well he's been lying to her the whole time, telling her to wait for him and hold on, he doesn't want to be with her, etc etc etc. My friend fell for it.

I tried to get my friend to tell his wife but she just won't do it. She says "I'm not a home wrecker" and I tell her... you're not wrecking their home, HE is wrecking his home everytime he calls you or comes over to your house behind his wife's back. HE never takes any responsibility for any of his actions and never pays any consequences.

eh, she'll suffer for awhile sure, but then she can hopefully move on to someone that isn't treating her like crap. She's going to suffer whether I contact her or not. I do feel bad for her.

I just try to put myself in her shoes... if I was his wife, I would want to know. Of course no one ever wants to hear such things about their spouse. But I would want to know if my husband was cheating on me and lying to me.

I do not know his wife at all. I have never met her. And he may deny everything but I can put specifics in there that he can't wiggle himself out of.

YEa I thought about that too. I'm pretty sure I would go over there and throw him out My friend is finally at a place with herself that she doesn't actually want to talk to him or see him again. So she says... but I think him getting married was the final straw. She's finally seeing thru all of his lies.

yea I thought about that... but I can back it up. If she chooses not to believe than thats her choice. At least she's getting the information, take it or leave it.
I TRY not to involve myself in others relationships which is why I am so torn. Maybe I just really wanna see him suffer

OK guys, I need some advice on what to do here and what better place than here? So here's some of the background... Sorry this is a bit long...

My long time friend has been dating this guy on and off for about 3 years. In this time I could plainly see he's lied to her, strung her along, plain out BS her, and she fell for it hook line and sinker every time. She drives me nuts! but that's a whole different story. I have hated this man all 3 of these years.
He's been living with his "baby mama" but keeps telling my friend "it's just so he can see his kids. I just sleep on the couch, I can't stand her" And all those other lies. He does his late night visits to my friend's house and of course goes back home. Keeps stringing her along how he loves her, and she just needs to wait it out for the right time when he can leave her, etc etc etc. And again, she falls for it. He would give her a date that he's moving out of his "baby mamas" house and then of course, that date would come and go and there's always another excuse. This has been going on for years. He would even go as far as to when she would FINALLY start talking to another guy, he would make her feel guilty because she's supposed to love him. She promised to wait for him. He would guilt her into getting rid of any new guy that came along in all this. All the while, he's the cheating no good rotten scoundral
Now, I agree she's stupid for falling for it. No one is disputing that. She even has finally realized how stupid she is when it comes to him.
But apparently he was just at her house last week, for his little late night visits. And then she finds out yesterday that he actually married his "baby mama" over a month ago, which of course he was never sleeping with and he can't stand her... OMG I hate this man!
Why bother getting married if you can't even stay faithful for your first month? He had NO INTENTIONS on staying faithful to his wife, and lord only knows what lies he's been telling to her to get her to marry him.
I feel so bad for his wife and kids as well. So, like I said, I'm not asking about my friend, I already know she needs help and has her own issues to deal with.
My question is... His wife is on another "social networking site". I was thinking about contacting her and telling her what's been going on. I don't really want to but in but I feel she has the right to know what her husband and father of her children is out doing while she's at work... supporting the family. Because of course, he doesn't work.
I think he deserves to be thrown out on his AZZ and not have a chance with either one of them! Whether she leaves him or not is up to her, but I think she deserves to know all of the information so she can make her own decisions.
Sooo... thanks for reading my long rant! Should I take it upon myself to contact his wife???

I just say find something you have in common... for example, I am a HUGE dog lover. I would be totally down for a picnic at the dog park, assuming he has a dog to bring but I wouldn't date someone that doesn't love dogs. You don't have to have a dog, but you do have to love them, or at least be willing to love mine! hhmmmm maybe I really just wanna see if he'll pick up dog poo for me dang I'm mean

hey I'm ALWAYS down for a game of ski ball!!

hhhmmmm depends on how well you know her? She might not feel comfortable coming to your place on a first date. JMO
And also find out if she even wants to learn to play something.

That's why I said they're azzholes hard to argue with that one. Actually I'm gonna have to go with a cowardly greedy azzhole.
When someone cheats, they think they can have it all. To much of a coward to break things off with their current s/o before they venture off elsewhere. Lying and cheating just plain makes you an azzhole.

I like guys that like walks on the beach, hiking, and of course their kids are their world. You know, I go after the real original ones

People cheat cuz they're azzholes.

for I am about to sin

Sorry E, your pic isn't makin me go mmmmmmm

A pic that makes me go mmmmmmm

It depends on what the unexpected turns out to be. I can't answer on how I will react to a problem, until I know what the problem is.