I just recently broke up with my ex-fiance. There is no chance of reconciliation. How long do you think I should wait to open the door and actively start dating?

Cheshire

until you feel ready! I don't believe in any set tome frame for relationships.

i don't think there is a time period...whenever you're ready...heck, people date when they're just separated from marriage...now would probably be acceptable...b

You'll know when you're ready

Thanks... I appreciate it...

Cheshire, since there is no chance of reconciliation it sounds like you have moved on mentally. Only you know how you feel emotionally. If you are not thinking about the ex and feel like getting out and dating, then you may be ready. If not just hang with your friends.

Good luck bro

I know how you feel, I keep thinkin I'm ready, but everytime a guy asks me out I chicken out...lol. You'll know, don't rush.

Get back on the horse and try again. Wow that sounded so stupid I can't even believe I said it. Oh well, get back out there and find a good woman.

right now!!!!!!! I am here for you!!!!!!!

well that depends on how you feel about having a new date or a new relationship but I think you are very young and handsome so have a good time and open your heart dont be affraid life goes on.

More than an hour less than ten years.

cheshire, if you think you're ready... your ready

I say take the time to come to grips with yourself and your residual feeling of grieving and then start slow. Most people hurt others by doing the rebound thing I had to take six months after the last one. good luck take your time

Are there even rules about this stuff?? I say do what you want, get on with your life, piss on the rules

Over 9,000 years.

boomansion, you are so positive and funny!
lc

My divorce was finalized in March, and I got into a relationship starting the end of May, it didn't work out for us, but I think it was a great rebound relationship. I truly think that I am ready to jump back into the scary world of dating!

I think I'm gonna wait for a little while. I need to take care of myself first before I go venturing into another relationship.

I'm always willing to make new friends, and if the the opportunity arises I'm certainly open.

Cheshire

cheshire, you just answered your own question and I think it's a good idea

You need time to heal. Anything short of total inner healing is what they call "being on the rebound." The person you choose for your next relationship doesn't deserve to hear about all the hurt you've amassed from this relationship.

Thus, when you stop writing about the relationship that went wrong, when you stop talking about it to friends, when it has truly passed... then and only then are you really ready to start again. I am speaking from personal experience.

When I meet people from dating sites or in real life, if they spend 90% of my time telling me about their ex, then I know they aren't ready for a new relationship. You would be surprised to see how many people start talking about their ex in e-mails and communications with new people. Here they have the chance to leave the passed 100% behind, but they drudge up all of the pain and hurt themselves, and in my case, I find it a huge turn-off if some lady wails on and on about her crappy old ex-husband. I could care less, and I’m nobody’s shrink.

It’s too easy to bury the hurt by starting a new relationship. That is the tendency, though... to get rid of the old pain by starting a new relationship. It temporarily does away with the hurt of rejection, etc you felt from the previous relationship. But it buries grief that you need to deal with... grief that is going to surface when arguing in comments like “you’re just like her.” That’s not fair to the next woman...

Do yourself a favor, and try a new tactic... make friends with people. Don't treat every woman as if she is a possible date... believe me, women can feel that... make friends both with men and women, and stop there... learn to stop there... it is very refreshing...

And while you're at it, consider this... that your next relationship will be with one of these new women that you make your friend. And guess what... I'm willing to bet everything on... a friend isn't going to stick a nail in your back at every turn... friendship is the beginning of love. Sex is not love. Sex is a way to hide the hurt from the last relationship.

You need friends. Lot's of them...

And if you ever need one more, just send me a message.. I got good ears, and I've been through a lot... and I got my healing... now its time that I can reach out with my heart, and trust again, and seek out my lifetime friend.

I wish you the best. I know it hurts, just hang in there... the hurt isn't permanent...