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Alternative lifestyle
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Hi, we all talk about love and relationships. While you are happy with your partner, how do you satiate your thirst for some kinks that are deep within you. Would borrowing a partner for satisfying each other’s kinks be a good idea? I am pondering over this right now and seems to be in agreement for borrowing. I would like to hear from you all about this :) "your thirst"?? Did you not discuss this with your now partner in the beginning of the relationship? If not, boo...that's YOUR fault, and NOT an excuse to cheat. If you *did*, and you found that they didn't share the same kinks, or had no interest..or you thought they wouldn't mind you inflicting it on them..well, again..your fault, and NOT an excuse for cheating. Grow up. |
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Topic:
Cats - declawing
Edited by
I_love_bluegrass
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Wed 10/16/19 09:15 AM
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My cat is declawed..she came that way (front only..my late husband and i called her "rear wheel drive only")
She's a great cat, and, unlike Tictac claims...she has *plenty* of "confidence"...you should see her chase my dog up & down the hall.. Of course, she can't hurt him (good thing), but then he wouldn;pt think of hurting her either..to them it's just a fun game. Oh, she hisses, spits and bats at him..and he just stands there like..."what? Now, wait..YOU jumped out at me...." 
She's never been outsiode, except in her carrier when she is transported from the house & back for her routine shots & stuff. She's 9, and has no bad habits and doesn't seem to have any lingering "trauma".. FWIW..when I was looking to get my tubes tied...I looked on the internet for info initially/. My gosh...the horror stories and bad and false info...... It was shameful.... The point? Someone who is considering something, whether a medical procedure or cat declawing...they need ~accurate~, factual info...not someone's opinion or histronics because *they* think you shouldn't do it/ don't agree with it.. I swear...some of those women claimed everything short of I'd grow a third eye on my nose or something with the crap they spewed. 
Had my tubes tied 10 years ago...never had a moments problem. |
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sorry but no it wouldn't be any more fun. look at the real traffic on any site you have membership with. 2weeks tops top roll thru any currently active locals you might be interested in and then maybe one or 2 new ones a month in that same local area Well, you are entitled to your opinion. |
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Edited by
I_love_bluegrass
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Mon 09/30/19 12:58 PM
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Interesting, but when you read their terms of service, when joining, they spell out pretty clearly the limits of their liability, including not taking blame for the behavior of other users (scammers). Good luck winning this fight. There are many sites where they have robotic scripts that message you and strike up conversations. They say it's done to make the site fun and engaging, but these same sites charge you for the extended services, so while you're on the site for free, these bots send you all sorts of nice messages, and make you think you're God's gift to women. You can subscribe, and you'll still just be the guy getting flirty notes from bots. It's actually all there in the T.O.S. but somebody impatient or lazy or partially illiterate will miss that. I guess their subscription fees are just another tax for being stupid. Like lottery tickets. "They say it's done to make the site fun and engaging.." Hey, here's a novel idea.. How about get rid of the scammeres, and fake profiles, and gave just REAL f**kin' people on there actually looking to meet other people..?? Now, THAT would be "fun and engaging".. 
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I'm not a so called "exbert" when it comes to dating. I've never been on a real date in my life. The only girl I asked out on a date laughed in my face when I was 15 years old. All the girls and women I've been with just started hang out with me and we did stuff together. So the dating advice I see around the net seems like a waste of time and money. "Get tons of dates by following these tips, tricks or advice". That's just a waste of money in my opinion. This talk sounds to me like they want me to be a simp. Drive myself into debt by spending tons of money on pointless indeverse. To me you can just hang out somewhere and talk with the person to get to know them with all this nonsense on dating. All these things I've been reading are useful as a can of spit. In my opinion. The real problem is mobility. We don't have the time to travel all over the place just to meet anyone in the town square. Even if we get to the town square people aren't around because they're doing other things. What brought this up was 3 different people I was messaging asked, "You've been on this site for weeks and haven't been on dates yet?" With distance women won't travel more then 10-20 minutes to meet. Men you can double that. This is a rule of thumb for the most part. So this is a rage of 15-25 miles roughly around you. Normally you can go through all the profile within 3 days or less on a site. Most people tend to leave a site after a week or two. So no one's in the town square to meet. That's even if you talk with a person you do find. Each person has their own life to live. People also have their own viewpoints as well. Which reduces the probability of meeting in real life if you're looking for someone that will stick around. Some things: 1. Can you clatrify what you meants by: " This talk sounds to me like they want me to be a simp. " 2. "To me you can just hang out somewhere and talk with the person to get to know them with all this nonsense on dating" I agree. To me that is much more rrelaxed and enjoyable, and i see nothng wring with it.. I know *some* women WANT to be "courted", etc..and, that's nice and all...but I wouldn't ditch someone because their MO was just hangimng out and doing things... 3. How did someone even know " "You've been on this site for weeks and haven't been on dates yet?" If that is on your profile..take it off...NOW. And, if it isn't, don't volunteer that.. NMyself, i have been on the sites an embaressingly long time... I never say *how* long to someone who messages me..just "for a while".. And if they have the bad manners to ask outright how many dates I have been on....I;d ask them why they wanted to kniow that, and how many have THEY been on? 4. I can't get guys to drive more than 25-30 miles... Honey..I used to drive that far for fu***n' GROCERIES. I'd certainly drive that far to meet someone. While it woiuld be ideal if someone lived just around the corner of=r down the street..I am not looking for one of those cookie-cutter guys that are all over tha dating sites and everywhere here in the region i live, so...I'll drive a bit, no problem.. Anyone who claims they want someone close so they can just drop in without having to drive very far...that to *me* sounds like they want a f**k buddy... 5. People claim you could meet someone at the grocery store, or Lowes, or some place like that.. Bull. Who knows if they are single, or even interested in meeting/ talking to someone. They might have to be at work in 30 minutes, might be picking up something they forgot for a dinner party...and really don't have time to chit-chat. |
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Topic:
Cheating..
