You can still email and get to know her. I haven't set a limit for myself as far as distance because I am looking for both friends as well as a partner in crime.

Hey, you changed your pic. Looks way better, man.

Synthetic,

So who are the woman listed under the "New Matches" at the bottom of my profile? Are those just random profiles or woman that have chosen "yes" or "maybe" for my profile?

Now how long are those matches that I chose kept in the system? For example, if I chose someone this week...if that same person three weeks from now choses me, are we still a mutual match or is there some kind of time limit?

So if I choose someone that has chosen me...do we both get sent an email saying we have a mutual match?

Oh...ok. Well, that's pretty cool then. That means they didn't even know you had an interest in them in the first place. I like that.

I'm confused?!? The ones you get to view are the ones who have already looked at your profile and click "yes" they are interested? Is that correct?

I'm just curious because I have had seven mutual matches and I am wondering how it works. I know I chose them as a "yes" but how do they know I chose them

fight1985,

Just something I noticed on your profile that I would like to suggest. I would use your second pic as your main profile pic instead of the one you have. Has nothing to do with your long hair. You just can't see your face. That second pic shows your face as well as your eyes.

Don't worry about not getting replies. Some just like to look, ya know? What I did was go to the mutual match and browse through those. You pic which ones you are interest in. I've had 7 mutual matches in less than 5 days. Two of those I have had decent "chats" with using IM. One I find to be very interesting. It just comes down to numbers. With the way things are going so far, I know I will find some really cool people on here, whether local or long distance. Might have already found a movie buddy as well from another site that is local.

Um, what does "AGURE" mean? Did you mean "occur"?

And please, don't yell. Quiet time starts at 10 p.m. around here.

Yes, saying I love you after three weeks is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too soon ESPECIALLY if you have never met in person. To me, that is freakin' creepy.

Mesooners,

This is just my two cents based on reading your profile. I would include a pic without the shades and hat. Second, remove these two lines "if you judge by looks well i guess i wont hear from you which is up to you but why be so shallow" and "and havent seen ther mom in over 2 years".

Lastly, use punctuation and double check your spelling. That is one long ass run on sentence you have there. You may not think this, but there are people on here who also judge profiles based on grammar, spelling and punctuation.

You are a decent looking guy. Should have no problems getting replies. I would include some of your passions in life. Describe what it is you enjoy doing in your spare time.

One of the best damn sayings I've ever heard. Kudos to that!

Ok...didn't see your post, ephraimglass. You nailed it...sans buying her a movie. A day all about her will go over VERY well and it isn't too bad on your wallet either.

I'm gonna agree with Pixie. X-nay on the gifts. Go for a special evening out. If you are "financially challenged" find things to do that don't require much money but are still enjoyable (or what she would find enjoyable). Make a half day or day of it.

How "new" are we talking here? Three weeks? Two Months? Longer?

Dr. Phil, I'll try and word this as nicely as I can. I understand you want to help the younger guys out on this forum. I've seen some of the posts from the 18-22 year old guys having problems meeting women and such but you need to understand this, Dr. Phil, in order to give advice on dating or relationships or whatever, you need a little experience under your belt.

I read your profile and you have stated that you have never been in a relationship. Coming on here and posting what you said up there ^, is like walking into a five star restaurant and telling the executive chef how to make a four course meal when you have never even been in a kitchen in your entire life. How do you think the chef is going to react? Seriously...

As for your advice, that is not how to treat anyone...not even your boys. Do you know how offensive "I ain't your *****" is to either a male or female? Especially when someone is just asking to be handed a napkin? You better pray to God that the woman you say that to is not Italian or Irish and for heaven's sake, not a redheaded Irish woman. Mark my words, she will knock you out stone cold right then and there...and you will be eating those words along with it.

I really feel for your generation, Dr. Phil. Too many of these reality shows are a perfect example of how NOT to treat someone. You want to shine for your woman? Open her car door, help push her chair in when she is sitting down for dinner, allow her to order first when the waiter comes to your table, get up from the table and go find your waiter if she remarks that she needs this or that, etc. You act like a gentleman. In your age group, this is a rare breed, indeed. That isn't being a push over. That is being a man. You can still being nice to people and not be a push over. It is quite possible.

And if you are wondering why I continue to call you Dr. Phil it is because he is a good example of someone who doesn't know what the hell he is talking about yet acts like an expert on the subject. He is basically full of ****. I know it's not necessarily a nice nickname but you have kind of earned it with your posts.

Good luck, man. I'm not saying all the individuals in your generation are bad but I would highly suggest throwing that ****ing tv out the window. Good manners and treating people with respect goes a long way in this world. You want to stand out in the crowd? Start with those two things are you will be pulling ahead of the competition in no time.

There are times in life when you do have to whip out the proverbial "balls" but not when someone asks you for a napkin. Don't ever confuse "acting like a complete and total ****" to being a man.

And if you are constantly dating women that "push" you around, then you need to start fishing in a different pond.

Ok, I'm gonna get off my soapbox now.

Dr. Phil, you back again, man?

Sadly, I can relate to the above. I didn't have a crush on the New Kids on the Block but I did see one of their concerts...and I'm a guy. I didn't buy the tickets but I still went which is just as bad. Of Course, I was only 16 years old so I sorta have an excuse.



This needs to be removed from the list. This was 1990. Technically not the 80's.

The Karate Kid was and still is the greatest 80's movie ever!

Sigh...the good old days...

Ok, you got me there.

It doesn't limit your dating options. That same 5'5" guy I mentioned before got a lot of women back in the day. Have you had women tell you they wouldn't date you because of your height?

For me, it's just a point of being comfortable in my own bones. If a women didn't want to date me because of my height then I lucked out because I wouldn't want to be with someone that shallow anyway.

I just looked at your profile. In your main pic you look like James Hetfield from Metallica back in the early 90's. And yes, that is a compliment because old school Metallica kicks ass!

Well, there are some seeds that just fall to the ground, sprout their own roots to get water, stretch to get sunshine and the soil is so rich that nutrients aren't needed. Those plants grow up just as beautiful if not more so than the nurtured seed.

That's just a matter of perspective. I love being shorter (5'6") and would not have any problem dating someone taller. All my girlfriends have been either the same height or shorter but if I met a taller women I wouldn't reject her just because of her height. Hey, I just checked your profile...were the same height. Do you not like your height because of past rejections or just don't like being shorter period?

I knew a guy way back in high school that was 5'5" and he dated a girl that was 6'. She adored him.