I am so sorry that this happened to you Kitty.It's not right:{
I would've posted "The Perp"-The Following Letter:

Dearest [Pervert]
Many Thanks For The Invitation.
Please provide your address so I can properly
respond to such Inspiring & Alluring Pictures;}
See U Real Soon SweetMeat!
!Muah!
Lorena Bobbitt

This is Great!

I should really be asked to provide a positive response to A Lame Monosyllabic Post of "Hi"? Duhhhhhhhhhh!
NOT! I ask myself; "What type of person with any manner of any intelligence would even think to open conversation with such a "Beavis & Butt-Head approach to dialogue"?



Sad because many of the profiles that men have posted, only contain this "Hi" as a heading with nothing else offered in their "About Me" section. I say to that mindset; "Why bother...?" I'll wager that many of these individuals are the same fellows whining about a "lack of responses:{"

A Bit Naughty B ut Funny

Tolstoy begins his celebrated novel, Anna Karinina with these words. "All happy families resemble one another. Each unhappy is unhappy in its own way." To my mind, each individual is unique. We should maintain our identity as much as possible. Trying to become somebody else is the right recipe for failure. I will listen to my partner carefully and move accordingly. Listening is an art in itself. You must listen to spoken words and gustures with equal and profound interest."


The Art of Listening is wonderful but that Art presumes that there is a need for conversation[talking] for you to practice your art of Listening What happens when I just don't want Talk-To Anyone?
I don't care if the individual has a Doctorate in Listening skills; I don't want to talk, " Now Please Could You Leave? Don't make This Get Weird, OK?... JUST GET THE FRACK OUTTA MY SPACE!!!"



"The writer of the original article says how her parents had a sort of unhappy and unhealthy relationship. You can look at others and learn from them. There is not a big university as life is."


Irregardless of observed turmoil & trama in one's formative years; there is a way to understand that event as an adult in a non-destructive & rational context.Healing from such unfortunate beginning doesn't mean that the pain goes away; it just means that the individual's behaviors are no longer dictated by, controlled or sabotaged by that experience.
Blaming, "People, Places, & Experiences" from the distant past is a coward's way of justifying his/her negative behaviors instead of confronting the issue & trying to change.




"I shall conclude with a short story. Once there lived a man, his spouse and two sons. The man was a drunkard. He was a bully. He unleashed a reign of terror in his house. His elder son succeeded in imitating him. Ofcourse, he became much worse than his father had ever been. He ended up behind the bars. The younger man became a sharp contrast to that. He became a farmer and a local politician of immense reputation. Both of them said that their father had been their role models. The elder son copied his father while the younger learned from his father what he should never do."


It's got nothing to do with, Becoming Like or Rebelling Against Anyone; it's just about being, "True" to Yourself. Being, "Who" you are.
Some individuals are just happier & more content as solitary spirits. These individuals may select a hermetic & reclusive lifestyle. Society has told these individuals, "No, No, No! Something's Wrong, Must Be Wrong With People Like You! You Must Be : 1]-Anti-Social,2]- Deeply Neurotic, 3]-Afflicted with Personality Disorder, Psychotic, or *All Of The Above*. How Can Such Individuals Even Live In Contemporary Society Without An Android Cell Phone, Facebook, & Tweeter?!?"



Current statistics have shown that in the U.S. 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce.
But those statistics do not reflect the popular trend of individuals who choose to live together & break-up.
When cohabiting couples break up, this can be just as disruptive as divorce, these numbers don’t make it into the divorce rates.
The Times story also notes another interesting statistic: Women file for the majority of divorces (about two-thirds).
Economic independence makes it easier for women to leave a marriage.
But there might be another, simpler reason. Whelan reports,
"Married Men Are Happier Than Married Women.”

Ditto!
I find even the thought of such, repugnant, nauseating, & "creepy"

Superstitions?
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Harmless & comforting words, gestures, or actions that may provide an individual with a [false]sense of empowerment. This feeling of imagined empowerment , functions like a placebo being able to help an individual
cope with the unknown, chaotic, random events that one encounters in life.
Example:"Knocking On Wood". You'd better knock on wood after making certain boastful statements.
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Knocking on wood refers to the apotropaic[designed to avert evil]
tradition in western folklore of literally touching, tapping, or knocking on wood, or merely stating that you are doing or intend same, in order to avoid "tempting fate" after making a favorable observation, a boast, or declaration concerning one's own death or other unfavorable situation beyond one's control. The origin of this may be in Germanic folklore, wherein dryads are thought to live in trees, and can be invoked for protection.

I know that I definitely need an individual who has his own interests & passions outside of "what-ever relationship or involvement is going on in his life" & perhaps, like myself would be open & seek a "LAT"[Living Apart Together] arrangement . As an artist & an INTJ; MY OWN SPACE is as critical to me as oxygen. There are many times that I need to be alone in addition to the fact that my waking/sleep/eating cycles are very unconventional. It gives me much serenity when my environment reflects a certain orderliness, organization, cleanliness , & aesthetic. I am a smoker & enjoy good coffee & tobacco. Of course now a day, everyone is in high-gear hysteria that the slightest exposure to ciggie smoke will kill them on contact! OMG! My "HOME" is My Sanctuary-Not a Battlefield.

