TO MANY YOUNG MEN OUT HERE SO IN TO TRYING TO BE A THUG THAT HIS DUMB
ASS FORGOT THE CONDOM AN FUCK SOME ANYWAY THEN WHEN SHE PREGO HE BOUNCES
AN SAYS LATER NO SHE PAYING IN HER OWEN WAY BUT WHAt he doing not a
damn thing ,so hell ya if the nigga hit it raw nigga needs to get a job
a atleast support his creation babys stuff ain't cheap' so to all dead
beat dadys that i know get the fuck up a show ur lil shorty baby some
love. xoxoxxoxo hugs an kisses kittykatmama

a real man may leave a women but not his kids

hell i'm raising my son on my own because his father walked out on us
when he was a month old. i haven't seen any money from the asshole ever.
so i told him flat out, if he wants to see his son he can either take me
to court or start giving me some money to raise his son.

Sorry mommyjeni

I think think it is right to keep a child from its parent. All that does
is hurt the child try putting the child first. I am also a mother and my
sons father has not paid his childsupport for 6 years i have raised him
on my own. But i would never keep him from his dad that would just hurt
my son

coulnt agree more with heather! they deserve to see their child it just
hurts the kids. Its their fault if they dont choose to help.

WELL PERSONALLY WITH MY SON,HIS DAD HAS BEEN IN AND OUT,HE HASNT CALLED
ALL SUMMER BUT THEN HE'LL JUST POP UP OUT OF THE BLUE AND WANT TO BE DAD
AGAIN...THIS REALY CONFUSES MY CHILD..HIS DAD IS A DEADBEAT YEAH HE PAYS
CHILD SUPPORT,IF HE CANT BE HERE THEN HE CAN ATLEAST HELP OUT FINACIALLY
A LITTLE

Ok heres the deal i pay every week for the support of my child and it
truely upsets me when i hear of fathers that dont pay!!THEY SHOULD AND
IF THEY DONT THEY NEED TO BE IN JAIL!!But unless a child is in danger
he/she should never be kept from a parent not over money..

well put terry! your a good guy! and i bet a great daddy!

Well thank you kay i dont know if i am a great daddy but i am a PROUD
one!!

i do too terry so dont feel bad when you get shit on by your ex

WOW...I guess what I want to say is it takes 2 people...you should have
made sure he wore the condom for 1 thing. The way you talk in your blog
is very racist..but hey thats my opinion.
You should take him to court and make him pay child support, but never
keep him away from the child..in the long run the children are the ones
to suffer. I have 2 boys that I have raised on my own for the last 9
wonderful years by myself. I must say, I have 2 great boys...next year,
my oldest is off to Purdue....so good luck!!

unsure condoms break!

I agree that a child should not be kept from there Dad. But I also don't
agree with the parents using the children against the other either!! My
ex is like that and a dead beat dad!!! The other is the guys where child
support catches up with them and then boom there gone onto another job
and we start all over again!!

They need to pay period end of story, saddly alot don't. I am very
active in trying to collect child support for my kids. Dispite 10 years
of marriage and having regular visits with the kids my ex thinks that
"being a dad has nothing to do with money" and so he will not pay.
$6500 behind now.

But my kids don't know any of this. As far as they are concerned daddy
is the greatest guy on the planet. It is not easy to put all the nasty
stuff to the side but you really have to if you are going to do what is
right for your kids.

I hear alot about dead beat dads, but what about dead beat mothers. My
ex walked out on us knowing I am disabled and fighting for my disability
so I had no personal income. She refuses to pick up the papers to show
up in court. She now lives just across the county line yet has all her
info writen down as her father's address. I have told the county
officers where she lives but they said they can not serve her at her
girlfriends house because according to them she does not live there and
she no longer has a JOB. Yet people tell me to be a dad and not even try
to make her pay child support. One of my aunts at a family function
threw her drink at me and my brother when she over heard us talking
about child support. She had to pay child support from her second
divorce and got child support from her first one. She put her first
husband in jail when he lost his job and got behind yet she whined and
bitched about having to pay it. Why is it ok for a woman to complain
about not getting help from the father but a man can not ask a mother to
pay a cent without getting resistance? I have to say this is my biggest
pet peeve about getting a divorce. It takes 2 to make a baby. Who ever
gets the kids should get help no matter what parent gets them.

I still let her see the kids but have a rule that her gf can not be
around them for a few reasons. Like others have said you only hurt the
kids by taking the other parent out of the picture.

You know what honeyrobber I agree with you 100%. But to me I could never
pick up and leave my kids behind. That is my world. Any mother that
could do that is not wanting to take her responsibility. And I do know
some mothers like that and it is sad. But I say Hell yeah!! to you for
taking on the responsibility. It takes a hell of a man to do that!!

Too many cenerios and no deep enough answers: Many sperm donors are just
that, and when they feel guilty they take it to the Mother to make her
feel guilty.

I say if you make a baby, you have to be a man and make a life for that
child. If you aren't man enough to stay in a relationship with the
Mother, and you don't support the baby with love and money, then you are
not a Father or a Dad. You are a donor!

There is no place in a childs life for a donor that keeps coming back to
see where he spilled it. That is mean and distructive to the child.

if the child is to have any normal chance at life he will need a Dad,
and it is pretty much assured that if the Mother is anything at all she
will get married or have a relationship with a MAN that will love her
and the baby as well.

That is a man, one who loves his own and will do what ever is necessary
to make a life for that child.

I think that if the dad has the kids the mother needs to pay my dad
raised my sisters on his own and never got one cent from their mother.
She has never spent one day in jail either and my sisters were 2 and 5
when she booted they are now 18 and 21. That is so wrong and at the same
time my dad never kept the girls from their mom. Now my x did not pay
any child support for 6 years he is over 20,000 dollars behind. Mother
or father it does not matter they both need to pay.

Chuck,well put!!I couldn't agree with you more.

yeah totally they should be in jail and they do get put in jail i have a
six year old and i do have money takin out of my check for my son every
week but its not just finances and material that make a man.and children
should not be used in arguments or problems they have with each other
leave them out of the arguments cause thats just as unhealthy no matter
what my ex did to me or how wrong it was she is still my sons mother and
we all have to remember its not about us anymore its about our son and
whats best for him you cant let your children hear the mean things you
may have floatin in the back of your mind cause those are your problems
and not the childs the childs well being comes first and formost its
about the kids and the reason is most kids are smart they will grow up
and learn on theyre own what kind of person the dead beat is