Ok, at what point in a relationship is it ok to offer help financially to your partner if they are in a crisis? If his/her car broke down, or they've lost their job and about to loose their home. If you were getting married but one of you needed a place to stay would you let them stay at your place until they got on their feet? If my man were in a crisis I would help him in any way I could. Is there some new rules in dating and relationships where it's each man for his own. I'm not talking about golddiggers or men wanting a sugar mama here, but true relationships where each person really cares about each other. Maybe I'm just old fashion.

If you wish to help him financially don't expect him to pay you back. It'll save you a whole lot of aggravation.
Personally, unless I am married to the person, I would keep money out of the relationship.

Very wise advice.

Assuming I was in a LTR with someone I loved, I would definitely help my partner out financially if he needed it.

yup

I agree, just asking because now days I see many women who could use their bf help, but aren't getting it. It just make me wonder what ever happened to the time when men came to your aid because they loved you. And yes I know women can take care of themselves and we don't neccessary need a man, but like I said I'm old fashion and I just think that my man should have my back if I have his.

Well, sometimes a guy just simply doesn't have the funds or in my case the time to help me with my renos. It doesn't mean they don't love me; its just they have their own responsibilities which is something I understand and respect.

I would be very cautious about helping a boyfriend financially. Their is a thin line between helping and being used. I would ask for full disclosure of all his bills and expenses before i decided to help him. I would also offer money saving tips and refer him to agencies that offer assistance.

I have to agree with this - he prolly do u the same

i agree with these, b'cos i had an experance with my ex-fiancé, i lend him some money nd when i ask him back it turn trouble, he told me he has given me more then that before so i just forget about d money. Now i will not give any guy my money.

Go with your gut instinct, unless it's usually wrong. Mine is usually right though. Im not sure about letting him live with me though if he isn't working. He needs that to be planning a marriage anyways.

I never make loans. If I have it I give it. If I need it I ask for it. Worrying about the balance of give and take would be such a drag I don't think I could be with anyone who had to keep us even. Material is all in the mind and love is all in the heart.

I have enough business partners in my life who look at the money so when it comes to me and my better half it's share in the good times and share in the tough times.

Love has it's own way of balancing the books in my book.

This is a slippery slope. I have never asked anybody for nothing. I worked very hard for the money I have. I give generously as I can with the people I care for. Problem is when it starts to become expected.........

This is true, but for a relationship just starting out for the first time moving in together...perhaps, i would be hesitant. Its a little different when you are already together and hit hard times together. then It's all about support for one another.

Hummm either friends or lovers if you give don't expect it back so only give what you can afford to throw out the window....

For me it would have to be pretty serious for me to open up my pockets.... I will do anything for a friend when it comes to my time but money is a different situation.

Ohh and I have opened my doors to a friend in need for a place to stay till they could find one...

So it would all depend on how things were with that person...

I'm with her ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^