Ok, Illusion of Me, I just took a look at your profile. First, you got your act together. You come across as being intelligent in your profile, you list your passions (very good), you don't smoke, you're not a heavy drinker, etc. You're a decent looking guy and you are tall. There are plenty of women who like tall men.

I don't know your track record but like edukated said, rejection isn't that bad. In fact, your last post, edukated, was really good.

It's just a numbers game. You're going to come across those woman that aren't attracted to you. It's just a given. Believe it or not, not all women find Brad Pitt good looking.

There isn't any reason to rush into it. But I like that person's post about a group activity. Or you could just go for the gold and ask her out. The only problem I see is that you haven't even talked to her that much at all and second she is a co-worker.

Rejection isn't easy but it is how YOU react to it. If she says "No" then say, "Ok, thank you" and the next day talk to her like you normally would. Acting weird, depressed, ignoring, etc. is going to really make her feel uncomfortable.

I don't know how old you are and I don't know your intentions. Someone here mentioned a group thing. If you have friends that like to go out invite her along. Much less stressful for her and you get time to know each other.

Take some time to get to know her. See what her interests are, her lifestyle, etc. You may find her physically attractive but you may find something out that truly turns you off saving you the hassle.

No offense to educaked, but his advice is about as good as Dr. Phil's.

And contrary to popular belief, you aren't stuck in the friends zone once you get there. Long term relationships are built upon being friends first and leading into lovers. Trust me, sex first and friends later NEVER works.

Of course, it depends on your intentions. If your looking to hit it and forget it that take crib notes from educaked.

But you seem to keep pointing out what the man should be doing to "keep the woman in love" with him. Yes, relationships are work. My last one was for 9 years. However, she did plenty of little things for me that completely took me by surprise. I agree it is those little things that count but IndnPrncs hit the nail right on the head when she said it should come from the heart.

Hey, you preach it...I'll keep yelling "Amen!"

Hey I said I was high maintenance.

Crackerjack kind. I know...I'm high maintenance like that.

You're killing me man.

Ok, you need to marry me...like now. Preach it, sister!!!

Yeah, I guess stalking can win some over, huh?

My ex-g/f actually sent me a plant to work and all the woman came over to ask who sent it.

She also lavished me with gifts when we first started dating.

I obviously did my share as well.

A few years ago, Paul McCartney came into town. I bought seventh row tickets. Very expensive. We went to the arena and I took her to some real nose bleed seats up high. She said, "This is nice." After a few minutes of sitting there I said, "This isn't right. I better go ask where our seats are." I asked an attendant and she started walking us onto the floor and my g/f started crying and when we got to the seventh row she just lost it. We were both big Beatles fans.

Seriously man, you should do stand up. You got some funny ass lines.

I don't try to get a woman to fall in love with me. Either she is down with me or not. I obviously open doors for her and treat her with respect and the normal stuff but if you are asking if I do cartwheels and stuff to get her attention, then no.

Not to sound cocky or anything but with a few exceptions, I allowed the woman to make the first move when it came to dating. Then I know for sure she is interested and when I feel the time is right I make the first physical contact.

Some women out there do not like this and expect the man to be a "man" and make the first move but the woman I've dated in the past obviously didn't have a problem.

This is a joke, right? She hasn't actually even met the guy? Did I miss something here? Can someone clue me in on the inside joke?

Let me guess...lillylover89 is what, 18 years old?

Just caught that...pretty darn funny.

High five indeed, brother.

Last date? About 10 years ago. I was in a relationship for 9 years and have been single for one year now. Took a little time to bounce back and throw that baggage out the front door but I'm ready to "get back out there".

I am very content and not concerned at all. I'm still in my mid-30's, I know what I want to do with my life, I know what I am looking for in a partner and I will eventually find it in time. No rush at all.

Your initial question did not include the word "solely" on looks. It said, "Does 1 man exist that doesn't go by looks?"

Sorry, there isn't ONE person that doesn't go by that. It is called physical attraction. It is NOT the sole reason for choosing a mate but it is ONE reason and kind of important.

You tend to imply that every man is looking for a model. I like women with meat on their bones, curvy, "healthy" whatever you want to call it. I saw a guy's profile on another site that said, "If you are 30 pounds overweight, don't contact me" I knew a guy who dated 300 pound women and he was about 130 pounds. We are all attracted to different things.

I can tell you one thing I'm not attracted to, negative attitude towards the opposite sex.

Almost all of us on here have been burned in past relationships. Either you learn from it, move on and grow stronger or you wallow in it and act like a "victim".

Um, that is what this site is about, right? Meeting people? Or am I on the wrong damn website again?