Marie, that is good advice.

Well it is a lot easier to find friends than to find chemistry.
Thus, hooking up can be quite a challenge if you are looking for that special spark.

I really have no advice for you. An attractive women like yourself should be out having fun. Wish I could help you out.

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Seems like the guy is expected to pay. It's part of the men can't win scenario. It's probably best to just meet for a drink or coffee for the first meeting. That way you can decide if you want to go all out for the real first date. Us guys need to be careful because there are serial daters out there looking for a free ride.

Cheshire, since there is no chance of reconciliation it sounds like you have moved on mentally. Only you know how you feel emotionally. If you are not thinking about the ex and feel like getting out and dating, then you may be ready. If not just hang with your friends.

Just talk to the guy and find out where his head is at. If he is physically attracted to you that could be a problem. On the other hand if he is just looking for a friend and so are you then things could be fine. Personally I could not be good friends with a women I was really attracted to. It would just be too frustrating. I could be email friends but not in person.

It's hard to know if the women aren't interested or just want you to pursue them. Personally, I am not into games, so I don't chase. I like things to be mutual. Being interested in each other works best for me.

I don't even like the thought of revenge. Here you loved someone and now you want to hurt them. Makes no sense to me. If I dated anyone who I thought would be a revenge seeker, I would drop them quick.

I'm just glad a woman posted it.

Typically I am not a jealous person. But, I do think jealousy can
occur when the relationship is insecure. I guess you just deal with it until the relationship becomes more secure or comes to an end.

I don't really know any of you folks on here. But, this indeed is a sad situation. Breakups are really hard and at times love really sucks. Sounds like everybody is dealing with issues. I guess it comes down to you have to be happy with yourself because people may come and go in your life.

Evad, if you and your girlfriend still love each and are attracted to each other, maybe you will work it out. Take some time apart to re-evaluate the situation. I am in the re-evaluation stage of a relationship right now and it is not fun.

I met my ex girlfriend off the internet and it ended up being a six year relationship. You just never know what is going to happen until you meet in person. Probably should meet in person pretty soon so expectations are not a big factor.

It all really comes down to the spark doesn't it? Finding that spark is not an easy thing to do.

Funny thing is we can't figure it out. We are broke up. But, the attraction is still there. Don't know if we are suppressing the love feelings or is it lust. I know it is kind of strange after that length of time.

Are you saying after six years it's probably not lust?

How does one know if they are in Lust or Love?

Joyce, I would watch your emotions. You may be wanting to fall in love. Don't do it for the wrong reasons. Fall in love and next thing you know a broken heart can follow. Take it slow.

Sarah, I agree with you. You need to stay connected with the person. Women want those little things that show them that the man cares. On the other hand the women need to be their for the man so they want to keep doing the little things. Everything is a 2 way street.

Size, I just went through the same thing. Six year relationship also. Moving in together can kill a great relationship. She gave me all the independent crap. I let her be independent then she says I don't care. After we break up she tells me she really didn't want to be all that independent. Us guys just can't win with all the mixed signals we get.