You won't catch me watching them. Stephen King is the only one who can make his movies true to the books. The only way I can watch a book turned movie is if I see the movie before I've read the books.

Take these books, First person books make crappy movies in general but then you have to ask the BIG question...how is she going to tell the whole story in the movies? She sure as hell isn't going to be able to make 17 movies and if she messes with things to make it all fit into 3 or 4 films, she's F'd it all up.

good to see you're dating.

if he asked me to the movies as a first date and I like him I'd go and hope there might be some time after to talk - at least the film is something to talk about (I'm shy - so this really is not a bad option for me)

but most don;t like it because you can't talk. But me. I do not talk a lot at first anyway

the meet & greet over coffee gets stale...also if he is someone IRL who I am acquainted with a meet & greet really isn't necessary

if it's someone from online - if I am not thrilled once we meet at least I don;t have to talk to him

I love that. I wish we had a 'like' button.

WE can't DIE WITH THEM.
WE can't FORGET THEM.
So we each in our own mind find our WAYS to sustain OUR LIVING THROUGH THEIR PASSIN.

Its a very hard place to be left at and IN,,yet we were made to KNOW,,we go forth...and memories were built into our minds as a way to KNOW they live forever inside US.

AfriQueen22 - what a relevant topic this turned out to be. Thank you for starting it and please accept my deepest sympathy.

To the many others here that have experienced tragic loss, or natural ones, my heart goes out to you. That sounds so trite but truly, I read every word over and over and my heart hurts for all of your losses.
I wish I could hug each and every one of you and make your hurt go away. But I can't, ... if only it were that easy.

I don't deal with loss well, never have. I tend to go into denial and keep on moving, not allowing the grieving process to actually happen.

I lost my Mother suddenly 5 years ago, my 90 year old Father just three weeks ago after an extended illness. At the time my Mother passed I thought how much easier it may have been to have had some 'warning', the suddenness of one moment here and the next gone was overwhelming.
However, after spending the last year living with my Father as his main caregiver, having the 'warning' did not make his passing necessarily any easier.

Every circumstance is different, every relationship we have with our loved ones different and we all grieve differently. Profound, huh?


However, after reading the experiences on this post , it gives me hope. So many people experience loss, on such a very deep level. Yes, death is a natural part of life - but it is a loss no matter the age or circumstance.
It is inevitable.

Is there life after death? Yes - we must continue to live. Is it easy - not always. You can see from the responses here that there are a myriad of approaches and experiences. There is a lot of heartfelt comments in this post, that I needed to see and digest. I truly believe that being able to share your feelings and experiences is part of any healing process. To know that I am not alone, the only one that ever experienced this - even though our circumstances are so varied, does help me realize that there is hope.

I truly believe there are various stages of grief, there is no timeline for each or any of them and that each stage is not one time only. There are no ‘right or wrong’ answers, just other’s experiences to possibly learn from as we go through our own process and find our own way.

A book I read years ago “When Bad Things Happen To Good People” may be enlightening. Did it have one solid answer? No. But I found it helpful.

Today I feel like the most important thing I can do is be the best person I can be, to take everything my parents taught me and share that - with the family, friends, strangers, whomever. To live my life well and make a difference to someone in need, as my parents did - that is a way to honor them. Tomorrow I may be a basket case again and not want to get out of bed.

My best advice - keep talking, keep reaching out and may you find your way

I love the concept of re-grieving. My grief these days comes with a lot of guilt... Guilt because I feel like I'm being petty and should grow up already!! But as someone already said, it's different for all of us.
Death is a tricky thing. It takes away but it also leaves behind. There are alot of things that don't die with your loved one, one of them being memories. There's nothing that wipes the slate clean, removes them from your mind. Little ghosts living inside your head. Honestly, I don't think there's any letting go of memories, good or bad. And it is through those memories that we, the one who left and the one who stayed behind, both live.

Awwww sweetie, there are never any guarantees. But real love does take time. The rush of infatuation is incredible, and a starting place. Words are just words, a relationship takes more than that.

.its very nice....inner feelingsssssssss but yes..........fear. fear of loosing smone ..........thts in it ......written so beautifully.

I'd probably skip the quite, romantic dinner on a first date, as I'd want to keep it a bit less serious and more relaxed. The pressure for romance on a first date might make it a bit awkward.

Word of advice ... always have hope but don't be naive. Because if someone truly loves you and wants to be with you ... they will find a way to make it work when you aren't able too.

So, may I ask? (don't answer if it's too personal)

Why don't you take your own advise? Cause to me, (from what I have read,) you seem fairly smart. (no offence)

It seems like you know the answers.....and curling up ain't it.