People reveal so much more about themselves than
they're consciously aware of. Of course, the individual has the most conscious control of the "words"they speak, but "words" in their literal context are of little relevance to any authentic understanding of the core identity of an individual. "Words" are the about least significant source of information, as what is unsaid, what is done, what is observed in the individual's body language can be of more importance than that of the spoken word.

Friendship? I think there are far too many variables involved in any
connection to another person & the timing factor to predict what the outcome will be.I can only share my own experience in the fact that friendship can only occur if Real Friendship really ever existed. When an ex mentioned this "friendship" option to me; I was honestly blown away!
I reminded him[*not the sharpest knife in the drawer*],that he'd literally had years when when were together,to be "My [A] Real Friend". So now that we've parted ways, he's talking-"Friendship" Heh?!? Of course I was also quick to remind him that as he had not been A Real Friend to me; he certainly should not consider me, as any "Real Friend" of his either. Better he consider taking "The Kind of Friendship[sic]" he offered onto a venue like Facebook where it would be more appreciated for what it really was...?

What? Me Worry?
No you won't.So I don't

Got Hives! Aggravated by distressing stimuli...

Op, just a quick observation. Given the state of your grammar, sentence structure, punctuation, & spelling? I'd strongly suggest that you get laid or wank-off As Soon As Possible!!!
BTW: Attempting to read such poor writing promotes festering & oozing sores to manifest over the entirety of my body... So please under No Circumstances delude yourself in the thought that I hold any interest in helping you raise your IQ score.

The experience sucks & so does the perpetrator! I'd be Hurt then Pissed as Hell! Erase his existence from consciousness & block him in total. What ever his reasons, excuses, or rationalizations are? Guess what? It's Not Your Problem-it's his issue, his alone, & only he owns it! Cheer up, it's always something...

"Topic: What do girls want?????"

"Girls" may want "Boys"; "Women" want "Men";}

My Exs'? They "taught"[taught= too, kind a word to use]-helped make me aware of just how much more "Inner-Self-Work & Learning" still needed to be done due to the deep-seated psychological & emotional adaptations that are demanded of children born into severely toxic, abusive, & dysfunctional "family" unit. Ah, the lottery of birth!
Pretty miffed [mostly at myself] about these " Life Lessons by Exs'"because after literally decades of therapy; I'd hoped to be completely aware of & over the, by now[tedious] psycho-trauma of those formitive years! Enough already; give the cops a rest! *grins*

There's such a thing as "Netquette"; this basically means:

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If any very disturbed pervert came over to you, say in the supermarket & told you that he liked yur breasts, azz, or wanted to lick you all over...What do you think you'd do? Would you feel somewhat violated, angry & call the authorities on the Creep? You bet you would! I would!
As far as the guys who send notes that refer only to aspects of my physical appearance? LOL! If The Physical is the only element of me-that interests them; I really can't be bothered. Seriously, that topic is shallow, boring, & at best-just corny & juvenile. Women are more than simple machines that men can insert trite, superficial compliments into until sex falls out;}

I don't think I'd use the term: " Temporal Compatibility" but, instead "Commonality" in terms of the individual's preferred life-style choices/habits. Diurnal or nocturnal activity is only but one of so very many of those behavioral preferences that over time may become quite impossible & uncomfortable to change. "Set-In -One's-Ways" is a common term that would describe the situation that I'm referring to. In my own individual case; the only type of intimate relationship that would stand a chance of success is commonly referred to as "LAT" or Living Apart Together. "LAT" is a term to describe couples who have an intimate relationship but live at separate addresses.



"LAT is also increasingly understood and accepted publicly, is seen by most as good enough for partnering, and subject to the same expectations about commitment and fidelity as marriage or cohabitation.When you meet someone later in life it’s hard to know the right way forward. The majority of over-60s are looking for love again after a death or divorce so the traditional notion of getting married, moving in together and having children doesn’t apply.It’s why many over-60s have chosen to be together but live apart. It sounds unusual but it’s a rising trend that more and more Australian couples are embracing, becoming so popular that it has its own acronym: LATs (living apart together). Demographer John Haskey of Oxford University defines LATs as having “separate addresses, [being] monogamous in nature and having more than a casual relationship."

Likewise.
Took 4 years to even see men as people, once with
a sociopath and you have to relearn trust.


Unfortunately sometimes one learns upon breaking-up, the real character & true nature of this "person" that you thought you knew.This was when I was struck with so many realizations not only in terms of who he really was but more importantly-some unwelcome insights into my own character.Painful, sad stuff that one never gets "over" but must get through. Over time, the hurt may be somewhat "Dulled" but it never completely disappears.
I have been without any significant romantic relationship for about 5 years now. Do I miss it? I suppose at times, in passing daydreams & fantasies, that would be true. But, the very real reality[not the passing fantasy] is that I am happier, more secure, & better off in so many more ways by myself[single]than I ever was with anyone who I had ever been partnered with. Go figure...