IMHO it's no use trying to impress anyone if you're not being yourself. As long as you always have realistic expectations and show "THE REAL YOU" you will find that special someone.


Hiii friends..
I m new in this city and here also..
I m looking a beutiful female for love and relation..but i dont know how to impress any one any how to ask for relation plz help me

Well I think that really depends on the circumstances really. Sometimes it comes before and sometimes it comes after. It's like saying which came 1st. " the chicken or the Egg?"

Do you fall in love before or after you have sex?

I can't say I agree! - IMHO Real men have no problem committing and taking responsibility. It's the "boys" who run in the opposite direction for various reasons who cannot be man enough to commit.
This is also not strictly "a boys club" some women are also afraid of commitment - for what reason I cannot say! :)


Single ladies,here are the reasons why some men aint ready to commit.(1)FEAR OF TAKING RESPONSIBILITY:Men know that when they commit,they must be ready to take on responsibility such as bringing money home to take care of the family's needs,maintaining & protecting the family.It will interest you to know that some men just dont like to think about the kinds of responsibility that come with getting married to a woman and having children.(2)PAST HURTFUL EXPERIENCES:Some men will like to commit to women,but they find it difficult because they have either been dumped or cheated on by someone they really loved.(3)FEAR OF MISSING OUT ON THE MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMEN:Somen men will not commit because they dont want to miss out on the most beautiful woman that is yet to show up.You may be a nice person & beautiful in your own way,but something still tells him that there is someone out there who is more beautiful,nicer & sexier than you.(4)HIGH RATE OF DIVORCE:You all know how women like single motherhood these days.

The reality is, not everyone finds love. Companionship on the other hand, anyone can find. You just need to always be yourself, never come across as desperate and NEVER give up looking for that special someone that's looking for the same as you. "There is a lid for every pot" just be aware that not all lids fit as tightly as they should.
Good Luck!

I have a question for everyone how long do you search for love, companionship or anything that goes with it before you honestly just give up if someone could please answer this question I would be great full thanks

women ;) .... and I have MANY times.
Don't get me wrong, I 'love' women,..... just not in the sack.
Been there done that, worn the T shirt and thankfully discovered my true self many years ago sometime during the jurassic period - before I hurt some poor gal unintentionally :)

Agreed, one should not be judged by one's accent or the way you happen to talk. We are all a product of our upbringing and circumstances which are out of our control.
I too will not tolerate anyone who thinks just because they happen to have a more privileged upbringing, they are better than me. The queen's farts, stink just like the rest of us :)




Well, it's more of a working class sort of thing here really. I suppose that brings me back on topic because I get on with people that speak the same sort of language as me and don't look down their noses at me. That woman that I dated was just a snob. She said that she was from South Africa and I could have said a few things about that but I didn't. I've got a neighbor that's from Thailand and she says that she really likes it here and thinks that Scottish people are really friendly.

I remember a couple of years ago walking past a posh woman in the street that was talking to a builder that was doing some work on her house. He said something about how she should discuss something with "her man". She replied that she would discuss it with her man and that sounded funny to me because posh birds don't talk like that. She was being a good sport about it though, or trying to speak the guy's language or something, instead of putting on the airs and graces.

My mother tried to encourage me to speak what she called "the Queen's English" and not use slang, and she didn't even like me using the word "she" because it's supposedly somehow disrespectful to women, or was a million years ago when she was brought up. I could call that outdated as well. It works both ways. I find it rude when people tell me that they don't like the way that I talk and I certainly wouldn't get on with the sort of woman that would get all uptight and snooty about being called a bird. Fortunately, I've never heard anyone apart from Americans on the internet objecting to it.

Well said Only

While I am in the US and not familiar with things where Strat is, I do find offense in the word *chick*. Never heard the reference of *bird* before.

I think looking at a person as an individual before ALL else is the most important part. Once you get past that, then see their gender, race or religion. I want to be known for WHO I am and then see me as the WOMAN that I am. (Just My Opinion)

I would say sex is a must for everyone, that been said most women do need more of an emotional connection than men to engage in sex. That's just my observation and opinion.

Sex is must for all males till they are physically active irrespective of age.But in case of ladies it may not be the same especially after menopause.

agreed :)
I've edited my prior statement as it did contain some errors. It's a given that everyone can choose to make their own choices and reap their own consequences, I do not dispute that. My choices are just that, my choices made according to my conscience and no one else's. In deciding what type of person I would choose to be with, the only one who would be a good match with me would be someone who shared "the same values" as regards what commitment and monogamous mean to them. We, in other words, would be on the same page.

Of course you are entitled to your opinion and outlook. Whatever works for you is all that really counts. That goes for everybody. We are all different with different needs and desires. Finding a happy middle ground within a stable relationship is what's important for me. Nothing is one sided.



I don't view a "committed relationship" as a wholely "monogamous relationship". I don't care what social monogamy is considered to be by whoever wrote the definition. That description does not described a committed relationship to me but a semi-committed, meaning "committed part of the time". That concept does not accurately describe what I wish to have or want in a relationship. If that was the type of relationship I would have offered to me, I would prefer to remain single and keep my integrity rather than settle for something of lesser value. JMHO

I don't view a "committed relationship" as a wholely "monogamous relationship". I don't care what social monogamy is considered to be by whoever wrote the definition. That description does not described a committed relationship to me but a semi-committed, meaning "committed part of the time". That concept does not accurately describe what I wish to have or want in a relationship. If that was the type of relationship I would have offered to me, I would prefer to remain single and keep my integrity rather than settle for something of lesser value. JMHO