No offense, but I find the excuse, "Men don't like me because of my size" to be very weak. There are plenty of men (and I do mean plenty) that like women with meat on their bones.

You should be more focused on your inner self. Stop worrying about the outside. If Joey Ramone from the Ramones could get attractive women then ANY man can get a woman and vice versa for women. You ever see what Joey Ramone looked like?

I see so many posts about "Do you think I could get a date?" or "Why isn't anyone looking at my profile?", etc. It's called low self esteem. You need to embrace who you truly are inside. It doesn't matter if some people don't like you because you don't need those people in your life anyway. Once you start learning to love yourself then your life becomes a whole lot brighter. No one in this world is going to improve your life except for yourself. Sure, it's great to have a co-pilot on board but be secure in flying solo from time to time as well.

By the way, I love larger women. I can usually go up to about a size 20 or so depending on how she carries herself. I love large natural breasts and nice curves. Would I date someone over 300 pounds? Probably not. However, I knew a guy when I was in my early 20's that would date women over 300 pounds and he weighed 130 lbs.

Lastly, stop letting the media make you feel guilty about your size.

McGruff1, in all honesty I would revamp your entire profile. Like someone else mentioned before me, it comes across as being very negative, low self esteem, run on sentences, punctuation errors, misspells and doesn't say much about who you really are.

My two cents? Here is a list:

1. Add additional pics. Take one of you without your hat and glasses and smile in each and every picture. Get one of yourself with some friends. Get another with you doing something you are very passionate about (cars, horses, welding, etc.) Have one where you can see your entire body. Have about four photos but no more than six. And for heaven sakes, no shirtless shots with you flexing your muscles.

2. Like you said, type your profile in a Word document. Type out a rough draft and then analyze it. Would you find the profile interesting if you were someone else?

3. Use humor.

4. Don't ever put "I don't want games, or a liar or a cheater". That is a given. Nobody wants that so why even included it.

5. Don't say you are a low man on the company ladder and you get laid off every year. That is no one's business.

I think that about covers it for me. If anyone else wants to add their two cents, feel free.

Please do not take my advise as an insult to your profile. You asked for advice and that is what I have given. By no means do I consider myself an expert but I have seen so many profiles where people are too afraid to let themselves shine.

I like the fact that you have the maturity to keep those that didn't have girlfriend potential as friends. Some people are not like that at all. If they aren't girlfriend/boyfriend material then they get tossed aside. I can't think of anything better than to find a new friend to interact with.

Yokoke, my sentiments exactly. You can get knocked down, stay down for awhile and then allow yourself to heal and move on or you can get knocked down and stay down. The choice is your own. If you play the "victim" role the rest of your life, then you most certainly will always be a victim in everything you do.

Sigh...here we go again, Romantic Soul. All men want size 0's? Please. I date women who are anywhere from a size 8 up to a size 20. I like woman with meat on their bones. Lumping all men or women for that matter into one category is just plain childish. There are so many different types of people on this site. Not everyone will be a fit but there sure as heck will be some that are pretty darn close.

You want to improve your chances, Romantic Soul? Try removing that 150 mile limit you have on your profile. Start using the Mutual Match and for heaven's sakes stop making negative posts like this. I said it before and I will say it again, negative attitude is one of the biggest turn offs for men and women.

Yes, sir, you did tell me that. I personally have tried it in social situations and the amount of respect I get is overwhelming! The women are so "challenged" by this kind of talk that they continually offer me drinks...on top of my head.

Savagirl, there is a member on here by the name of edukated that you should check out. I think you might be very compatible. Be forewarned, though, "He ain't your *****."

Thank you, Gustava. I was simply trying to help and give a few pointers and she took it as an insult.

Who said you dated on your first chat? I asked questions, plain and simple. You mentioned nothing other than a first date and I was wonder how long you interacted with this person and how you felt about the chemistry BEFORE going out on the date. Sounds pretty straight forward to me.

You may not care about your spelling but people who view your profile do. Think of it this way, your profile is similar to a resume for employers to view. Are you going to say you don't give a **** if an employer won't hire you because you have typos or misspellings. I am not saying that is the reason for not getting a second date but it may increase the number of views you receive...or do you not give a **** about that either?

You come across as a person who thinks that finding chemistry with someone is as easy as 1...2...3. Here are a few questions for you: How long did you chat with them online? How many times did you talk on the telephone? How well did those chats and conversations go? How soon after first contact did you set up the date? Did you feel any connection with that person during the date? How did the date go in your opinion?

One last question: Are you just looking for someone or are you looking for someone special?

Lastly, just some friendly advise. Double check your spelling and punctuation in your profile. People actually do look at those types of things.

1. I use mutual match and post on the forums. If I receive a mutual match email, I always send a short message to the person introducing myself.

