for me the younger the better because young ones have more passion and fresher.but i dont mind dating an older lady

A woman in her late 30s who is anxious to have kids, may have to understand that her 25 year old bf may not be in such a hurry, regardless of how loudly her biological clock is ticking.

A twenty something year old woman or man may discover that their vibrant fiftysomething year old bf/gf may be a lot less vibrant or healthy 20 years down the road at 70 than they were in their 50s,

In other words, people have to be aware that a shift in age is often accompanied by a sharp shift in priority, and a couple needs to be onthe same page where their priorities in life are concerned.

People should be with whoever makes them happy (once its legal), but its important to have an awareness of the common age gap incompata bilities that could sabotage the longevity of a relationship (if longevity is something that both parties are hoping for.

Well, it's never REALLY been about age. It's always been about compatibility of goals and lifestyles and tastes.

But since people change as they gain experience, and become more certainly themselves, age has always worked as a sort of quick-check, to sort away some of the more obvious bad matches.

I've found that there are basically two kinds of people who want to ignore age. There are of course the predators, who want to ignore age because they want to chase the most innocent and inexperienced people they can find, and use them for selfish entertainment. But the larger group is the ones who haven't really thought things through all that thoroughly.

I know that I can get along extremely well with anyone whose been through enough life to understand that nothing is easy or simple, and who have learned about themselves thoroughly enough that they are stable and honest. But I also realize that a thirty year old woman is unlikely to find a sixty-three year old not rich guy's life fulfilling enough to commit the dedication and work needed to make a go of things.

Basically, I do agree that age is only indirectly linked to real compatibility, but it's still true that in a larger sense, it IS a real concern.

Yeah, sure. He's white NOW. What color was he before he became your ex?

Just kidding.

Growing up where I did, mostly in the South, but with a strong foreign element, I found that inter-ANYTHING relationships could be tricky or easier. The racism around me was so intense in those days was a big problem. Everyone hated everyone, and everyone thought they were oh-so-wonderful themselves. There could be more cultural differences between two Americans, than there was between people from different parts of the world entirely.

I guess the main thing I would be concerned about, is that I've seen some cases where the reason why two people THOUGHT they were a perfect fit for each other, was because both of them thought that the reason for each other's behavior was something other than what it was. Such as thinking that someone is always doing things for you because they care so deeply about you, and discovering later that what was really going on, was that they were culturally certain that you were their PROPERTY, and that they had to do everything for you, because you are naturally simple-minded.

It's all part of the overall lesson that it's the WHY of things, which determines how a relationship will go, more than the WHAT of things.

If you fall in love with someone it doesn't matter what nationality they are in my opinion. Some of the challenges can be religious differences, certain faiths require conversion to a common faith within a marriage, or families can request it before giving their blessing, so you may need to think about your own faith and the future relationship with both families.

I eant seriously relationship

Nothing wrong with interacial relationships. You just have to respect the cultural differences and sensitivities ,.and prepare for some of the racial insults or judgments you will receive from some members in society.

But I think that principle of understanding differences and preparing for external judgment also applies to large age gap relationships and wide contrast in academic /attainment as well.
You and the person have.to do what feels right for you after all is said and done