Cookie,,

Not workboots...

J

Dating rules...is this some sort of dating manual noone told me about?
I'm not sure I know what you're talking about. Please splain...

J

Good lord KB - sounds like a free for all. I can see a man do that, but
a woman? That's odd. You must damn good looking, or hung like a horse.
In either case, it's bizarre. I wouldn't like it and would certainly
have set her straight damn quick.

J

Unsure, my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimers about three years
ago...I know what you are saying. I wish there were more capable people
in the field. It's wide open and you should be able to pretty much
write your own ticket!!

Cookie, checked out the website, it's awsome! I can't imagine having
the patience to do something like that with such great attention to
detail. I'm very impressed! I work with a couple of ladies that are
into that sort of thing, I will be sure and pass the link to your addy
along to them.

Loves2, I will check yours out in a bit. It must be the ultimate to be
your own boss. Personally, I could never do it - I don't have the
dicipline. I would probably just sit and watch Court shows all day.
Love them court shows!! Judge Joe, Judge Mabeline, Peoples Court etc,
etc, etc...

Thanks for sharing everyone, I enjoy reading this sort of stuff

J

Thanks Cookie, I take a look, and get back to you. Love to see your
handy work.

Supermom, I just have so much respect for those that do what you do!
Keep up the good work! My daughter is going to school to be able to
teach and work with autisic children. It really takes a specail person
to work with the disabled. Very heartwarming...

J

I'm done as well, but in closing, I would like to say, if some of you
had the opportunity to see the things I have seen with regards to
accepting the resonsilibilty of child rearing it would be an eyeopener
for you. This sort of attitude is present in many divorce cases as
well...I have witnessed men make well in excess of 100k a year, get
divorced and want to skip on support. Please!

No doubt more care should be made in seeing that an unwanted pregnancy
does not result from a moment of heated passion - that my friends is the
responsilibilty of both consenting adults. Enough said.

J

Obviously, I'm very passionate on the subject...

I'll buy that KB, but that statement was bias, and extremely sexist,
unintelligent and misinformed. That I will will never buy...I see that
attitude far to often in my line of work AND if there is a dead beat
parent I can help to locate...I'm there and have many times given their
information, according to law, to the proper institutions. I also am the
acting human resources person and it's part of my job and I do it with
pride!

J

I'm sorry KB, but the statement that was made "women decide when the
sex is on" spoke volumes about his mentality. He's not alone, many men
have the same attitude. That attitude in men is in part responsible for
so many women with children that live in poverty and struggle with
decsions like do I buy food or do I get medicine for my sick kid?!!

The situation does work both ways, and there are women out there who
don't want the responsibility of child rearing, but more often than not,
that's not the case and it's men who turn their backs on their children
because they have the same attitude that she layed downed, it's her
fault she got pregnant.

J

Hi Chica Girl!

What can I tell you? There are things about this subject that just stick
in my craw!! So here's a few more


P.S. Mr Nuter,

If two people have unprotected sex, the man carries half the
responsibility in making the decsion to do so. Obviously, the law feels
the same way because pentalties for "absent" parents are getting
stiffer.

I reiterate, most and I say most, not all, women are with a man out of
love and committment. It's doesn't always work out, pure and simple.
So for a man to think he has no responsiblity to the upbringing of a
child that might come from that union is ignorant.

Also, there are women who do not use the support wisely, but others do
and even if they use it on groceries, or paying bills, that it is still
gong to the support of that child. Many women need it just to make ends
meet and survive.

So please people if you want to put down women/single mothers and say we
are all irresponsible for our actions and deserve the hardships of
raising our chldren without the support emotionally and financially of
their father's you are wrong. That kind of attitude is part of the
problem with the youth in today's society. Our children are an
investment in our future, they are precious, regardless of how they got
here and deserve to be loved and nutured by both parents.

I'm not suggesting there are not irresponsible women out there. But to
put it all on women and say that she is ultimately responsible for
making the final decsions about sex is assine. There are many different
situations, but most women have sex with love and committment in mind.
You are simply trying to put all women in the same small, narrow mined
category. Sorry, it just doesn't fly! Obviously, you have not met a
strong-willed, intelligent healthy of mind woman, because let me tell
you sweet cheeks, some of us aren't going to lay down just because a guy
buys us dinner!

