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Glossophobia...
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difficult to overcome in 20 mins... but some quick tips...
1. accept that you will be nervous - feel the emotion of being nervous... embrace your nervous if you can... and try to breathe... 2. when you get up in front of everyone, pick 1 or 2 people in the audience that are "friendly" to you - speak only to them, look only at them... 3. Breathe... 4. realize, noone can see how nervous you are -- only you feel the nervous... you may think you are babbling, but to the audience it's not so bad as your self-perception 5. Breathe... 6. realize, it will be all over and done with in a few minutes :)... 7. Oh, don't forget to Breathe!! good luck! $.02 
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He asked me 2 be his Wife?
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good luck to you, seems you might need it!
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So how do I tell him...
Edited by
AGoodGuy1026
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Mon 03/22/10 01:00 PM
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Exactly that.... "You are a really lovely man....however, you are not 'it' for me...thankyou for the wonderful opportunity to meet you and learn of you....goodbye." Yep! You hurt him less by telling him the truth. You are not responsible for his feelings, he is responsible for his feelings. $.02
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want others thoughts on this
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no i am the only employee on salary that is working these kinda hours understood. This is a touchy situation... first thing, is that you cannot make them see your point - they will have to do that for themselves. If your management is approachable - you may want to discuss it, but I would suggest no ultimatums or speaking of leaving. Try to find a way to describe the situation - while still being "pro company". If you threaten to leave, they may make the choice for you. I am un-sure if some underlying issue is at hand or not... but communicating your concerns in a way that is positive may yield the best results. Perhaps consider taking the approach of asking if they can provide insight into how long this situation is forseen to continue (i.e. is this a temporary glut in workload?)... If you are the "goto" guy in your shop, this is both a blessing and a curse... Alternatively, management may be trying to get work done without hiring... Basically, it's almost a no win for you... if you continue without saying anytyhing - you work lots of hours, but if you do say something you may be labelled as "dis-loyal". I wish you the best of luck... $.02
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want others thoughts on this
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it is not un-common for salaried management to be expected to put in 60 hours per week (in my industry)... do other managers/foreman work 60 hour weeks, or are you being treated differently.. .??
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HI>>>NEWBIE>
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what's popping
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my mood, happy "as a clam" I am!
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LOVE IS TOLERANCE?
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OP: Nope...
Love is love, tolerance is tolerance... completely different. If you have to tolerate someone, I don't think you love them as much as someone that you would accept... From Websters online: tol·er·ance /ˈtɒlərəns/ Show Spelled[tol-er-uhns] Show IPA –noun 1.a fair, objective, and permissive attitude toward those whose opinions, practices, race, religion, nationality, etc., differ from one's own; freedom from bigotry. 2.a fair, objective, and permissive attitude toward opinions and practices that differ from one's own. 3.interest in and concern for ideas, opinions, practices, etc., foreign to one's own; a liberal, undogmatic viewpoint. 4.the act or capacity of enduring; endurance: My tolerance of noise is limited. |
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Edited by
AGoodGuy1026
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Thu 03/18/10 09:31 AM
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interesting post, and responses.... time for me to chime in (because I can LOL!)...
First - to the OP: Gotta relate to much of what you have said. It's difficult to find companionship - perhaps a change in strategy will help you out! I have dated from 15 years younger than me - to 7 years older than me... What I truly find - physical age does not = emotional age. Sure, in general it is true, but a woman who asks about marriage before dinner is served (in my book) has some emotional growth to achieve... Generally speaking, if you both feel good about what is going on - F*** everyone else. As to the point of "young women's BS detectors are not fully developed" - I think this is true in many cases, however - some young women are "old souls" and are wise beyond thier years... Just as some "older women" have the maturity level of a 5 year old... I do think there is a double standard between women and men on this issue (where it is acceptable for older women to date younger men, but not visa versa)... not sure that these things would ever change... Me, personally? It's fun dating younger! :) To all the "nay sayers" get off your high horse(s), and join the rest of us human beings here down on the ground. Who are we to judge others, and how they achieve happiness. Everyone deserves to be happy in life. $.02
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What the heck is BBW mean?
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imho: your build is athletic (muscled)... nothing wrong with that, I agree with others here you are attractive...
I have often wondered this myself... from skinny to large my personal opinion is: 1. slender (crackhead looking skinny 2. average (normal woman, average size, proportional hips and chest) 3. athletic (maybe larger than normal, but firm and toned with muscle) 4. a few extra lbs (normal woman, average sized, proportional but may have some extra weight... some may consider this "chubby") 5. full figured (sized 16-18, larger, big breasted, big booty, often with big hair LOL) 6. bbw anything more - but still healthy and with some proportion 7. morbidly obese - un-healthy and going to die from complications of being over weight (having difficulty breathing, high blood pressure) I think the same categories can be applied to men, although they are not considered "bbw's" but "larger men"... to each his own, this is what I think when I hear these terms... $.02
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IM NOT WEARING ANY....
