dating a married person is fraught with danger

I Have no interest in seperated women, i have seen too many get back with the ex and someones heart gets broken, going both ways, men and women!! i am serious but not in a hurry, haste makes waste.
and if they dont fit your mold do you change who you are so they will?? thanks, but no thanks. love me or leave me as i am, and i will do you the same, that will equal a match made in heaven. no offence but ill look and wait for that, and except no substuite. lol

Im still serious!!!!!!!!

I never have a problem finding women who are serious about a relationship.

However, I have extremely problems finding a woman who’s compatible with what I want in a relationship.

For me, it’s not about finding someone who’s serious. It’s about finding someone who’s compatible.

I can find women who want the normal rat-race lifestyle easy enough. But I’m done with that madness.

The woman I need now would be extremely Abby Normal. She would have to be extremely laid-back. Easy-going. Able to enjoy the simple things in life (and I’m talking rustic simple). And not need to be constantly entertained, either by me or via constant socializing.

She’d damn near need to an agoraphobic homebody, and ENJOY IT!

Then I’ll get as serious as she wants to get.

I’m not going to get serious about a rat-race woman who worships mammon and needs to be constantly entertained either by me or by constantly socializing.

So, I’m as serious as they come. But maybe not compatible with most women.

I need a blue-jean, T-shirt, flat-bottom-shoed, earthy homebody who's happy just to have a partner. Someone who can entertain herself reading, writing, or doing arithmetic.

Preferably one who has no kids, no parents, no friends, and no life. Maybe she fell to earth from a stalled spaceship or something.

Hey Abra, long time to read your type man,,How you been?? Its good to see your words...

I'm recovering from a near death experience. Though, don't take that too literally as I didn't actually die. I just came close.

I should be back to normal in about a week or two. Then look out! I might even sing some more songs.

Well, dating a married person takes the pressure off at least. You'll know you won't be proposing any time soon, that's for sure.

I'd discourage anyone married from divorcing any way. I think it's a bad idea except in cases of flagrant abuse or infidelity or like that.

And, you know what they say about being serious. Surely you must be joking, Mr. Feinman!

Yeah, the distance thing. I can relate. You talk or message with them for a long time and make the trip. Then you find out about new things you couldn't even of thought of. But those things become apparent then. But then it is too late because you have already committed yourself. It is a reality thing for sure then. Here you are miles from anybody you know but with someone you thought you knew.

I tried the long-distance thing with four different women. One required crossing the border into Canada shortly after 9/11. That was no fun!!!

None of them panned out. I've decided now that I'm only interested in dating local woman. Someone I can actually date without packing a suitcase. Unless some woman wants to traverse a long distance to come to me, I'm not going anywhere.

I feel sorry for guys who are waiting to get their final papers but yea if you have ever been dumped for one more try with the Ex you promise yourself you won't do it again.

Local is the way to go atleast in my opinion. I say I have quit looking but every time I would get some new looking person at work I would check them out. I thought with this one since we worked different hours that it wasn't that we were actually working together that there might be something there. It didn't pan out. She was sleeping while I was working and vice versa. No real days off in common. Besides that I think she was just toying with my affection. Nice friendship but nothing more than that. I think she just wanted to know if she was still attractive to the opposite sex. I think I comforted her ego.

I had one that got divorced..and then went back. Can you say "ouch". Apparently sometimes a divorce doesn't "take".

I'd travel to visit you. You have skills!

Divorce didn't take...Yeah, I have been there. Married her twice. 4 years the first time and 13 years the second time. Thought it might be different. It was different but the result was the same. The first time she got the house but the second time she got the car. I guess that was different. I am grateful to be alive. Divorce has taught me that you can't take it with you.

Sometimes guys go back to their wifes for other reasons than wanting to be married to them. like they want whats best for their kids. They can put up with the wife long enough to make sure their kids get a better start in life.

about the only exerince I have had with the distance thing is trying to buy a car off of ebay. from the photos and the owners description it looked like a really good deal. I took a all day drive to look at the car and im glad I didnt bid and get the car. the bottom line is seeing what your interested in real life is the only way to go. You need perosnal contact and to know if there is any chemistry. You never know what a person is like till you meet them in real life.

Hey I'm serious about a relationship, Love to have a
relationship, been divorced 4 years, She wlaked out on me,
don't know why, guess I never will. I'm nice guy, faithful honest. write me back if you want.

How long have you been seperated?I am divorced and looking for An LTR.

Serious comes as part of teh fun and foolishness in a relationship. Serious is when you can look at someone in the eyes and know it is time to put away foolish things and "Get Serious". Enjoy life, living happy and laughing often.... be silly and light.... the time for serious will come soon enough.

Words of wisdom from old chuck...hehehe!

I think a "serious" relationship is just one that never stops being fun.