I met someone really nice, we're friends. I enjoy the forums a lot too. There are a lot of nice members on this site.

Not only say No, but once you say it care less what they think, say, or feel. I had to learn that one. Now it doesn't bother me at all.

You can still be a nice guy, you don't have to be a bit of an A-hole as you call it because of a few bad women. I don't believe nice guys finish last either. That's a negative saying someone made up and now it's a popular phrase. I don't understand men who choose to be with women who's mouths are foul, attitudes are awful, and only want them for what he can give them. The only thing she's got going for her is a nice shape. Outside she's beautiful but inside she's... well you get my point.

I've been hurt before, but I'd rather stay as I am. My life would be uncomfortable any other way.

I was at the casino with family member.

Ok, does this count? I held the door open for an elderly lady today.

Ok, so I missed it today. But tomorrow I promise I'll do better.

I came to work, deed done.

That's so wrong.

I don't mind being called sexy at all. Just don't pat me on the butt as you walk by and say it.

Thanks so much everyone for such feedback. It has help in more ways than you'll know.

I've heard time and time again that men say it's the way she makes me feel when I'm with her. Pray tell,what kind of feeling is it that you men feel?

I'm curious, how big were his guns?


Just kidding.

His kindness, the lovemaking, quiet times we spent together, how in many ways he made me a better person by being patience. He truly is a good person.

I am moving on but it isn't easy. I noticed that I tend to find excuses for rejecting men who are interested in me. The man I love there is no way for us to make it. In what ways did it help you guys to get over your ex?

Then please tell me why do men go for women with cute faces, and hot bodies rather than women who have nice personalities. Who's more superficial men or women when it comes to looks? Should this have been a new thread?

You know I miss read your post, I thought you were referring to us serving you guys better. That's why in my earlier reply I was rolling with laughter. But honestly, I don't think you mean serving as in like a servant way, but if you mean what steps can men take to better please their women then I would have to say for me, be honest, listening and trying to understand me (which I know the listening and understanding part can be hard for men cause we can be complicated). In all just treat me with love and respect, then I'll start to think of ways to serve, uh I mean please you.

Penny, you've spent 7 years wanting more and I've spent 3 with someone I too met on this site wanting more. I love him dearly, but he has made it clear he does not want marriage. It has always caused a problem with our relationship. Many women have given you good advice, consider strongly if this is a good thing before making that move. Your friend is not wrong for wanting what he wants, good for him for being honest with you, but you deserve to be happy in a relationship the way you want it too. Whatever decision you make make sure you're happy and you're not compromising for someone else's happiest.

I agree, just asking because now days I see many women who could use their bf help, but aren't getting it. It just make me wonder what ever happened to the time when men came to your aid because they loved you. And yes I know women can take care of themselves and we don't neccessary need a man, but like I said I'm old fashion and I just think that my man should have my back if I have his.

Ok, at what point in a relationship is it ok to offer help financially to your partner if they are in a crisis? If his/her car broke down, or they've lost their job and about to loose their home. If you were getting married but one of you needed a place to stay would you let them stay at your place until they got on their feet? If my man were in a crisis I would help him in any way I could. Is there some new rules in dating and relationships where it's each man for his own. I'm not talking about golddiggers or men wanting a sugar mama here, but true relationships where each person really cares about each other. Maybe I'm just old fashion.