I don't know how to flirt. I am not good at "putting out the signals."

Advice?

(Totally miserable over the idea of dating, HATE dating)

I don't know either.

all I can say is just be yourself. let your inner beauty shine through and do your talking. when you have confidence...even if you are shy...you can still radiate the glow.

but...think about this...you say hi to someone...what is the worst that can happen? maybe rejected...maybe not but you won't know until you try. you don't have to flirt, just be yourself. then you will will start to not be as shy.

I was a shy girl growing up...now you would never know it lol. I talk to everyone and if they don't like me...ok

That's why I don't date. I never got the whole flirting and chasing and all that other stuff.

I would rather just go out with someone and not call it a date or anything.

group of friends

i am SO shy its why ive been single for one year

Put a picture up, preferably of yourself... Then the guys come running!

Ok, let me go check out yer profile, then I will come back and tease you a bit, you tease me back, and that's how it starts...!

Nothing to it, really.

If you don't know how to flirt, don't do it. Don't worry about putting out any damn "signals". Just be yourself and have fun.

If I don't get approached I don't bother, but that's just me & the big reason I've been single for a long time.

So, "quiet" is one of your hobbies... Interesting!

I'm quite intrigued. Tell me more...

just be yourself

I don't like dating either...and meeting people off of these sites is hard..

OMGarsh, you ARE shy...!

So, when are we to expect a picture of you on your page?

Just look at my pic. You can't possibly be any worse looking than me, with the gap in my teeth and that uni-brow...

Come on now, don't be shy!

I'm shy as well and won't normaly go up to a woman.

I although find it a lot easier to speak to women online vs face to face, I guess that way I am not too nervous etc doing it online vs off line.

eventually I'll get a pic.. though I hate cameras.

Face to face contact is so intimidating. I'm not good on first dates especially. Never had a "good" first date.. actually quite surprised I've ever been asked out more than once.

Well, you must have had atleast one good first date, if you've been asked out more than once, no?

Also, Why would someone not want to date you more than once?

A good swift kick in the butt usually gets their attention.

1. fallen on my face
2. ruined my blouse with a milkshake
3. so nervous, I kissed him in the first 5 minutes so that I could stop shaking and then I broke a shoe when I fell off the curb
4. hiccups
5. stuttered
6. etc etc etc

you get the idea.....

I don't know how to flirt, either. I've been told it looks like I've got a bad tick on my face or I've gone all spastic when I try to flirt.

So don't even bother flirting. Just go right up and start trying to make with the conversation.

I think being shy may be better than the alternative

Don't waste your time on loyalty or sincerity.....

think of it like furniture...sure it is great when it is new...nice when it is comfortable...and when it gets old...it gets replaced.

If you are gonna date..do it cause it makes you happy.