I'm not a so called "exbert" when it comes to dating. I've never been on a real date in my life. The only girl I asked out on a date laughed in my face when I was 15 years old. All the girls and women I've been with just started hang out with me and we did stuff together. So the dating advice I see around the net seems like a waste of time and money.

"Get tons of dates by following these tips, tricks or advice". That's just a waste of money in my opinion. This talk sounds to me like they want me to be a simp. Drive myself into debt by spending tons of money on pointless indeverse. To me you can just hang out somewhere and talk with the person to get to know them with all this nonsense on dating.

All these things I've been reading are useful as a can of spit. In my opinion. The real problem is mobility. We don't have the time to travel all over the place just to meet anyone in the town square. Even if we get to the town square people aren't around because they're doing other things.

What brought this up was 3 different people I was messaging asked, "You've been on this site for weeks and haven't been on dates yet?" With distance women won't travel more then 10-20 minutes to meet. Men you can double that. This is a rule of thumb for the most part. So this is a rage of 15-25 miles roughly around you. Normally you can go through all the profile within 3 days or less on a site. Most people tend to leave a site after a week or two.

So no one's in the town square to meet. That's even if you talk with a person you do find. Each person has their own life to live. People also have their own viewpoints as well. Which reduces the probability of meeting in real life if you're looking for someone that will stick around.

Some things:

1. Can you clatrify what you meants by: " This talk sounds to me like they want me to be a simp. "

2. "To me you can just hang out somewhere and talk with the person to get to know them with all this nonsense on dating"

I agree.
To me that is much more rrelaxed and enjoyable, and i see nothng wring with it..
I know *some* women WANT to be "courted", etc..and, that's nice and all...but I wouldn't ditch someone because their MO was just hangimng out and doing things...

3. How did someone even know " "You've been on this site for weeks and haven't been on dates yet?"
If that is on your profile..take it off...NOW.
And, if it isn't, don't volunteer that..
NMyself, i have been on the sites an embaressingly long time...
I never say *how* long to someone who messages me..just "for a while"..
And if they have the bad manners to ask outright how many dates I have been on....I;d ask them why they wanted to kniow that, and how many have THEY been on?

4. I can't get guys to drive more than 25-30 miles...
Honey..I used to drive that far for fu***n' GROCERIES.
I'd certainly drive that far to meet someone.

While it woiuld be ideal if someone lived just around the corner of=r down the street..I am not looking for one of those cookie-cutter guys that are all over tha dating sites and everywhere here in the region i live, so...I'll drive a bit, no problem..

Anyone who claims they want someone close so they can just drop in without having to drive very far...that to *me* sounds like they want a f**k buddy...

5. People claim you could meet someone at the grocery store, or Lowes, or some place like that..
Bull.
Who knows if they are single, or even interested in meeting/ talking to someone.
They might have to be at work in 30 minutes, might be picking up something they forgot for a dinner party...and really don't have time to chit-chat.

Bluegrass,

1. Some of the articles I've read are about spending a lot of money on the so call, "Perfect Date". A "simp" is a man who is used by woman or other men to buy them dinner, tickets and other things under the guise of a date.

2. I've never been on a date in where you make plans and all that. I would just meet girls or women who decided to come over and talk with me. We would walk around or drive some where. Did pinics, parks and other such things together. Nothing fancy or cost that much money if any at all.

3. They asked me and I told them.

4. That's just a "rule of thumb" for a 20 minute drive. There's exception to the standard rules most of the time.

5. I've met those I was with in school+collage mostly. Some women follow me around in store once in awhile. For years I've been ignoring women. After my brother past I decided to think about finding someone to be with for the last part of my life.

The reason I moved to Florida was to look after Dan cause my mom asked me to.

Look for rings and other signs that they are in a relationship. Talking to people you can mostly tell if they're lying to you. You have to talk with lots of people to get good at it. I'm rusty for the most part.

Certainly for myself, mobility and distance are crucial and almost determining factors in eliminating otherwise attractive and interesting women from consideration. Being unable to drive due to my Glaucoma, I am limited to slow and indirect Public transport to get anywhere.

What brought this up was 3 different people I was messaging asked, "You've been on this site for weeks and haven't been on dates yet?"


I never had anyone ask me that question. But then, I found out some guys could never get a woman to answer their first messages. I've had just a couple. (In 7 years) The two that did, couldn't understand it, ether. I got over that years ago. Not that it kept me up at night, I guess it wasn't that I thought it was so important to fret over.




People claim you could meet someone at the grocery store, or Lowes, or some place like that..
Bull.
Who knows if they are single, or even interested in meeting/ talking to someone.


I've puzzled over that one myself. I might have had one at one time trying to instigate a conversation with me. But I was at that store for another reason, and I was preoccupied with that. It didn't occur to me until after I left, that she was. No one that I ever saw in a store, I'd make a move on. They are there for a reason, it's not my place to disturb them.

Oh well. Not everyone is cut out for dating.

Space codet are you good at networking ??
Kitkat said on another thread she was in Florida ....., have you asked her if she has any single girlfriends ??

Seamus and redrider where are you from ?? do you need my help to network

Redrider,
You can meet people in stores such as a grocery, arts&crafts or other places where people aren't in a rush. You can tell if a person is in a rush by the way they are acting. The same way you do if you're busy.
There's articles and posts telling women to meet men in hardware stores and such places. Every time I was in a hardware store it was to get lumber or other things for a job. Wasn't there to socialize.

Blondy,
Never talked with KitKat.

What would help me immensely are a new pair of eyes and an extra 4" in height.

Florida is a rather large area blondey.... and yes I consider 3-4 hours away to far to sustain a relationship

I'll just say priorities. If dating is a priority, you will find the time.