of "no strings".

My sister's cat always sits in her bathtub and stares at the faucet. She spooks easily in the bathroom too. My niece has had weird things happen in the house too. When I moved to the area, the friends who moved me here walked in and he asked if we'd ever experienced anything strange. He said that he saw a face superimposed on a picture hanging in the hall. And he also said that a young girl died in the bathtub... he said it was no accident... but deliberate either by her own hand or someone else's. That was the first time he'd ever been in the house and the first time he met my sister... so he had no idea about the weird occurences... he just went in the use the bathroom and came out a little pale and just started asking questions.

Kinda freaked everyone out. My sister bought the home for a good price because it had been gutted and damaged - was rented or owned by druggies or something... so who knows what history it may have.

I believe in the paranormal... I am fascinated by it.

About an hour ago. lmao

What was the question?

I'm the bus driver, so it's my name.

Same here... I've even been told I think like a man. And the older I get, the more I seem to want. But it's not something I'm gonna put on a resume or anything.

Being highly sexual, I seem to attract guys who only want the sex and don't want to contribute anything else to a relationship.

I'm still looking for the one who wants to be affectionate and in an actual relationship.

I've had the FWB, I want the whole package.

Yes, I understand that... he is constantly researching both and forever seeing new doctors and specialists, counselors, etc. He truly wants to understand and "control" his disorders, and especially to help his daughter. He has so many books on the subjects. Aspberger's is the latest specific diagnosis, so he is trying to find counselors and doctors who are more familiar with that. I feel for him. He is determined to get a handle on this and I see his frustration.

He is a wonderful man and I see how he struggles with all of this. He is aware that he is different from the rest of the world (as he puts it), and he is determined to "beat" it, or at least find a way to lessen the gap.

He is also forever changing meds and I fear that is not very good for him. He also has other health issues that concern me, so the meds for those, I'm sure are probably conflicting with his anti-depressants. It's so sad.

I am glad you clarified this... as I said, it's my friend and his daughter who have Bipolar and Autism, and I only know what I've witnessed and what he has told me over the years. I think some of the symptoms of the two also overlap. I don't begin to know much about the disorders, only what I've learned through him.

My Ex and my Son have been diagnosed with Clinical Depression, but I don't know much about that either. I only knew of my Ex's diagnosis after our divorce, and my son was diagnosed in the military, so neither of them will discuss it much with me. I am not sure if it is a temporary occurring (intermittant) disorder, or what.

I have also seen where many young children, especially boys, have been diagnosed with ADD, or ADHD. I often wonder how many of these diagnoses (spelling?) are accurate when given by a GP or only after one session with a Psychologist.

I personally, agree that our society today is quick to put a tag on everything that comes down the pike. I also think that way too many people are on anti-depressants and perhaps this is why we seem to have become a more passive-agressive society. We don't have the coping skills today that our parents may have had. I'm babbling, so I'll quit here.

My best friend is both Bi-Polar and has Autism. His degree of Autism is the highest functioning form of it... It's known as Aspberger's syndrome. (Not sure I spelled that correctly).

His Bi-Polar has him swinging from one end of the emotional spectrum to the other... Way down, depressed or Way Up.. Manic on a high.... He has to deal with suicidal thoughts all the time. He has very low self esteem.

His Autism (Aspberger's) symptoms include antisocial tendencies.. No eye contact, doesn't like being around people, including family - doesn't like crowds, doesn't like to talk to people. He won't attend any of my family get togethers and has only met my sister and brother-in-law after all these years. Doesn't like to have people at the house. If I had company over, he would stay in his room (when we were roommates). He has a short temper and gets frustrated very quickly with small issues and tasks. He doesn't like physical contact... being touched, kissed, hugged, etc.

He also has trouble trying new foods, tastes, textures, etc. Eats one course of food at a time, and can't have his food touching each other on the plate.

Nevertheless, I do understand him and have to give him a lot of credit. He has come a long way and he is forever getting books on the subjects and on the web researching and reading about it.

His daughter is also Autistic - highest level functioning. She displays much more acute signs of the symptoms as she hasn't yet learned to recognize and manage many of her symptoms. To her, it's normal and the rest of the world has the problem. She's only 12 and constantly having emotional meltdowns (at home) over her appearance and other peer pressure issues. She says things sometimes that can be very cold and unfeeling as though she has no regard for others' feelings. If I would tell her, "Honey, you're standing in my way" while preparing dinner, she'll nod, but do nothing... she doesn't move. I have to tell her to move and tell her where to stand. She doesn't put it together like one would expect. Consequences of her behavior don't seem to phase her... the thought never crosses her mind.

Well, anyway... I hope this helps. I know that my friend has spent a lifetime and a ruined marriage learning how to recognize and manage his symptoms. But it has made him a better person... both to the world and in his own eyes. He is happier with who he is now.

That is a symptom of Autism.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your loved ones in this time of sorrow. May God's love comfort you.

Face to Face, but if that's not possible at the time, then Phone is best. I like to hear their voice, tone, breath, laughter, etc. Much more personal and harder to hide emotions.

Of course, I like to start out with the initial emails, then proceed to IM. Then I prefer phone conversations and eventually meeting face to face if all goes well thus far.