I know that trust is essential for a relationship to last. Long distance is never an easy thing to begin with. He lives over 1000 miles away, and says that he needs time before we meet one another. I just find that I am jealous even if he says "hello" to another woman. I am trying to figure out why I feel that way. Am I justified to feel this way? Please...HELP!!!!!

Hi Puffins! You could be having these feelings, not because of insecurity about yourself, but because of insecurity about the status of your relationship. Maybe when that's more defined, the feelings will go away. Only time will tell whether or not there's something to be insecure about. Until then, enjoy the moment you're in and don't worry too much.

insecurity about yourself--low self esteem?
you are going to push him away.

Typically I am not a jealous person. But, I do think jealousy can
occur when the relationship is insecure. I guess you just deal with it until the relationship becomes more secure or comes to an end.

Perhaps the putting off meeting you and he needs time thing is
what is making you jealouse. The miles don't help either sometimes. You are right it is a trust issue. I can't blame you
for being jelouse- you do not want to get hurt...

I think perhaps you should contain the jealousey- because you
have'nt been with him yet dear. I know it is not easy.

The distance probbley scares you- for fear he will find someone closer to him.

JMO Good luck Puffins!

Hi Puffins,
I agree with SuzinVA. I have been in the long distance relationship ??? Anyways, when the guys pushed to meet and we set a date, guess what happened? They found someone who they connected with there. It happened to me the third time in a row. My advice, meet and date guys in your area. Let him know you aren't waiting around for him. I believe in fate... what is meant to be will be. Enjoy, maybe he is the one maybe not. Enjoy the moments in life!

Thank you for your responses.....

I really have to think about this...

Hello Puffins, it is said in many cases that a woman is more geared up for romance than men. Maybe it is this scenario in this instance ? Maybe it is also a case of your friend not being as forth coming as you are, he may seem hesitant to a "committment" to you, but there are other aspects of his life that you may need to consider, maybe in the past he has tried a long distance relationship and it did not work out, maybe you can see a pattern in a former relationship that you were involved in in the past ?.

Each and every situation has a different agenda, it also depends on the length of time you have been talking to each other.Communication plays a large part in any relationship, and with distance playing a crucial part there are even more difficulties encountered,all I can say to you is.........talk, talk, and talk some more, be open and honest with him. Ask questions of him,after all if you are both hoping that this my evolve into a meaningful relationship,then you both need to clear the air and be truthful from the very start.

I wish you the best of luck in your endevours.

Bonnie...

Believe me, honey...I plan on talking to him today about this!!!!

Im not jealous at all............unless Im in a relationship........its weird........men make me crazy!!!!!!!!!!1laugh:

(((( Joanne )))))


I know the distance Is a worry for you and putting off the meet just compounds the need To meet and at times makes our mind wonder.. You and I have talked about this Many times,, I love you and am here for you always,,

It can work if both parties want it.

Yes it can,,,, I believe

Humm true TRUST is one of the main factors along with RESPECT, HONESTY ,communcation and OPEN MIND,


It is very hard if the trust is not there. My self it is a must.

As far as being jealous, well could be several different factors one the other one is flirting a lot with others, there are doubts which at times is the main factor. Due to one putting off meetiing you humm first thing that comes to mind for most is do they not want to meet me is that why they are putting it off, could be a red flag.

Also depends on your contact with them if one dont get to talk with them on the phone much it makes them feel like they dont want to talk to them . Sure insecurities but in order to have insecurities there must be a reason for one to feel that way.


All issues that need to be talked ahout soon.

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Puffins I'm sorta in the same boat as you; however, I have met the guy. We live only about an hour so distance isn't too much of a factor, but our schedules aren't compatible right now and he has two young boys he raised himself and of course, he don't wanna parade women in and out of their lives. We aren't "exclusive." However, when I date someone and trying to see where it goes, I don't talk about or mean anyone else. His views there differ and he feels it's ok to date around. It kinda gets me thinking, only because I'm not sure where the relationship stands since he's alright with seeing others too.

So I can see how not knowing is making you insecure. Just take it one day at a time and see where things go. Whatever is meant to happen will happen.

I never said that I felt insecure. I just feel that distance is an issue. I'm sure if he lived closer to me, we would have met one another already. I just hope that it doesn't wind up being someone else who says that they want to meet..and never do.


Thanks for all your responses....