I really do appreciate everyone's insight on this topic. I think I can honestly say that this is at at the top of my list as being one of the hardest decisions I've had to make for my daughter.

I really will be giving this a lot of thought and consideration, and truly hope I can make the best decision for her.

See, that's what I'm thinking. The minute it was said that there was a possible preventative vaccination for cervical cancer, every one got so excited about it and it's almost as if they think this could actually be a cure. And I feel like there is so much focus on the positive aspects of it that researchers don't want to put much emphasis on anything negative about it, or not yet anyway.

I feel like I'm damned if I do, and damned if I don't!

I'm just wondering if it is giving us false hope?

Plus, it doesn't protect you against all the cervical cancers, so who's to say this vaccination will work on which cervical cancer?

It's just so new that I'm worried that there hasn't been enough research or studies done on it to say without a doubt that it is 100% effective.

And so far, it's not mandatory here in the state of Virginia.

Well, I'd like to hear people's opinions based on what they have heard or read, instead of basing it on what I've heard or read.

But one of the key points I've read and heard about is that the vaccination only last 5 years, but that a woman may not even contract the HPV virus until her 50's. So what is the point of getting it? Also, it has been suggested to get a booster shot after those 5 years, but there is no proof as to how much longer that booster shot will last. Nothing is concrete as to how effective this vaccination is, so it's almost as if you are getting the shot for nothing.

At least somebody on here gets it!

It's that time of year again in school where they are doing the Family Health classes. The school sent out a letter encouraging parents to vaccinate their daughters with the HPV shot. My daughter will be eligible to get it in 3 months when she turns 11. I am on the fence about this vaccination and sort of leaning towards not getting it for her due to hearing more negative things about it then positive. If I could, I'd like to hear from anyone about this vaccination, and whether or not they think it is a good idea to do. I appreciate anyone's input on this regardless of what your opinion is on this issue.

Thanks in advance.

I think part of it is denial as well. A lot of times when we are cheated on, we tend to ask ourselves "What did I do wrong to deserve this?" It's a lot easier blaming the third party then considering maybe we played a role in the partner's cheating, even though we had nothing to do with it.

My only plans are to give birth. I think that will do me for a while.

I put back $20 each paycheck (because that's all I can afford) and the rest is pinched throughout the month. There's very little extra to splurge with.

The only problem I see with him telling her is he could end up not "manning up" and end up telling the child lies and putting all the blame on the Mom.

Just tell her the truth about why he can't come back. Kids are a lot more resilient then we think they are. Yes it will hurt in the beginning, but she will be okay. And be sure to answer all her questions as simply as possible.

In a way, that's kind of a good thing, because at least when he does finally say it, he's reached the point where he feels he is totally committed to her. But then again, how long should she wait before she realizes that she possibly had been wasting her time on something that was never going to happen.

Call me crazy, but I just can't see someone wanting to get in to a relationship with a man or woman who had the attitude that they were going to be dumped at some point. How depressing! If I ever got stuck in something like that I'd give you what you expected from the beginning and tell you to hit the road.

That law would only apply if she was pregnant with his kid.

No, it can't stop it. Sounds to me like she is trying to pull something over on you. Be cautious and follow through with the divorce.

"or maybe you gained weight?" I think that part could have been left unsaid.

I'm debating on whether or not to eat breakfast. My head is so stuffed up, I can barely taste my coffee, so I thinking what would be the point of eating if I can't taste it?

Oh yeah, it's all our fault!

I agree. It's pretty sad that every guy or gal we find interest in, one of the first things we tend to wonder is if they are a psycho or not.