or ok for a 60 y.o. adult male to smoke a bowl of pot almost every nite to relax? This dude holds a great job is clean, neat, very respected and nice but somehow I can't get past that. Am I wrong? Even his car is nice..what do you all thing.?

You do have a good point...but let's face it...all relationships are soooo different...and we are young and stupid so that we can mate...basically...and so the world will go on...after that it's all down hill.....it's alotta work out there to maintain a decent relationship...you gotta suck up alot...women are not out to make slaves of men..but yes there are some,...and men should be wary of them....

Depends...on a lot of factors....

I realize this will set off a flurry of activity, or not. But could our lives be all preordained? After doing only a little research on the subject it seems most religious books, i.e. Bible, Quran, and the Torah all claim this is truth. You say, we have free will, but do we? It would surely explain alot if we don't. It says, nothing is by accident and that every action, is preordained, nothing is by chance. Our minds can't wrap around this concept, but does anyone here think it might be possible.

No one cares about Al...

We all regret something..it's just that you can see yours, you could try a product called "wrecking balm" they say it works slowly to fade tats...I don't know personally...but hey..it's worth a try..don't be too hard on yourself, there is alot worse stuff you could have done.

Cool

Yes I was thinking along theselines too...just not sure which way to go.

Yeah,I kinda knew it was coming to this. Just had to vent a little. and cry a little, he was a great lover, wow. Gonna miss that part, and he always smelled so good. Ugggg. As Adele said, sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead.

Awwww thanks Ruth, you're sweet and a great moral booster. You're wonderful !!

Thanks I think I will. I had some doubts but I was putting them aside, hoping that he liked me as much as I him.

do you really think so? Wow, maybe I better.

Hey I will survive.
Just gives me more of a clear pic of what I want in a man. And what to expect. He probably wasn't for me anyway. I'm too old to cry to much over a man. I'm pretty hot for my age. LOL

I really don't know if I culd be just friends with him. I really love this guy. I want him for myself. I doubt if our friendship could survive if I knew he was with someone else. That would take some doing on my part. I think he knows how I feel, I have used the word love to him once or twice, I try not to use it because I dont' want to pressure him into anything. I guess this is a no brainer, I need to give it up. He doesn't want me as his true love or he would have told me by now. I guess I just answered my own question. Love hurts.

I met this single guy on another dating site, we have been friends with benes since Labor Day. We both stated that we would only have sex with each other and that if and when we found someone else we would let the other know what was happening. Well my heart has fallen and I realize I really care for this guy. He continues to date other girls but not really that much, and no sex in involved. He recently met a nurse that I think he is attracted too, although we have great chemistry and he has always treated me good. Although he never said the words love and no valentines day card. Today was my birthday, although he took me to the movie and we I was with him, no card, no gift. Should I give this up? He was really hurt by his last wife who dumped him and he said he is taking it slow and dating around first. What do you all think I should do? Hang on on hang it up.

Men, minds are always in one place, horizontally speaking.

And your point is????? No need to yell, we can hear you.

That's four fingers you are holding there, now for your next trick??