J

Yes Loves2

It goes both ways...most definately, Thanks god your kids have a
respectable, upright man with characater and a kind heart to look up
too...

Your children are lucky...


Jaime

Mr Netus, are you educated sir? "who decideds the sex is on?" That is
the most ignorant statement I have heard to date. It takes two people
to make that choice not one...and perhaps you should go back and reread
prior posts!! some men, like yourself think you can point your thing at
anything that moves and not be responsible for your actions. Women
equivicate sex and love to be the same thing, so if we are with you to
begin with chances are we think we feel something deeply moving towards
you...men in general, not all mind you, but in general for the most part
could care less about the emotion we women invest as long as we give up
the nookie.

I'm guessing Mr Netus, the reason you don't have kids is because you
have not married, nor have you had serious relationship that would allow
that opportunity to present itself. In either case, it matters not. I
simply find it difficult to believe there are still people in this world
that live in the dark ages, such as yourself.

Please feel free to give me all the verbal spanking you wish as someone
with your mentality means nothing to me. That way of thinking is
dispicable.

J

Honey those pics out land you a live one!!

Hugs,
J

Chica is that you! You look great!! Love the pics!

J

sorry folks, I feel the need to get on a soap box and rant a little
further about this topic.

I get so sick of people pissing and moaning about "paying childsupport"
or just the overall cost of raising children period. At times in the
past I was guilty of the latter myself; however, not at the expense that
I would let it sour me or let my kids do without because I felt I should
have. Children DO NOT ask to be brought into this world and they need
constant care and care equals money! Things were very skinny for us
when the kids were first coming up and sure there were times we
complained but the kids and their needs came first. It's all about
sacrifice. There's doctor and denist bills. School and
activities...there's food and clothing and the list goes on and on.
Mine are out of the house, but that doesn't make them fully self
sufficient and they still need care which equals money...

If you have a child and do not have total custody and are paying a
support allotment, you are lucky that's all you are paying because the
parent who does have custody is making the ultimate sacrifices,
emotionally, physically and FINANCIALLY! Most support payments now adays
won't even buy a weeks worth of groceries.

J

By law, support orders can be up to 65% of an employee's disposable
earnings.

I don't think they should leave a parent with not enough to live on
themselves because that's usually when the quit there jobs and go
elsewhere until another order catches up with them.

But DAMN STRAIGHT!! They need to help support the life they created.
Having a child is more than just biology. Surprisingly in my line of
work I see more and more women giving full custody to fathers and they
themselves paying the support...so it works both ways.


J

Not sure if this option was there before, but when you click on another
piture in someones profile other then the main photo - you get a proxy
server error. If you scroll down there is a link you can click on that
will show you the larger version of that photo...

If anyone gives a rats...

J

Cookie, I think that's great what you do! Especailly that your stuff
makes it around the globe. I have a hobby and am a collector of sorts.
I love music memorbilia and have a fairly impressive collection of
"stuff" from all around the world. Surprisingly, I have kept many of
those connections and they have become very good friends. Several from
the UK, one is from Scottland, one from France and one from the
Netherlands! It's so cool to be a part of something bigger than your
own backyard. Keep up the good work! I would love to see some photos
of what you do.

I personally have visions of finishing what I started in that I would
ride around in a jeep all day in my kakis and restore habits for
endangered wildlife. Nonetheless, I am still very active in my
community in regards to the shelters here. It's a labor of love.

J

I would rather meet someone the old fashioned way. Honestly, I don't
really have much faith in the online dating thing. Working for a large
corporation, sometimes my days are long and I work weekends as well and
I don't date where I work, I just don't think it's a good idea - not
that some of the suits I work with haven't been tempting...it's just
that I have a lot of respect where I work and if things were to get
weird or if rumors where to fly...it would be very uncomfortable.

I say I have a lot of respect - that would be from some of the higher
ups as I am good at what I do, but my closest commrads call me the
"office assclown"!



J

I'm in Accounting but have a degree in Environmental Studies...now that
the kids are up and out...I'm thinking of getting into the field I
actually want to be in. There's just more money in Accounting.

Shagna, I think it's commendable what you do. That's quite a service
and I'm sure it can be a thankless job at times but brings great rewards
at other times. That is THE hardest and trying age range for a young
person - not to mention having behavior issues on top of it. You must be
a very unselfish person.

J