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moving on
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Sometimes you dont move on and maybe that is good and bad...........it depends on the circumstances............I think if you think you tried your hardest to hold on an it wast reciprocated back then you should move on..............but if its external circumstances that ended the relationship then you just wait.....it can be had to let someone go but sometimes it is a positive thing if you learn form it............what is the problem exactly? Oh I went over this on some other threads, and people are probably sick of my whining by now but here is the extremely short version: Met this girl and thought she was the greatest thing ever. She claimed I was the greatest thing ever also. Had her meet my parents and the whole bit. Found out she had been physically and emotionally abused by several men. After quite awile she just completely switched gears from me being the best thing that ever happend to her to her not even wanting to talk to me. At first she said she really wanted things to work out, but was never clear on what needed to be "worked out" even when asked. I saw the writing on the wall, but hung in there, and finally she gave me the boot. (and still managed to tell me how great I treated her) I was devestated. I have been through breakups before, but this one for some reason hit me like a ton of bricks. if she`s been in abusive relationships,..she`s probably grew up in an abusive home,.'love' to her is pain & suffering,..anything else is foreign,..and doesn`t know how to accept it,. also,..your attraction to her is a red flag ( hit me like a ton of bricks ) by choosing an emotionally unavailable partner,.and hangin on,.. I feel your pain,..been there before,..taught me I have some of my own serious issues to work on,.. |
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i miss him
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it will be hard as codependents find doin for others so rewarding,..that`s where they get their sense of worth,..
have you ever heard of Al Alon ? |
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i miss him
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check out the book
' Woman who love too Much ' a very worth while read |
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Why do some people do this?
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People follow patterns in their life and have a tendency to gravitate towards what makes them comfortable. In some cases, subconsciously they are used to certain behaviors and even abuse is all that they know. Some people find comfort in knowing what to expect. If they are used to being treated a certain way, it is all they know and keep coming back for more. Good question! Good morning all of you! I have missed you 
GOOD ANSWER 
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JUST A ??????????
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strip away everything else, men sole job in nature is to populate and plant their seed whenever the opportunity arise!
that was fine back in the dinosaur days,..but overpopulation isn`t |
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Sunday morniing
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lol,.nobody`s up,..
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Why do some people do this?
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guess we all been there,.. done that,..got the t-shirt,..
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love yourself?
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k well-ive always been proud to not lie about my looks or personality. its hard and shameful-but i know i can be more moody than 50 women on menapause! ive been to therapy. but i know i have to do it within myself for myself. im scared and weak and shy it effect any interest i might have on a guy I`m reading a really interesting book right now called,.. " Women who love too Much " it explains how the dysfunction that goes on in families,.follows one into adulthood,.. like no matter how bad your childhood was,.you might try to duplicate the same scenerio over again until you get some help to clear your past,.. it`s not your fault and if you can examine the past,..it might set you free |
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Why do some people do this?
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 Why do some people still love the ones that use them, hurt them, and speak mean about them?
Maybe because they see any kind of attention as a good thing. Maybe because they lack the self-discipline to be tough on themselves, but it is needed. Maybe because each little bit of acceptance that is earned becomes a measure of success, and thus becomes a sort of security. Maybe because failure is not an option. Right, or wrong, the difficulties of this phase of the relationship can be outlived, overcome, and made better, with loving devotion. Giving up (finally!!) is hard to do. Being sure of oneself afterwards, is even harder. wow,..you really get this,.. |
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Why do some people do this?
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I've been with someone that was never treated right before family, friends and relationships. When we were together things that were normal to me seemed strange and wonderful for her when her life changed "being treated right" she got back to school confidence and life energy. well we got married but after 5 years she went back to wanting low standards. so it becomes their life  that must of been terribly hard for you,..
to help her achieve so much then watch her fall back down,.as so many do,..because they don`t know how to handle stability,..they are attracted to chaos like moths to a flame,.. |
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Why do some people do this?
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to them,..love is pain & suffering,..
anything else is boring |
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Why do some people do this?
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ps,.they really believe that they can change them,..if they`re really good and try really hard,..they can make that person love them,.. it`s a challenge,..
same way they had to be for mommy or daddy to love them,.. |
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Why do some people do this?
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that`s how they grew up,.they`re attracted what`s familar,..if love was abusived then,.that`s all they know,..
cursed to repeat the abuse pattern over & over again,.until like galandgirl says,.you learn to love yourself,.. |
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Heart break
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totally freakin awesome,..
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I'm here, but I'm not bored, and I don't drink, so I'm no help at all. I will be heading to bed soon, though. Still got that work thing in the morning, and 3:00 a.m. comes early. that will keep you out of trouble,.. 
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The Animal Odd Couple
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  that was soooooo beautiful,....
what an awesome place,.. tx for sharing,..
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no good
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Someone should complain about these new changes on mingle,the old way was better you can't even send anyone a wink or a smile Type in your e-mail.  and it will work
Thanks for the work-around, dbh1966. Hope it helped a few users get around the temporary bug. As for the changes that we made in the ad department, they were absolutely necessary. Love them or hate them, they are responsible for the vast majority of the site's income. They keep the site free. 
I should know this,.it`s the same at the post office where I work,.. probably wouldn`t have a job without the add mail,.. |
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mouse in the house
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I caught at least 10 mice with a live trap baited with goodies and then would take a 10 minute drive to the Cascades to release them,.. ( so they wouldn`t come back )
I agree with you about not killing,..everything has a purpose in this life,..even the tiniest tiny bug,. without these creepy crawlers,.human life as we know it will cease to exist,.. |
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Problems!!
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ya,..it`s freezing out,.lol
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Leather Weather...
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flannel,..I made a balaclava out of an old pair of pj`s,..super warm,..
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