It depends on whether or not they try to use that intellect to make others (including me) feel stupid. Brains are sexy. Mean spirits are not.

Sometimes I think I'm a bit too picky about who I'll go out with.

Try Kmart the people there are not so, hhhmmmm stuck up like at WalMart. At least you will not have to dress up to go to Kmart.
Not like Walmart golly gee !!!!

That will happen.. Kinda nice reading these forums though. Nice to know you arent the only one with headaches... I do appreciate the critisim. Helps you look at things from another perspective.

Thanks Again!

Just a constructive suggestion?



First, make sure that you state that you have four kids that do live with you in your profile, you might now, but I haven't looked at it yet, sorry. Second, when you FIRST start talking to someone, mention again the fact of the children, and they are your first priority, and although you are not looking for a replacement mother, they have to understand that they need to be able to cope with them, and even if they don't come to love them as their own, you all come as a package deal. If you are talking to them for a while and they decide they can't handle that, there would be no need to even meet. I guess I don't understand why they would meet you knowing you had the kids, THEN decide they didn't want to continue, because of them? I would definately not meet someone right away though, try to build at least a little something online and over the phone BEFORE you actually meet. That way you can determine if they might really be serious, and can handle your situation. Talk a bit about them, your life together, things you do as a family, etc., but also discuss how someone coming into the mix can fit in and make everyone's life richer. Maybe (?) they feel as if they are walking into the situation and are going to be kind of ambushed by all these children and feel as if she will be expected to take over the mom role. For a lot of people, "men and women", it can be a little scary when the other person has children-the added resposibility, worry that others might see certain actions or behaviors as infringement or out of line, it could turn into a damned if you do damned if you don't kind of thing. But try to get the feel of the person pretty well before you even meet, that way no one will feel as if their time has been wasted.


And...yes, maybe word things a little differently. JMO.

Thank you! I was in school, but I did not attend this summer, because I am ready to go back to work. I have been submitting resumes,filling out application and even went on two interviews and no luck. I am not going to give up though. I am going to hang in there and I believe someone is going to hire me. I wish they will hurry up, because I miss working.

Seeing how the job market is around here, I think it's easy for someone with a job to tell someone else who is looking for one to just stop being lazy. Though, I also think there are jobs out there to be found, as long as someone is very serious about working, no matter the job.

she should be getting top honors here!!!!, not jackson!