I would think this where someone is emotionally would
be more important than what the paperwork says.

If you are over the person emotionally it does not
matter what the legal status is.

I don't know if people are being shallow or just dealing with human nature. For the most part men are visual and an attractive women is a hard to resist. But, what is on the inside is important for the long term. I guess in a perfect world we want both.

Sex is what brings men and women together as mates. Without sex and attraction doesn't that just make us friends?

The whole relationship issue can get quite complicated.

Maybe you can try to figure out why you are not attracted to him. Or maybe your sex drive is just at a low period right now.

I would be careful. If you are over someone in 3 weeks either there was not much of a relationship with your ex over those 3 years or the reality of the break up has not hit you yet. When the ex and I broke up after a 6 year relationship my initial reaction was relief that ii was over. We were free of the stress of the problems. Then about a month later the reality of the break up really set in. It was like a delayed reaction. It's been 6 months and we are still trying to figure out if it is over or we should re-evaluate. I am sure everyone circumstances are different.

Heck, I am 52 and I don't mind being called a boyfriend.

I think that could be very difficult for you. Too much contact could be a problem.

I don't think there is a right answer. The guy could be confused. As always honesty is the best policy. Most relationships start out as fun and excitement. The people involved think they can just enjoy it and handle things as they develop. The next thing you know hearts are broken. This may be the cycle of life. So do you enjoy the moment because life is short? Or do you worry about the future? Everyone has to decide what is best for them.

Then kiss her and touch her on the outside.

I'm 52 and proud of it. Heck I made it this far.

I would figure out how women think.

Bear, I think you are pretty normal. I think men have delayed emotional reaction to things that affect them. We blow things off and then later it comes back and hits us hard.

Age is really not an issue with me. But, why do younger
women date older guys? Disclaimer: I am not opposed to dating a younger women.

I love to see a little cleavage. It is nice to see women be women.
If they dress like a guy, where is the fun and attraction?

Relationship are so difficult to figure out. It would be nice if life was simple.

It does suck to be in this situation. Single not by choice. But I guess folks who get dumped can be in a situation also. Life is full of challenges.

It is hard for divorced people to relate to widowed folks. They were happy to be rid of their spouse. Many divorced people don't really know what a good relationship is like. So it is difficult for everyone.

Hi, I am a widower. This is a difficult question to answer.
My wife had serious health problems for many years. The year before she died she spent 5 months in the hospital. With all the life and death situations that year I was a mess. Shortly after she died I was ready to get out of the house and stop dealing with doom and gloom. I can't say I really dated, but I did meet someone shortly after she died. We ended up in a six year relationship. I really don't know if I got out there too soon or not. Biggest problem is the other person thinks you are comparing them to your spouse. All you can do is what feels right for you.

Wow, that is the worst. I can't believe someone would do that to another person. Makes me wonder if the whole dating thing is even worth it.

I think you answered your own question. But, you could just
ask the guy directly.

I think men in general do not know how to process our feelings. When something major happens it causes us to start thinking and feeling. It is not a fun process. Then we start to realize how we feel, probably too late.