I also need much sleep. 8,5 hrs minimum. I go to bed and set the alarm for 9 hrs later and it usually boils down to anything in between 8,5 & 9 hours.
Any less and I'm not fully rested.

If a partner needs less sleep I expect him to deal with that himself. It's not my problem and shouldn't become that either.

But yes, it does matter to me. It's similar with someone being an early riser. I think I'd find that more difficult to deal with and would affect compatibility more.
I'm a late riser, go to bed later as well. I feel best late afternoon and in the evenings. If I need to rise early I feel totally totalled and I feel like a zombie.

So if a guy is an early riser it effects a lot: you don't have breakfast together, don't go to bed together, don't have interaction when I feel at my best etc. etc.

Thru my life I worked many wierd shifts.
My sleep periods ranged anywhere from 3 hours a night to 12 hours a day.
The X was a dutiful wife. She always saw me off to work and greeted mt when I got home. It didn't matter the time of day.

My gf right now goes to bed around 9pm every night.
She gets up around 4 or 5 am.

I got to bed around midnight or 1 am (unless I am lost in a movie). I get up around 7 am.
Thing is, I wake multiple times during my sleep periods (can't sleep in pain).

I take my night meds around 9-10 pm. One of them is melatonin. I also take two acetaminophen PMs. I also take 4 other Rx drugs prescribed for bedtime.
It takes till nearly 1 am for those to affect me enough to be able to fall asleep.

When my gf goes to bed at 9pm sometimes I wonder why but I realize she is conditioned to be that way.
I accept her at face value and no longer have fears from jealousy. I don't mind her being on social media and talking to other men.
She is with me because she wants to be with me.
That's enough for me.

If this changes for either of us, it will be the end of the relationship but not the end of friendship.
We are two grown intelligent adults and neither of us is interested in playing childish games.

Next Subject: Poop Stink
Can you tolerate your partner's bathroom odors and does it cause you to have issues with your relationship?

Alternative Subject: Hard Knocks
Does your partner knock at your door or just walk right in? Does this cause problems in your relationship?

To me, sleeping differences ranks right along with those two subjects.

The real issue of this thread is trust. Not only the ability to trust your partner when you are not present but whether your partner is trustworthy when you are not present.

I suspect sleep patterns is but the tip of that iceberg.

Pentatonix version of "Mary Did You Know?".

Runners up: "O Holy Night", "Winter Wonderland", "Where Are You, Christmas?", "Grown Up Christmas List".

I refuse to take meds, bar Valerian. I want to get rid of the cause and not numbing the symptoms

I sleep for six hours... even thru an earthquake..... and soundly ...and I rarely talk online to friends if , I am in a kinda relationship!!! I feel it's like cheating .... yeah ! I know I' m kinda stupid like that , but it's just me being me !!!!

I sleep around 4hrs each night.

When I was married I just got out of bed and did chores so I didn’t have to do them when I got home from work. My ex could sleep anywhere at anytime so he was never disturbed.

9 hours? That's what I get in a whole week

Okay, it's a bit better atm, but this might be because of all the painkillers I am taking.

But a proper night sleep and having Anxiety does not go well together anyway

Thinking with all this virtual sex talk going around , It's making me nervous ... and with all this spam going around , especially about penis enlargement etc ...I am getting embarrassed!!!!

Internet Sex = Masturbation
Unless there is some new technology I am unaware of recently.

It is masturbation using audio/visual stimuli over a tcp/ip connection...nothing more.

Phone Sex = Masturbation

It is masturbation using voice stimuli.

The only form of true sex is actual physical sex between two or more people.

The use of toys by yourself is masturbation.
The use of magazines by yourself is masturbation.
The use of imagination by yourself is masturbation.

Any sex by yourself is masturbation no matter the stimuli.

Masturbation can be mentally healthy or addictive.
Most human beings masturbate from time to time.
Some people develop a masturbation addiction to porn. Porn is readily available on the internet.

If you think you are having sex, look around you.
If there is not another person there with you, its masturbation.

Internet Sex is a misnomer much like Internet Dating. In actual real life, both require the presence of another person with whom you can reach out and actually touch.
Lack of such means you are alone, physically.

Driving Home for Christmas- Chris Rea

Might be an addiction, might be an act of despair. But there is always an alarm bell ringing, with 'blackmail' written on it

I agree. Long distance is only an option for me if it is possible to meet regardless and at least one is able and willing to move. A permanent long distance is not an option for me either. I'm too cuddly. I need touch, feeling, kissing, really being together to talk, laugh, interact. And sleep together!
And when physically together he can also put the rolling bin out for me

Giggling as I type that last bit, hihi. I'm beginning to feel so so ready for a relationship! I kinda lost that feeling for a while.
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Yeah there is people, who like that stuff. But I am not one of them. I shall give it a pass

Even if you have a click with someone so you'd go there... how can it be fulfilling?
Sure, you can have a great peak moment, but you're still alone, not touched, not touching, not kissing, not feeling. And most of all: not merging together.

It could be a short term thrill, but in the end you still got nothing.

Yeah I know .

Beware if you do the video one since they might be hacked and the hacker will demand a ransom from you both to not go public with them.