((((((((((((( M))))))))))))))))) long time no talk. I hope all is well.

Well, I think you are a doll Dark

I dont see it as a issue at all. But some men who are small weather it
be short or thin think they need to do things to feel more manley for
some reason. I am not saying all smaller men, just the ones I have dated
lol.

oops typos. Hispanics

I am 5'7 and the men I date are always taller but just thin and
small.\Hummm maybe time for a change.
I always have liked huspanics and most of them seem to be smaller then I
am. Time to be more open minded.

Great job!! I work with adolescents in a locked facility with drug
problems.
I would celebrate and go to a meeting!
Hats off to you for being so strong.

Why do you think men have such a chip on their shoulders for being so
small? I seem to date smaller men and almost all of them have that
syndrome and I dont think there is need as I accept them for who they
are.
The last man I dated felt the need to carry a gun 24/7 and that pushed
me away with all the other controling aspect he had.
What are your thoughts on this?
Maybe I just need to date larger men lol

Haha yeap off for 2 months probally back on for another 2 years lol.
Thats ok I am in no rush to get involved, Dating that guy made me
realize a few things so I look at it is a learning experience. One that
my heart can open to another man other then my ex husband, 2 that I will
not allow a man to control me or treat me like **** and most important
is that I am happy with myself to where I dont need a man.
Even though it didnt work out with him and I, I learned a few things
along the way. Yeah me lol
Gonna miss the sex though! Damn

Thank you but I am not sorry at all. I am glad I saw the flags within
the first 2 months and not in 2 years! It has always been pretty easy
for me to walk away from a bad relationship other then my 11 year
marriage. I guess 11 years of hell has made it easier for me to bail out
early enough within a bad relationship.
I know when the right man comes along it will be my time, until then
live life to its fullest.

Well, I was dating a man for about 2 month and I broke up with him
tonight as he called me a not so nice name. It is nice to know I will
not put up with a mans ****!
I wish more people would understand how presious they are and that they
deserve to be treated with respect. I am not saying all people allow
other to walk all over them, I am just making a general statement saying
YOU ARE ALL SPECIAL, dont ever allow anyone to treat you different.
I am back on the market lol
S

Thank you all! It is a slow recovery and I am a stubborn ass but I am
doing what I need so I dont have to go through a 3rd surgery lol

Just popping in to say a small hello as it has been awile! Things are
well. I had my 2nd knee surgery a few days ago and that sucks. I am
still dating the same man so that doesnt suck lol. So many new faces
here now. I kind of miss the old times, but I am sure all the new people
are great! Hope the drama has faded!
S

I LOVE SONIC!

Welcome newbies!!!
I am just a old fart who pops in here and there!!

I personally feel both of you need to communicate on a stronger level
and discuss the feelings involved with the importance to her with
wanting to see you and then talk to her about why you are not ready.
I think you might be scared to see her as things might not be the same
and she might want to see you so soon as she might be on the rebound.
My current boyfriend has taught me not to allow fear to guide your life.
I say go see her and then make a decission on where it needs to go.

It is just so sad that others insecurities play such a big role in
things. I would think 2 people would want to work on them as a team not
against one another.

Thank you, I just didnt want to self doubt myself. I knew what he was
doing was wrong but I just wanted someone elces thoughts on it.

OK I just finished crying my eyes out but I am done and OK now. I just
want to know why.....
I met a man online a month ago and him and I connected on EVERY level.
We talked for hours on end everyday and we went out on the weekends and
had a great time.
A little background on us so you might be able to give me some insite
here.
I have lost over 90 pounds in the last 11 months and I am so proud of
myself but I still have some insecurities about my body. He was married
to a lady who was very large so that didnt bother him.
Latley he has almost been playing a game with me as he wants to push me
to feel so comfortable with him on all aspects so he has been pushing me
to get over my body insecurity. Almost like, "if you love me enough you
wouldnt feel insecure with me" Do men not know if women are insecure
about their body it takes time to feel comfortable with a man in that
aspect? Why push us?
He had told me his wife was so insecure it caused problems in their
marriage.
I might have my insecurities but that doesnt get in the way of me being
with someone on a intiment level.
I kind of feel I was a challenge to him and since he didnt win it was
put on me? He would play games to see if I was sinsere to him. I called
him on it tonight and told him I can no longer see him as it was making
me uncomfotable feeling I had to over come something to keep him around.
He said insecurity turned him off.
Do men really have that hard of a time with a women being self consious
or was it his own insecurity?
I am glad I cut it off now as my feelings were getting pretty strong.
I had a few tears but I will make it through it again as always lol

OLD SCHOOL here, pass me a shot!!

If you dont like your spouce going out with her friends then either you
are very insecure or you dont trust her, so what is the marriage based
on?