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so true but again i ask... why ask if you don't cheat? Myself...because I like to understand why people do what they do.. If I ask "why do people participate in fore walking?"...that does NOT mean I have any interest in walking on hot coals myself...I'm just curious why someone *would* want to do that. |
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One can hope.
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Topic:
Captain Spaulding R.I.P.
Edited by
I_love_bluegrass
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Mon 09/23/19 11:33 AM
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FWIW...back in my younger days...I actually met some people like the three in "The Devils Rejects"..
Not that they went out and kidnapped people...just their genral demeanor and lack of any compassion whatsoever for their fellow man.. 
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The figure of 360 does include guys that have sent me their phone numbers. No hello, just their phone numbers. I block them instantly. Those are most likely those-that-Mingle-doesn't-like-you-to-say-that-word.... They don't count. I either summarily delete/ block them...or get rude/ snippy with them, if I am feeling especially salty...
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Edited by
I_love_bluegrass
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Mon 09/23/19 09:08 AM
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That's all well and good saying ladies should politely say no if they're not interested and I used to do that but I no longer do so. There are many guys that can't/won't take no for an answer. I have been verbally abused and called a few choice names and for what? Saying no thank you, we'd not be a good fit? Nah, being polite is sometimes just not worth it so now I no longer respond. It's better for my well being 
Yes 
And any man who thinks we are exaggerating.... I'll be happy to let you answer my mailbox for a month, just to see where being polite gets you  
But....that's what the BLOCK button is for... If some guy gets rude..just block him.. Don't treat everyone like they are going to act a fool.. We don't like it when guys say all women are alink...so... I will treat a legit guy with courtesy, until he get's rude or crude or nasty..then...boom, block..problem solved.. The scammerdudes though? I don't have to be polite/ cordial to then...they don't deserve it. The same answer you gave me when I posted the same reply Delightful posted. But... the BLOCK button is not there to use after you've allowed yourself to get verbally abused by some dude. Maybe you can sniff out upfront who's going to be an a-hole and who isn't but I doubt it. It's like I said earlier, it's even guys who SEEM great that turn into complete rude w@nkers when you tell them a polite 'no'. No, I have no special skill in that regard, but, as I *also* said more than once...I will be polite and courteous to a guy, *until* he acts badly, then he gets the boot.. I don't personaly view ONE message from a jerk being stupid as 'being verbally abused".. That's all it takes, one time them being that way, then they're outta my inbox... I don't give a restaurant a bad review because I * might* have a bad meal/ sh***y service there...I wait until that happens, then do a bad review. But, we're all different, have different opinions and the right to express them, we're never going to agree on this, and that's Ok...you do you....
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You know...there was another post in a different catagory over the weekend about chivalry/ common courtesy....
And several guys got bent because they open a door/ hold open a door for a woman...and she either says nothing, or makes a smart remark.. And ~everybody~ said that isn't right, isn't decent behavior... And that people seem to be losing common courtesy... That they should at least acknoweledge the guy did it by saying "thank you"... But, the exact same guys are all perfectly OK with ignoring someone who made a good faith effort and messaged them? Don;t they, like *yoy*, deserve to be acknowledged and get a courteous reply if you are not interested? (as i have said probably 5 times already..if they then get rude, well, simpkle..block them) I don't get the hypocrisy of expecting a woman to say "thanks"/ "thank you" when you hold open a door....but you wouldnt extend that same courtesy to someone who messaged you that you weren't interested in...
