that could have been me at one time

have you talked to her, before you place judgement on her? I have some relation that would never step a foot in the hospital, they just do not do hospitals. Not trying to excuse her just thinking outloud.

that had to be one of the hardest decisions that smho ever made and may ever make. I agree take a few steps back and re-evaluate what is going on. I see where she is comming from, and it is hard on the kids when the dad is not involved in their life, especially if he is a good dad which I believe you are. Whether or not your ex has a new man or not, you are still their dad, and they need you....just my two cents worth. BEST OF LUCK TO YOU BOTH!

good post quite the issue to ponder especially going into a new relationship. Hopefully all his loving attentiveness will not change once he knows he actually has me, then again maybe it will. HUMMMMMM think I need to talk to him about that. Thanks do not want to end up

cat you are coming to my state and I am not that far from you that is so cool. when are you coming? The best to the both of you. Could not be happier for you two.

thanks gypsy, that means alot to me

Here is goes:


-Did you meet him on JustSayHi?

Yes he was one of my mutual matches and one of his answers in his profile intriqued me so I emailed him and it went from there.

-How long have you been talking before you decided to meet?

We had been emailing about twoo weeks then we exchanged phone numbers and we talk everyday at least three times. He is the first thing I hear in the morning and the last voice I hear before I go to bed.

-So do you have any plans or just be spontaneous?

I have somewhat got the weekend planned, but the majority is going to be left in spontanity, to just be us and enjoy each other.

-Have you let your friends and family know of this meeting?

Yes, two of my kids are all for this relationship and the other two are more skeptical, although I told my son today that he would get to meet him this weekend.


It is scary starting over in any relationship,

yes it is as I was married to one man for almost thirty five years when he died so this is all new to me.

you are putting yourself and your heart out there....

I have been very reserved on my emotions with him and he knows that and he is working very hard to show me how much I mean to him. This weekend will tell us if we go farther or just remain friends

exposed and it takes a huge amount of courage to do that and risk the consequences of it not working and parting as friends hopefully.

5 hours away is just a hop, skip and jump LOL Can you imagine the people here that are talking major moves, like thousands of miles and countries and big pond jumps? LOL At least you would not be dealing with immigratation, paperwork, not unless of course Iowa has came up with some new laws LOL

I am happy for you You'll have to keep us posted on how it goes.... the sweaty palms, beating heart, blushes.... ahhhhhhhh

Thank you so much for asking yokoke

I have been reading these on LDR, and I met someone on here that lives 5 hours and he is coming this weekend to meet. I am really nervous and yet excited because so far with all the phone conversations and emails we are so much alike and have a tremendous amount of things that we are compatable in. He has already said if it would work out he will move here but I am a little apprehensive on that because I do not want him later to regret giving up his home, even though he has nothing there, still it has been his home for many years. Guess we meet this weekend and see if the chemistry is actually there and then go from there. I almost feel like a school girl

Warm welcome to JSH

thank you sin, I will be really nervous, but it will be worth it he is awesome. will keep in touch

I had a mutual match and part of his profile intriqued me and we started communicating, and he is coming this weekend for a visit. If we connect like we do on the phone it will be great. Possibility of another couple, we'll see

DITTO to Tigerman, try to let it go all it is is stupid talk. Obviously they have nothing better to do with their time.

chocolate on chocolate, love them there chocolate, amazing it is pretty accurate!

personally I think beards and mustaches are a big turn on for me. My husband could not grow anything and this time around am looking for the opposite, now hair alllll over yuck

I was in one post one night and it was rediculous what was going on, I was almost ashamed at being a memember on here, but I thought they are not going to take anything from me that I do not freely give up, and I like it here. Sorry about you guys that were mean, so far I have not had that experience to you twitch

read your profile and you have stated exactly what I have wanted a man in my life to find, and that is the inner beauty of me, not just the outer presence. You have a lot going for you just relax and give it time, there are good women out there that want a good hearted man.

Hi Gordon, welcome and like everyone else said post post post. Best of luck to you it is said there is someone for each of us.

your garage is full of junk and your good car sits outside.....woah sh1t I must be a red neck, lol

Cory I do not know how baaaddd the scars are but just like the others have said beauty is only skin deep. Post in the forums and let the gals find out who you are on the inside and the outside will not matter. If someone is only looking at the outside they are superficial and not worth the time anyway, and yes I am one of the older ones on this site, and I read your profile and it was good. Relax, good things happen in time, and not always in our time. Take care and have fun here.

take care Pam and come back when you are ready