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interestingly enough, blue was the original St. Patrick's day celebratory color... green evolved... (literally over hundreds of years)... $.02
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Lover vrs. Lovee
Edited by
AGoodGuy1026
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Wed 03/17/10 10:35 AM
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good topic, thought provoking...
IMHO: I think that many times, yes - it is not balanced... for many many reasons (mostly centering around the fact that one in the pairing is many times settling)... but when two people meet who had no expectations, or even realization that each other could be for them - it tends to be more equal. i think it would tend to be more even when no "pre-requisite criteria" are in play, less analysis - and more "natural" interaction... expectations and analysis (I agree) can "kill it"... before "it" has a chance to begin... so I would say in general "yes" - unbalanced seems to be more of reality for many, but when it's equal, it sure is grand -- is it not? $.02
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happy st.patricks day
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Yay! It's the Luck of the Irish Day! And I'm not Irish, so I guess I'm not getting any of the luck.  Oh well!  j/k
No worries, "Everyone is Irish on St. Patrick's Day!!!".... $.02
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dating interview
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i don't think i'd ask questions during the initial emails and/or meets. i'd much rather just see if i enjoyed the flow the conversation. I hear you those 100 questions are for the birds hell I would much rather just let the talk flow like it does in a normal conversation. To me that tells you a hell of a lot more about the person................heck lets see if we even want to be friends before you ask me my whole life history I may not want you in my world...........  
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SEXY
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sexy to me... a woman who can speak her mind, but not be a b*tch... a woman who can drink a beer at a bar - or a glass of water, a woman who is confident and sure of herself, but girly at the same time... a woman with a cute laugh, a big smile - and a happy disposition...
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"Types" are overrated
Edited by
AGoodGuy1026
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Mon 03/15/10 01:21 PM
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You need to be attracted to a person for a relationship... 
perhaps consider there is less divorce in arranged marriages (if in fact this is true) - due to cultures that implement arranged marriages - are NOT tolerant of divorce... you assume all arranged married couples are blissfully happy - and do not have the problems (infidelity, abuse) that non-arranged marriages do... $.02
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"Types" are overrated
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One thing that'll help people on the single road, is to realize that "types" are overrated. Yes, there is always going to be a certain physical or personality characteristic that you will be inevitably drawn to, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't give people without those characteristics a chance. Your heart is going to be drawn to whatever it feels the most connected to, and more often than not, you can't control that. What do you say, why not let your heart decide? I agree on most points. I very much agree that sometimes, it is surprizing to whom you are attracted... I let my heart decice the "heart aspects", my brain decide the "intellectual aspects", my body decide the "physical aspects" and my spirit decide the "spiritual aspects"... What I find, is an initial attraction based on one of the "four aspects"... and then I get to know someone to see if the other three are there in any real way.... I listed to all four parts - however, it seems to take some time to get enough information on the remaining three... make sense? This is just me btw... who knows if I am right or not LOL... $.02
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What is groping?
Edited by
AGoodGuy1026
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Fri 03/12/10 12:49 PM
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IMHO: from the laypersons perspective (mine)....
groping - grabbing someone's junk (even if they want you too - I think it's still called groping - just no negative implications) sexual harassment - creating an environment that makes someone uncomfortable within a sexual context, or makes demands for sexual content of some sort in order to remain employed, move ahead... ect Examples... Male aid walks into Senators office, and the senator grabs his junk = groping (grabbing of junk) Male aid walks into Senators office every day, and the senator grabs his junk every day = groping (grabbing of junk) + sexual harassment (creation of an environment that is uncomfortable to the aid) Male aid walks into Senators office, and the Senator says "show me your junk, or your fired" = sexual harassment (creating and environment that is uncomfortable to the aid) One interesting point - even if aid #1 (the one being groped) likes it, and has no problem with it... aid #2 can still sue for sexual harassment - becuase they are uncomfortable with what is going on between the Senator and aid #1 - it is not always direct involvement. This being said, I think groping by defenition is always "direct"... and would only affect aid #1 $.02
p.s. please, no grabbing of my junk without permission |
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Feeling real down
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it's FRIDAY!!!
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Edited by
AGoodGuy1026
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Thu 03/11/10 11:30 AM
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I can see several reasons why two people would consider entering into this type of relationship
Hence the original pondering and subsequesnt solicitation of opinion... FWB OR Relationship... are they really different?... Perhpas a better question would have been, "FWB - is it a relationship"... or even, "how do you define a relationship"... (Oy Vey my head is starting to hurt 
I guess it's all about what each person thinks, and what was agreed upon that defines the "relationship"... Interesting.... $.02
So, how do you define a relationship? Yes, good question indeed... thank you for asking it... Me, personally... I define being in a romantic relationship with a woman to be when both communicate their interest and intent to be emotionally and physically monogamous, committed... not to say "committed to marry" but "committed to each other" to the exclusion of others... For me, before that is just dating... but, that's my opinion and how I live my life... others may differ and I find it interesting to hear what those difference are. 
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