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Edited by
I_love_bluegrass
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Mon 09/23/19 08:16 AM
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That's all well and good saying ladies should politely say no if they're not interested and I used to do that but I no longer do so. There are many guys that can't/won't take no for an answer. I have been verbally abused and called a few choice names and for what? Saying no thank you, we'd not be a good fit? Nah, being polite is sometimes just not worth it so now I no longer respond. It's better for my well being
Yes
And any man who thinks we are exaggerating.... I'll be happy to let you answer my mailbox for a month, just to see where being polite gets you
But....that's what the BLOCK button is for... If some guy gets rude..just block him.. Don't treat everyone like they are going to act a fool.. We don't like it when guys say all women are alink...so... I will treat a legit guy with courtesy, until he get's rude or crude or nasty..then...boom, block..problem solved.. The scammerdudes though? I don't have to be polite/ cordial to then...they don't deserve it. |
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Edited by
I_love_bluegrass
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Sun 09/22/19 09:33 PM
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Think I'll head down to the VFW, more familiar territory. Come on down, I'll buy ya a beer. 
Hahaha... I made a feeble attempt to go to two different bars/ clubs last night...first time in *years*. Both had bands...I originally had some hope... Nah.... I stayed exactly 30 minutes in one, and 20 minutes in the other..because I observed everyone there was at least 15-20 years younger than me...
Can't go to the Elks, Moose, or (as far as *I* know) the VFW...unless you are a member...so...¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Here's what's funny Bluegrass... Looking at your page, I'm just about the definition of the guy you politely say no to, lol. But bet we'd laugh our butts off at the VFW. :) Don't worry, not gonna write, lol. A casual chit chat over a beer or coffee (or idle small talk on a social site) is one thing... A long term partner involves more in common/ compatibility... We're all different, and want, like, and prefer different things.. Hope you find someone that suits you....everyone deserves that.. 
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Edited by
I_love_bluegrass
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Sun 09/22/19 06:28 PM
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Think I'll head down to the VFW, more familiar territory. Come on down, I'll buy ya a beer.
Hahaha... I made a feeble attempt to go to two different bars/ clubs last night...first time in *years*. Both had bands...I originally had some hope... Nah.... I stayed exactly 30 minutes in one, and 20 minutes in the other..because I observed everyone there was at least 15-20 years younger than me...
Can't go to the Elks, Moose, or (as far as *I* know) the VFW...unless you are a member...so...¯\_(ツ)_/¯ |
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Wait...what???
"Don't just agree with the people who agree with you. Listen to those that don't necessarily have the same point of view." So, anyone who says something he agrees with is wrong, according to you? It's a big world out there...with lots of different people...and just because you feel that way doesn't mean everyuone has to toe the line and do what you say/ feel like you do WRT things.. Everybody is different....how they treat people, and how the like to be treated is based on many things....no two are exaclty the same. So...stop acting like you are the ascended master and have all the knowlegde... Your feelings and thoughts and observations are yours and yours alone..and, if that works for you...great... But realize, like I said..everyone is different. Peace. |
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Edited by
I_love_bluegrass
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Sun 09/22/19 05:00 PM
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This has happened to me a few times on here. A guy writes to me. I read it and read his profile. I'm not interested, so I write back "I'm not interested, thanks." Some time goes by and he will write something like, "That's nice, so what are your hobbies?" What's with that? The guys that do that, they are 99% of the time those ones that Mingle doens't like you to say the word....
They are notorrious for not reading the message and just continuning with their script. It's funny to send them random stuff..and watch how they keep the conversation going.. "I like wingnutz, especially if toast flies.." Then they reply with "that's great to hear, how long have you been on here?" LOL
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Unfortunately A polite no is often followed up with further emails trying to persuade otherwise . Rejection can turn into abuse and insults . Whether or not to respond becomes a matter of time management and sanity  
And, as I said before...that's what the "Block" button is for... One nasty message/ reply? Boom...BLOCKED...simple. |
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However, I was talking about every day life. There are some people, like myself, that are naturally gregarious and will talk to most anybody. Do I think it's rude when someone doesn't respond? Ummmm, no. So, in everyday life...at some place like a bus stop, in line for a movie, waitng to be seated at a restaurant...it's OK to ignore someone who tries to make conversation with you? Okey doeky. |
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Edited by
I_love_bluegrass
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Sun 09/22/19 04:29 PM
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I guess you're not aware just how rude some get when you tell them a polite 'no, not interested' because you want to be a nice person? The flak you get? Men who claimed to be a nice guy suddenly turning into a raving idiot? You know why I don't reply anymore? Because MEN ruined it when they couldn't handle a polite "no, not interested". Since, my no reply is the reply. I gave up on being nice and getting slapped in the face in return. Second, you also don't seem to know that most just copy & paste some BS message? Haven't even read a profile, but say they do, then ask questions to which the answer is in my profile? That's what the "Block" button is for, darlin'... It costs me nothing to acknowledge the fact someone wrote me... My sense of decency ends when they act an a**/ fool. But, to each their own....you do you, boo....
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