Snowed In. (if it doesn't snow near you....a reasonable similar situation will do ... uhm flood?)

Keep it clean!

How do you spend the day?

Me? Aside from shoveling a little...I listen to some random music player on the internet or watch anime.

No.

I don't think I've missed it.

It was... right person... wrong time, kind of thing.

The right person at the right time will come....

I think the time is finally right... now I am giving it a chance again. I'm more than a little terrified at the idea having to "date" because I don't really "date" well.

I'm a quiet person so chattering and socializing isn't really my forte. I'm more of a "if it clicks" person.

Love is ... wonderful. One person for One person for one lifetime? Miss that train and you never get to ride? never. no. There are so many wonderful people out there... that's why spending the rest of your life with someone is okay. You're not missing anything if you're happy.

Just be smart enough to be happy once you found love.

Nope but I think it might be a good idea!

Do you have a pet?

You might as well ask: Why are we here in the first place?

Why are we afraid? there are so many reasons. I guess the main reason is we're afraid of getting hurt. we're afraid of hurting someone else. we're afraid of making choices. we're afraid of regrets and disappointments. we're afraid of hope. we're afraid of being vulnerable. we're afraid of showing weakness. we're afraid of seeing weakness.

we can take the romance in concept, most of us. and almost all of us can say we can deal with it, but deep down... there are thoughts.

I can deal with most aspects of love and relationships, but the one killer for me has always been marriage.

I'm afraid of weddings. I'm afraid of the dress. I'm afraid of walking down the aisle. Terrified actually. Always have been.

My secret is out.

I don't know how to flirt. I am not good at "putting out the signals."

Advice?

(Totally miserable over the idea of dating, HATE dating)

honestly I don't know what to do... which is why I signed up to this website.

I don't know how to flirt.

What I want:

mutual Consideration
A companion... someone to care for
someone to care for me
someone to be proud of
someone I adore
shared nights
shared quiet, shared noise
someone to think of
someone to clean for
someone to smile for
someone to cheer for
yes of course, love ... a bounty of it

You make perfect sense.

well considering I have lived a responsible life without baggage and nothing that prevents me from dropping everything and taking off... but honestly, I have nothing to really run from.

Oh you mean I'm going into the witness protection program?! uhm....

Oh safety is a must! I'm not saying that sexuality should be something that we should cheapen by going with anyone simply for the sake of the freedom of it, however I don't think it's a marriage only thing.

It is nice to see someone recognizing that sex is something that isn't necessarily dirty and that it is separate from love. I see sex as physical and love as something so completely beyond that.

If I fell in love with everyone I was willing to sleep with? I'd have very little heart left.

If I slept with everyone I wanted to? I'd probably lose interest in it. (Like finally kissing that hot guy I liked in High School to find out he was the WORST KISSER EVER! Big disappointment. Thinking about it was much better)

I'm not being clear here... but I think the bones of what I'm trying to say are exposed enough.

Sex and Love.... So different from each other... but if they are in the same relationship... everything is SO much better. However it is not necessarily a must.

A very good question.

I'm a very devoted and loyal person. I'm not the sort of person who needs to be impressed every day. There doesn't need to be proof that I'm the center of the universe all the time and in fact I would be uncomfortable with that.

This is hard to answer. Every relationship is different. I've been in very few relationships and they were all long term ones. Each one was so different and each guy I was with needed something different from me.

All I know I'm not the type of person that likes to go out all the time, so I'm not a good match for someone who needs to go out and about every night.

I've been independant for a long time and without a relationship long enough to know that I'm ready to give it another try now... so after all this blabbering... I guess the best thing I can bring... is consideration.

Yes. Consideration. Of feelings of situation. Of indivuality. etc.

I don't participate in Drama.

Should women?

Love. It is very much real, however not many people are willing to put the honesty on the line to actually find the match.

To the Original Poster: I think what you say about love and sex is valid. However, the messages have always been mixed up. "proper sex" as you stated was supposed to be achieved when we waited and got married and were ready to have children. Is that proper sex or is that proper love? or is that a mutually respectful situation where a healthy sexual relationship can safely be explored where consequences can be more easily predicted and their outcomes mutually handled?

There are arguments for both sides. The people who wait...and the people who don't. Personally I don't see the point of waiting.

Sex should never be wrapped up in mystery. It shouldn't be confused with sin. It shouldn't be judged or used as any sort of currency. It should be enjoyed. It's primal. It's healthy. It's human.

Love. That can be spiritual. It's healthy. It's bonding. It's mysterious. It's unique. Expressive. Almost akin to an art. It can be subtle. It has a currency. It has value and should be treasured and not wasted and not confused with sex.

So that's my view points on your subject, for what my opinion is worth...which is about nothing. Because what is valid for me is not valid for another person... and so I'm just talking to talk.

Well off my soapbox.

Sorry if I bored anyone.