2. There are a lot of things I look for in a profile. Here are the types of profiles that I immediately discard:
a. No photo.
b. Photo, no summary.
c. Blurry, pixelated, long view photos (can't see person).
d. Starts profile with "I really don't know what to say..."
e. Doesn't use punctuation or misspells multiple times in their profile.
f. Sounds extremely negative or bitter ("get over it", "deal with it", etc.)
g. Has Hustler or Playboy type photo spreads in their profile

3. Looks are the first thing that catches my eye, especially in mutual match. However, there is a certain kind of woman that I am specifically looking for. I gravitate towards the librarian type look rather than Pamela Anderson. If I come across one that catches my eye, I view their profile and proceed with the list mentioned in #2.

4. It depends on the person I am chatting with. I had one who wanted to talk to me after 10 minutes into our chat. I had another where I mentioned that if she was comfortable talking on the phone, that I would provide my number and four days later we spoke by phone.

5. Negativity. Smoker. Hardcore feminist. Heavy Drinker. Thinks of themselves as being "intimidating". Obsessed with money. Atheist. Etc. I've got a long laundry list.

I guess it just comes down to who you are. Some are willing to accept anything that comes their way. For me, I've had the real deal in the past I am not willing to settle for less. I may be single for a long time to come but I am content with that. Where you get into trouble is if you are desperate and just grab the first thing out there.

Because you yell when you type, you don't know how to use punctuation and your sentences make absolutely no sense at all. Did I leave anything out?

We're on here...we are just looking elsewhere...

FYI, negative attitude is SUCH a turn off for either a man or woman.

And I agree with geektothetenth, your previous posts are not helping your odds one bit. How could you honestly be upset that other people have found their true love on here? Are you ****ting me?

I've been here 5 days..1.2.3.4.5..I've had 44 views, 9 mutual matches, 3 returned emails, 1 person thanking me for advice, another thanking me for making them laugh and one that I am very interested in at this point in time. What did I do? I used the mutual match, posted on the forums and put up a profile that expressed who I was through humor. Some will look at it and not like it and others will. I really don't care. I put in my profile that I would also like to meet new friends as well as activity partners. This is a numbers game, sweetie, and in order to get noticed you need to learn how to express that inner beauty, not the inner devil.

So you are basically just looking for someone so you can live rent free, right? Basically a sugar daddy that can do or see whomever he choses as long as you live the life of luxury. Wow, why not just say, "Gold digger seeks man. Nothing matters except your money."

Here is a suggestion, why not handle your own financial affairs instead of expecting someone else to do it for you.

And by the way, good luck finding a man like that without a photo on your profile.

Lastly, ever heard of the saying, "A woman who marries for money ends up having to earn every penny of it." Fair warning, sweetie.

No offense, illithed, but those items are just not strong enough for bi-polar disorder. If you've ever had a panic attack or a manic episode, then you would know. You need something with the strength of Lithium to bring you down from a manic episode. Nothing quite that strong for a panic attack but once you become manic, you need to be hospitalized to become stable again.

From experience, you should never let your meds run out or stop taking your meds. I'm not sure how your refills work but I believe you can pick them up 5-6 days before you finish the month's supply. Going without meds, especially being bi-polar, is a good way to bring on a manic episode. Benadryl? Is she joking or what? Are your panic attacks to the point of where you think you are dying or already dead?

What are you taking? Mood stabilizers? Anti-depressants? Anti-pychotics?

Oh, and please turn off the caps. Yelling this early in the morning is so not cool.

You missed edukated..."insert one of geektothetenth's famous punchlines here"

By the way, the last one you have listed above is classic...geek, you are one funny ass dude

Just looked at your profile, Bryan. For a 23 year old, you seriously have got your act together. I personally wouldn't have a problem with having a gay roommate. Like someone already mentioned, finding a good roommate is hard. If he is trustworthy, will pay his bills on time and not damage your home, I see no problems at all. With all those women you have listed in your friends section, I highly doubt anyone is going to think you are gay. I'm very impressed by the level of maturity you are showing regarding this situation. Hope it all works out for you.

I quit cold turkey about 9 years ago. Best thing I ever did for myself health wise. I agree what the other person said about cutting back on going out to bars and drinking. Smoking and drinking go hand in hand. The first three days of quiting are hell. After that it gets easier and easier. After the first year, you are pretty much in the clear. Continuing to go out drinking at bars is what is going to be the absolute hardest thing for you. Tossing a few back, hanging with the guys, someone lights up, you say, "**** it, give me one of those".

I don't know about other ex-smokers but I now can't stand the smell of smoke especially going into casino's or other establishments that have a lot of smoke.

I don't suggest any of the patches or gum or substituting for another type of tobacco. If you are going to quit, do it cold turkey. If you are strong willed and really want to quit, you can do it. You are probably going to be a real bear around your family and friends so give them a forewarning. I knew a guy who quit cold turkey and every time he got an urge to smoke, he would go for a short walk. He ended up losing 20 pounds from the walks alone. He was a hardcore smoker.

By the way, how bad is your habit? 1/2 pack, 1 pack or more per day?

Well I would think that if you are on this site, then yes, it would be worth spending time speaking with someone. At least for me it is. If nothing is said or the discussion fades or you never talk to that person again, no biggie. There are sure to be more that come along, right?

Even if it ends up being only a friend, I think it is still well worth it. You get to meet so many different people from so many places that you would never been able to do before.